okay so for the past few days I have been on Yik Yak all the time and basically trying to hook up with people. I just want to know what it is like to be touched. My days have consisted of non stop thoughts of getting felt up and I am putting talking to guys about trying to meet up before homework. I don't know what to do. I feel like just letting it happen, one sexual sin, would be better than living in these sexual thoughts constantly. It is controlling me and I need a way out. Nothing has worked in the past. I am even in counseling right now and it isn't helping. I think I have realized why I have these desires but I can't get them to stop. I am so lonely. I want to connect with someone who puts effort into me instead of me putting in the effort and getting nothing in return. I know Jesus is always there but I want someone here on this earth too. What do you guys think? Would it be better to just let someone feel me up(no actual intercourse), or to continue to live in this sin with no end in sight?
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Look for a 12 step support group called Celebrate Recovery.
Go to the weekly meetings. It will help you.
God bless.
Go to the weekly meetings. It will help you.
God bless.
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The way God shows for overcoming is both His Word and His presence. A true "born again" believer in the Lord Jesus has a wonderful resource in Him. Are you truly "born again" (John 3) and devoted to the Lord Jesus? ---see John 14. One needs Him in their thoughts constantly as not only the Savior, but our best Friend and power and strength. It is a personal relationship constantly.
Sexual attractions are normal (and stimulated more today by society in every way, which God hates), so one must work to reduce the stimulation, which means also to avoid worldly activities and people who know not the Lord Jesus. God says to bring every thought to Him (read 2 Cor. 10:5). I will pray for you.
Another thought here: make friends with godly believers and get into sound Christian fellowships for activities. Be sure to begin every day reading God's Word in the New Testament.
Sexual attractions are normal (and stimulated more today by society in every way, which God hates), so one must work to reduce the stimulation, which means also to avoid worldly activities and people who know not the Lord Jesus. God says to bring every thought to Him (read 2 Cor. 10:5). I will pray for you.
Another thought here: make friends with godly believers and get into sound Christian fellowships for activities. Be sure to begin every day reading God's Word in the New Testament.
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Just some quick thoughts:
--when I am lonely or bored is when I most am vulnerable to lust and to fantasy. Do you have other ideas about how to get your needs for meaning or connection met, a need underneath the desire to be touched, that could be met in a different way?
--I don't think that giving in to being touched will stop the thoughts. They may stay the same or even increase, correct?
--Resources by Neil Anderson and Mike Quarles have helped me in my addiction/struggles. Check them out online/bookstore.
God bless you in your fight. Christ in you, the hope of glory . . .
--when I am lonely or bored is when I most am vulnerable to lust and to fantasy. Do you have other ideas about how to get your needs for meaning or connection met, a need underneath the desire to be touched, that could be met in a different way?
--I don't think that giving in to being touched will stop the thoughts. They may stay the same or even increase, correct?
--Resources by Neil Anderson and Mike Quarles have helped me in my addiction/struggles. Check them out online/bookstore.
God bless you in your fight. Christ in you, the hope of glory . . .
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I would suggest that you bring this to God, cry out to him in your struggle and have the faith that he is listening and he cares for your every need. Pray to him for a husband.
In 1 Corinthians 7:9 Paul says "But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion." Marriage is honoring to God and it is good to marry even though society tells us that we don't need to get married especially when we are really young.
You really need to trust God that he cares about your every need. God may be trying to teach you to rely and trust in him. He has great blessings in store for you and has a plan and a man for you. Put your trust in Him and you will have peace. It is normal to have sexual desires as we were made that way by God. And that is why Paul encourages marriage if one feels out of control.
In 1 Corinthians 7:9 Paul says "But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion." Marriage is honoring to God and it is good to marry even though society tells us that we don't need to get married especially when we are really young.
You really need to trust God that he cares about your every need. God may be trying to teach you to rely and trust in him. He has great blessings in store for you and has a plan and a man for you. Put your trust in Him and you will have peace. It is normal to have sexual desires as we were made that way by God. And that is why Paul encourages marriage if one feels out of control.
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Firstly, you are pretty normal in being aware of your now developed sexuality. Curiosity is a normal aspect of sexual development.
You might like to see if you can distinguish between sexual urge and maybe some underlying issue such as loneliness, wanting affection or comfort, wanting affirmation.
What you are wondering probably won't really help. It is possible that it may result in wanting more of that touching, a guy going further than you want, sexual arousal at a new level, and then confusion and guilt.
There are aspects of living healthily with one's sexuality you need to discover so you cam navigate your sexuality more safely.
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You might like to see if you can distinguish between sexual urge and maybe some underlying issue such as loneliness, wanting affection or comfort, wanting affirmation.
What you are wondering probably won't really help. It is possible that it may result in wanting more of that touching, a guy going further than you want, sexual arousal at a new level, and then confusion and guilt.
There are aspects of living healthily with one's sexuality you need to discover so you cam navigate your sexuality more safely.
John
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