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[iwekewai]

This is my first post and I’m not even sure how to word so here goes….



I’m afraid to say this (almost ashamed) that I’m not a Christian. I didn’t have the family that went to church every Sunday so I was never really introduce to it. (My Parents bought me a bible and that’s about as far as that went). My Boyfriend is a Christian. He has slowly introduced me to Jesus and the Lord. I know he wants to share more with me but knows I don’t really understand. I attend church with him and we’ve recently started reading together making it easier for me to stop and ask questions. I guess what I’m getting at is I think I’m holding him back. I can tell he’s hurting and worried for me because I’m not saved. Is there anything I can do to help him and me?

Thanks

 

[caitlincares]

Welcome to CF.
There is a "Intro" forum you can introduce yourself in. (link in my siggy)
You will want to read the FAQ document to read all the rules.
A link for it can be found on the navigation bar.

If you are not a Christian you should not be posting in the "Christians Only" are.
The "courting couples" forum is part of the "Christian Only" area.
This is the area you should be posting in: http://www.christianforums.com/forumdisplay.php?s=&daysprune=&f=272

 

[Pope Gonzo]

I think there's more important stuff to this post than the Christian-only rule

Since you can tell that he's troubled over the fact that you're not a Christian right now, it's good that you're not just going through the motions to appease him. But my biggest question is, what's holding you back from a personal relationship with Jesus Christ?

 

[Living4Him03]

I agree Pope Gonzo. It is good that you aren't saying you're a Christian just so he won't quit dating you. I have a friend who has done that and it lead to a lot of hurt. So what is holding you back? If you don't understand something, you could ask a pastor about it or ask your boyfriend what it means to him to have Christ as his Savior. If you decide that you would like to have a personal relationship with Christ at some point, make sure you understand what it means and say a prayer to Jesus telling him you understand that you are a sinner. You know that you have done things in your life that were not pleasing to Him and that you have sinned against Him. Then ask Jesus to forgive you of your sins and tell him that you want a relationship with Him and want to dedicate your life to Him. There's an easier way to know what to pray if you want to accept Christ (no one single prayer is the "correct" prayer)....
Accept- accept Christ as your personal Savior
Believe-Believe Christ died on the cross for your sins
Commit- commit your life to Him

I hope that helps some. A good book to read is Romans...especially the verse in Romans 3:23.

For now, keep asking questions and ask your boyfriend to be patient with you as you decide if accepting Christ as Savior is something you want to do. Tell him you appreciate his concern for your salvation. It sounds like you have a very caring boyfriend! God bless you!

 

[Iggster]

The Lord is knocking on your door. Are you gonna open it? He has sent His messenger, possibly your b/f, because He loves you. He's been longing for you to come to His fold. Will your heart yearn for Him, just as His had been longing for yours?

Being a Christian isn't all about going to church. It isn't just another activity to do. I haven't attended church for years. It's not about religion. I just love the Lord, Jesus Christ. It's about my life with Christ. The One who died for my sins, eventhough I am not worthy of Him. Life is about my daily walks with Him.

Hope this helps you understand why we are Christians. I don't know if everyone will agree with me. If you've seen the Passion of Christ, you will understand what the Lord had to go through, just so your soul may be saved. That's how much God will do for you. That's how much the Lord, Jesus Christ, loves you.

And even if you're not a Christian, the Lord and we as Christians, still loves you. We stand here together with you. Don't be afraid to open your heart to the Lord. The feeling of knowing He's alive in your heart is indescribeable.

The Lord has destined you for something great. Greater than anything you could imagine. When He extends His hand, take it. You're going to have the time of your life.

 

[iwekewai]

Sorry about posting on the wrong board. Is there a way for me to move it?

Thanks everyone for your wonderful replys very helpful. I do want a relationship with Jesus and I feel my heart opening to him. But how do you ask forgivens from someone your dont really know?

 

[KristianJ]

Welcome to CF, iwekewai! Making the decision to accept Christ into your life can be one of the most challenging yet rewarding steps of anyone's life. From what you've just said, it seems you are very close to that decision and I thank God that He has through your boyfriend and others shown to you how much He loves you and that Jesus died for you.

As for asking forgiveness, it is really as easy as what Living4Him03 outlined with the Accept, Believe, Commit prayer. And don't be afraid that you don't know Jesus as much as you want to. The experience of learning about Jesus and what He did for you on the cross only just begins when you accept Him into your life. And there are thousands of Christians here who would be more than willing to encourage you and show you places where you can find out about Jesus. My prayers for you and your boyfriend at this time.

 

[Pope Gonzo]

I think the hardest thing for people to realize is that it is just that simple. In putting your faith in him, even though you don't really know him yet, you're taking a huge step. His plan is better than ours - he knows that waiting until you take that step until he really reveals himself to you will make you stronger(or however he'll let his plan unfold )

Even though it's hard to see it at times, God is always in control. Trust him and choose to follow him and you'll see it more and more.

 

[EmSchmem]

iwekewai

I guess the thing to ask yourself is one, what is standing in your way and two, what are you going to do when you have all the answers so to speak. Christ loves you dearly and that has no bearing on what you choose. You cannot however experience Christ's love until you invite Him in. Also, if you DO decide to invite Christ into your heat and into your life, there are not specific words you must say to Him. Speak from your heart. You can also speak from your heat now. If you are not sure if He is real and all of this stuff is true, ask Him to show you. It sounds as if you want to know Him and he will honor that.

 

[musikbebe]

Hi!

I too was brought up in a home that didn't go to church all the time, but fortunately my parents introduced it to me some. my parents gave me a Bible and fortunately I started reading it. What I can tell you is that God loves you. He wants you to accept what He's given you (which includes a life of eternity through faith that Christ died in place of you for all your sins). It's all based on His love for us, His children. I also strongly reccommend developing a personal prayer life and reading on your own in addition to reading and praying with others. You are in my prayers. God bless!