Help!

[Scotty_Aussie87]

hey all,

I feel pretty shirty at the moment, my Girlfirend who is a christian who i've been friends with for ages and goin out with for a while sent me an email sayin she wants to go on a break or somethin to figure herself out with God.

i know myself, i havent been havin a great personal relationship with God but i have still tried and kept mine and my Girlfriends relationship morally based and honouring to Him.

Im trying hard to find a good reason why i should keep comin back to God although i still want to. cos i feel like i dont please him and im just making myself more miserable trying to please him it seems.

please pray for us

 

[nill]

> Im trying hard to find a good reason why i should keep comin
> back to God although i still want to. cos i feel like i dont please
> him and im just making myself more miserable trying to please
> him it seems.

Our utter dependence is on God--no matter how much we don't feel it, we must trust Him on this, because He alone is trustworthy, Scotty. I talked with my brother about something like this last night, and the thing that hit me most was when he said, "Read the psalms." And he listed a few verses of some that start off in despair, but do they end in despair? No! They resolve in God's character--He is faithful, He will redeem us, He is worthy to be praised, etc. Don't despair, even when that feels like that natural response (it seems to be for me). Trust in God that He will bring about all things for His purposes and love for His children. Keep your chin up. So far up, in fact, that you're facing Heaven!

 

[eatenbylocusts]

This break may be a great blessing to both of you. If you're both neglecting your relationships with God take the opportunity to spend more time with Him. The best thing for a Christian relationship is when both are putting God first and their SO second. (eatenbylocusts looks in mirror to see who else needs to be taking this advice.)

 

[Scotty_Aussie87]

ive been that "strong" christian before, ive been baptised, i've sung his praise so loud and moshed in the worship, prayed long prayers praising him. but who did it impact? anyone? no frankly i dont want to be a part of that "Christian image" cos i know that it affects no-one. people just think your an arrogant so and so. if its only use is to turn on christian sisters than its not entirely useless. if i'm gonna come back to God its not cos i want to be strong, in fact i want to be so humble that i wont be able to go a single step unless the Lord my saviour whom i know does love me, takes that step for me.

 

[brokenbeliever]

testing to see if i can post here or not

 

[brokenbeliever]

scotty,
hi, i've been there brother. so i hope i can offer some encouragement. a reason to keep coming back to God...well, i've also had that thought and what i always tell myself is that i know i would be a whole lot worse off without Him in my life, in fact i wouldn't even want to live if He wasn't in my life. i mean sometimes we are miserable even when we are trying to please Him and trust Him. but then i look at the world and i see that those without Him have no hope. you said you feel that you aren't pleasing Him. that is the enemy lying to you and trying to discourage you. what you need to remember is that Jesus lived the perfect life and by trusting in Him, we can please God. we can never be perfect and we have to forgive ourselves for not being perfect. we fall, but God is so merciful and always takes us back. it is a hard concept to grasp. that He is so gracious, but He is. it took years for that to sink into my mind and heart. like you said sometimes we feel even more miserable the more we try to press into God. believe me, i encounter this as well. and i believe that is also the enemy trying to discourage us. he sees us trying to have a relationship with God, and he steps up his attacks. believe me sometimes i get SO tired of the fight. but i've learned that those are the times i have to call up a friend and say please pray for me because i can't do this alone. that's what we're here for, to help each other.
as hard as it is, i'm glad that you and your girlfriend are taking this time to get things right with God. because our relationship with Him is the most important thing. i always have to remember the scripture that says, seek ye first the kingdom of God, and all these things will be added unto you...
so Father because my brother is trying to seek first Your kingdom, i give You back Your word that You will add all these things unto him. this is my advice, keep reading the Word and praying because even if it doesn't seem to be doing anything for you, it will. it may take time, but sooner or later you will begin to see the fruit of it.
bless you brother.

 

[Scotty_Aussie87]

I got news for ya.. the Lord doesn't do anything *for* us. He gives us the strength to do it for ourselves. He gives us the means to do it for ourselves. He is the guiding factor that allows us to do it for ourselves.

If you're waiting for God to do things FOR you.. no wonder your relationship with Him is broken. God expects us to do for ourselves. If God did everything for us, everyone on this earth would already love Him. But it doesn't work that way.

So if you won't go another step unless the Lord does it for you, I guess you will always remain exactly where you are.

~ ~

this is good advise, i know this, its hard to move tho when the path you were moving on was just blocked and now u cant hear any instructions on where to go next.