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[turntheothercheek]

I know you'll probably think i'm a pushover for being a guy and having an ED but I need real help. I thought i'd got over it a while back but it's coming back. I don't know what do to. I felt really big after having just a cup of hot chocolate and i've got back to counting calories again. I never purged but I used to binge and starve to try and get me down to 60 (I was 5'11 at the time, it would have made me clinically anorexic) but I stopped at 63 because I went to counselling. I used to go 24 hours without eating then purging and it ruined me. I went 50 hours once and it took it out of me again. I don't want to do that again. I'm dreading looking on the scale again - i'll probably weigh 80/90 kg and I don't want to weigh that much. I only feel OK now because i'm hungry. Whenever I eat I automatically seem to feel down. If i'm hungry it just seems to kill the feeling of nothing inside. Please, does anyone have any advice?

 

[luv4godremains]

hey, I don't have any advice, but I do think it would be a good idea to start going to councelling again. I'm praynig for ya and if ya ever need to talk to anyone, you can always pm me, k?

 

[Music4Hym777]

I know you'll probably think i'm a pushover for being a guy and having an ED but I need real help.

No one will think you are a pushover at all for being a guy and having an ED, there are really lots of guys that have EDs (about 1 in 100), so you are definately NOT the first guy to ever admit that you have an ED.

I thought i'd got over it a while back but it's coming back. I don't know what do to. I felt really big after having just a cup of hot chocolate and i've got back to counting calories again.

Hot chocolate made with dairy (milk) can really actually make you feel full and bloated, it is something in the mixture of it that does it (I could look it up exactly if you would like me too, I am sure it is in one of my class books around here somewhere) Counting Calories is only bad when you count them and purposefully eat too little. Just to keep your body functioning properly you need about 1800 calories.

I never purged but I used to binge and starve to try and get me down to 60 (I was 5'11 at the time, it would have made me clinically anorexic) but I stopped at 63 because I went to counselling. I used to go 24 hours without eating then purging and it ruined me. I went 50 hours once and it took it out of me again. I don't want to do that again. I'm dreading looking on the scale again - i'll probably weigh 80/90 kg and I don't want to weigh that much.

That is actually healthy for you to weigh that. I am glad that you have never purged as you wont have to worry about some of the side effects of purging that many of us have to deal with. But you may have to deal with the side effects of not eating. Your body wont know how to deal with food and you can start getting little hairs all over your body that look like peach fuzz, yet you might start losing your hair on your head.

I only feel OK now because i'm hungry. Whenever I eat I automatically seem to feel down. If i'm hungry it just seems to kill the feeling of nothing inside. Please, does anyone have any advice?

If you are at the point right now where you can not eat at all, then try something small, to force yourself to eat would be bad, but if you want to eat something and still have some of that feeling (it is addicting) then eat something with acids in it. Citrus fruit is great for this, it gives you nutrients that you need, but if it is that feeling you are addicted to then it will still leave some of that feeling.

Feel free to PM me anytime, and I will try to see if I can hook you up with some other male members on here that have Eating Disorders if you want me too. If you want any more information on anything that I have said, feel free to reply with more questions or PM me, if they start to get questionable on the rules (we do have some rules, especially when it comes to numbers, here in the ED forum) then I will reply in a PM.

 

[blessedmomof5]

I wanted to add to the great advice already, is that whe i was in inpatient there was a young guy there and then whe i left there was another so do not think you are the only one and they are getting help for it, so do not be ashamed.....hey we are all human and not one of us is perfect anyone can get this.......but now i can relate to alot of what you are saying and those feelings quite stink, since they are always there....but with the help if you want it you will get better, i think the 1st step is to tell someone, and the more you tell people the easier it is, i cannot hide it anymore, so i just say when people ask oh noooooooooooooo whats wrong i just say i ahve anorexia.......it has become a second nature now for me to say it....so it gets easier.....and like monica said purging is never a good thing so if you have not started please for the sake of the Lord do not......if you ever ned a ear i am always here.....pms if you feel more comfortable.....

Denise

 

[Annoula]

hi there!

how often do you use the scale??
a good idea is to have a schedule. like, once in 2 days. when u accomplish that, make it 1 in a week, then 1 in a month.
that's a trick to help u stay off the scale.

do not stop counselling!!! try to find WHY you need to do what you are doing. when you find the WHY you can proceed to the HOW I CHANGE THAT.

i wish you all the best,

hugs and love,

Anna

 

[turntheothercheek]

Thanks for all your advice, it's really helped so far and i'm really appreciative. God bless you all

 

[Music4Hym777]

I'm glad we could help some, if you have need ANYTHING feel free to PM me

 

[goldenviolet]

http://www.mhs.net/Articles/Editions/15/EatingDisordersinMales.aspx


http://www.burr.kent.edu/archives/1997/fall/Menbody.html


http://www.raderprograms.com/men.htm


http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/774900.stm


http://www.radcliffe-oxford.com/books/bookdetail.asp?ISBN=1+85775+758+0


hello, young man! a pushover? not at all! everyone has struggles. alot of guys struggle with EDs. here are some support and information sites that are just for guys. my advice for you is to get educated so you'll understand your EDs and your behavior patterns. God will use your knowledge to help you help yourself. you are very important and valuable to the kindom of God. your title is God's son. He gives you the strength and blessings to get through your struggles. and your inheritance will be safe while you struggle.
you'll do just fine, and everything will work out! all things work to the good of those who love the Lord! if you need to talk, pm me.

love dee

 

[sallystrothers]

I had an eating disorder for a while but it was geared toward the bodybuilding lifestyle. Either way it was an eating disorder and I overcame it by manipulating it.

Have you heard the saying "if you can't beat them, join them?"

Well I applied this logic and turned my unhealthy eating disorder into a healthy eating disorder. Instead of starving myself of food I starved myself of junk food.

Maybe it may help in the short term to focus your energy on eating healthy foods instead of focusing on counting calories or not eating at all.

Long term you can curb your overall eating disorder away completely.