Hello,
Election is a very difficult topic. I wish there was an easy way out for you, but there is not. This is one where you are really going to have to spend some time and consider all the alternatives.
If I recall correctly, early in its history the southern baptist church believed in all (or most) of the points of calvinism (calvinsim is also known as reformed theology). Today there are some baptists who still believe all the points of calvinism, but most modern baptists only hold to the last point of calvinism - that being once saved always saved. But I do agree with most calvinists in that all the points of calvinism stand or fall together; this puts most baptists in a precarious position: they (baptists) believe part of calvinism but not all of it.
Your question concerns election. Reformed theology, because of its belief in total depravity (the belief that mankind can not choose anything of spiritual significance) says that God must make men respond to His calling. And those thereby chosen by God, since they had no part in their response (according to calvinists), also can not choose to depart from Him - which is where the once saved always saved doctrine comes from. Through the years, most baptist have abandoned all but this last point of calvinism. (And baptists should dump this final, false teaching as well!)
Now the bible does teach something called election, but what it means by this is very much subject to debate. The reformists claims that the only way God can be sovereign (in control of all things) is for God to control all decisions of significance. (This is a viewpoint driven more by human philosophy than solid biblical argument.)
Your mission, if you decide to accept it, is to find out what the alternative views of election are. Must God force each individual person to accept Him, or can people truly respond on their own to His calling. The calvinists will fight you tooth and nail if you decide that mankind has the ability to respond. Their whole system rests upon the notion that mankind can not respond to God. If I were to give you any advice at all, it would be to look at all the alternatives. Reformed theology is a mode of biblical interpretation which has as its foundation a certain philosophical perspective. If that philosophical perspective is right, then they are right, but if it is wrong, then their whole system of interpretation is wrong.
Sincerely,
Wizzer