I'll try to keep this short. My wife and I are talking to a woman from my wifes country (the Philippians) who came here two years ago and married her christian fiance.
She said as soon as she came here she said he changed from what he acted like online (they should have met first mind you). He goes to a church with barley any members and no real "umph" to it. They all seem depressed like they don't even care about God. When she was 7 months pregnant he pushed her down a small flight of stair (5 stairs).
She called the police and that was it. Since then he tells her every day "I <swearing> hate you!". He literally leads his own life in and out of the house and doesn't even talk to her or check in on her. She has access to his money solely for the purpose of taking care of the baby and buying food...etc. He constantly verbally assaults her and has hit her a few times.
She sits on her laptop and sits online talking to people because she doesn't really have any local friends and hes also her only ride. When they do go out he pretends hes friendly and she to scared to say anything to his or her family. She talked about him to us while he was sitting in the same room watching sports. Which she says is all he does.
The problem is shes given up on everything. Prayer, life...etc. She thinks God hates her because He warned her before the marriage but she didn't listen. We've been encouraging her but theres obviously only so much we can do. She called the cops again yesterday but she hasn't spoken about what happened nor has she really talked to us. Not sure if her husband finally looked at what she typed or what. When he say "Hi" online theres no response.
Her problem is she wants a divorce but feels convicted about doing it. However she is leaning towards doing it. But there is one major issue. Because shes only been here 2 years, if she divorces him she will be deported to the Philippines because under law your wife has stay here 3 years without any major fights. One major fight and you go back home (for the women's safety).
But she has a child now and shes being told by friends that her child would be stuck staying with him since the child is american born. Which leaves her stuck on what to do. And she also has no where to stay if she decided to do so, so shes scared what he might do to her or her child if she lives there while divorcing. That and she doesn't really have the money to file for divorce or do much else or the time (could take months) to get her child to go to her country.
Her husband stopped doing drugs and drinking (like another couple we know) 5 years ago when he got saved. Shes been a christian for 15 years. We are not sure how to help her at this point. No matter what she does it seems like shes going to lose either way. I tried telling her to come here or find a shelter but she doens't want anyone else involved. Suggestions?
She said as soon as she came here she said he changed from what he acted like online (they should have met first mind you). He goes to a church with barley any members and no real "umph" to it. They all seem depressed like they don't even care about God. When she was 7 months pregnant he pushed her down a small flight of stair (5 stairs).
She called the police and that was it. Since then he tells her every day "I <swearing> hate you!". He literally leads his own life in and out of the house and doesn't even talk to her or check in on her. She has access to his money solely for the purpose of taking care of the baby and buying food...etc. He constantly verbally assaults her and has hit her a few times.
She sits on her laptop and sits online talking to people because she doesn't really have any local friends and hes also her only ride. When they do go out he pretends hes friendly and she to scared to say anything to his or her family. She talked about him to us while he was sitting in the same room watching sports. Which she says is all he does.
The problem is shes given up on everything. Prayer, life...etc. She thinks God hates her because He warned her before the marriage but she didn't listen. We've been encouraging her but theres obviously only so much we can do. She called the cops again yesterday but she hasn't spoken about what happened nor has she really talked to us. Not sure if her husband finally looked at what she typed or what. When he say "Hi" online theres no response.
Her problem is she wants a divorce but feels convicted about doing it. However she is leaning towards doing it. But there is one major issue. Because shes only been here 2 years, if she divorces him she will be deported to the Philippines because under law your wife has stay here 3 years without any major fights. One major fight and you go back home (for the women's safety).
But she has a child now and shes being told by friends that her child would be stuck staying with him since the child is american born. Which leaves her stuck on what to do. And she also has no where to stay if she decided to do so, so shes scared what he might do to her or her child if she lives there while divorcing. That and she doesn't really have the money to file for divorce or do much else or the time (could take months) to get her child to go to her country.
Her husband stopped doing drugs and drinking (like another couple we know) 5 years ago when he got saved. Shes been a christian for 15 years. We are not sure how to help her at this point. No matter what she does it seems like shes going to lose either way. I tried telling her to come here or find a shelter but she doens't want anyone else involved. Suggestions?
