help ! SOS SOS

[batheinarmor]

My name is ryan brown and I have been marries for almost two years. My wife has cheated and cheated and cheated. Even when I was in iraq. I still forgave her even after all the lies and betrayal. I hate myself for wanting to still be with her and I reach out and pray and ask for help and guidence. Please please somone tgalk some sence into me

 

[Easyk]

i dont know what to say?

my guess is she is not saved.. hmmmm

well you can divorce her, if it is an affair and she wont stop i would divorce her..

on the other hand i am reminder of the prophet whos wife was a harlot... and he kept going and getting her back...

 

[Digit]

I also don't know what to say, there isn't much information in that opening post. You have spiritual grounds for divorce, since she is adulterous, but you don't sound like you want that. I'm sorry for your problems, I would strongly suggest counseling.

 

[Autumnleaf]

Don't do anything stupid. Talk to your Chaplain ASAP.

 

[djmoody]

First of all Ryan, Thank you for serving, Talking to your Chaplain and getting counseling is the best advice there is. If you are both willing to get counseling and she is ready to repent not just apologize you have a chance to make a life together. Repentence is as our pastor said in his sermon on Sunday a 180 degree turn not a 360. My prayers go out to your young family. But you need to be willing to forgive and accept her back into your life. I know that my daughter and her husband didn't actually physically cheat on each other but they emotionally did by talking to people and spending emotional time on the phone and internet with other people. It has driven them to the brink of divorce and they are both christians. So as I pray for them I will pray for you and your wife.

 

[Gwenyfur]

Let Jodi have her...

she's not worth it.

 

[Autumnleaf]

Let Jodi have her...

she's not worth it.

Jodi's got trouble comin his way for all the shenanigans he's been into over the years.

 

[Gwenyfur]

Jodi's got trouble comin his way for all the shenanigans he's been into over the years.

Karma's a female dog when she catches up with ya....*BIG* sharp, pointy ferocious teeth

 

[Billnew]

There is no union if only one is working at it.

If she wants to work on her/your problems, then stay with it. If not there is nothing to save

(My first post in this forum, I did not consider myself a part of this group...until now.)

 

[McScribe]

My name is ryan brown and I have been marries for almost two years. My wife has cheated and cheated and cheated. Even when I was in iraq. I still forgave her even after all the lies and betrayal. I hate myself for wanting to still be with her and I reach out and pray and ask for help and guidence. Please please somone tgalk some sence into me

Your forgiveness does you credit--regardless of what is happening, you do what you must but leave the judgement up to God. You don't need to hate yourself for loving her, because of course we are called to love by Jesus. The big question is what do you do now?

Let me ask this: is she lying about the cheating--like you know that she is but she's denying it? I suspect that this is the real problem, that she's not saying she wants to leave you or that she's in love with someone else but that she is claiming to love you and want to be with you but is not acting like it.

1st Corinthians 13 talks about love and defines it. Is your wife treating you in this way? Is she patient, kind, generous, thoughtful, humble, tender? Is she selfless, concerned on your behalf? If she is not doing these things then is she doing anything at all to suggest that she cares about you?

The Bible tells us to love our enemies. If she is not loving you in any way then that is what she is acting like towards you. You can love her, be kind to her, and refuse to tolerate being treated in this way. You will not be cruel to her if you tell her that you cannot tolerate being deceived and betrayed and do not want to be her husband. You are a child of God; God has loved us deeply even in the midst of our sins. You are not foolish for loving her but you don't have to receive continuous hurt from her to do it.