Help, Please

[CGL]

Hey, this has to do with depression and anxiety. I have just moved to back home, I was gone for a year. I've been back for 5 months, and I haven't been out with friends for 5 months, because I have no friends here and I don't know what to do, I feel like going crazy, besides going to the store and for an odd half-hour walk, I haven't been out of the house for 150-odd days... Any help?

 

[warrrior4him007]

well moving is tough i moved bout a year ago boy i know where u are at just try to reach out your not alone

 

[cardfan1]

CGL,
Could you expand a little more on what you're going through? I know what it is like being in a city where you have no friends or relatives, and it is very easy to fall into hanging around your apartment or home, especially if there isn't much to do. But this doesn't necessarily mean you have depression. maybe your just bored. I am not trying to make light of your situation, but staying in your house because you don't have friends or anything to do doesn't necessarily mean you have 'depression'.

However, regardless of your situation, being by yourself with no one to go out with can prove to be very lonely. you said you just moved back home, do you not have family or old friends?

In any case, please understand I'd really like to provide any advice i can, but it would be helpful to know a little more. also, i'm not a professional, i'm just another christian on the internet who has depression - so don't diagnose yourself over something that I or anyone on this website writes. Please try and find a good Christian counselor/psychologits if you feel that you have depression.

Finally, i love the Lord with all my heart and am so blessed to have salvation through Jesus Christ. I have been through a lot the last few months and I find it comforting to talk to others and provide any advice when I can. So if you would like to discuss further, please feel free to pm me or just keep posting after this. I truely hope you feel better. God bless

In Christ...

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

Is there a reason you aren't going out much? Does it make you uncomfortable to leave the house or are you just not leaving because you don't have anyone to go out with?

 

[CGL]

First off, thank you very much for responding.

CGL,
Could you expand a little more on what you're going through? I know what it is like being in a city where you have no friends or relatives, and it is very easy to fall into hanging around your apartment or home, especially if there isn't much to do. But this doesn't necessarily mean you have depression. maybe your just bored. I am not trying to make light of your situation, but staying in your house because you don't have friends or anything to do doesn't necessarily mean you have 'depression'.

I have MDD (Major Depression Disorder) I was diagnosed when I was 12, and have been dealing with professionals since I was 9 years old, until just recently, when I was too anxious to meet a new doctor.

However, regardless of your situation, being by yourself with no one to go out with can prove to be very lonely. you said you just moved back home, do you not have family or old friends?

My mom is around. I use to have friends here, then something happened, I went to jail, moved, and now I'm back and I've been shunned, by the community.

In any case, please understand I'd really like to provide any advice i can, but it would be helpful to know a little more. also, i'm not a professional, i'm just another christian on the internet who has depression - so don't diagnose yourself over something that I or anyone on this website writes. Please try and find a good Christian counselor/psychologits if you feel that you have depression.

I appreciate it.

Finally, i love the Lord with all my heart and am so blessed to have salvation through Jesus Christ. I have been through a lot the last few months and I find it comforting to talk to others and provide any advice when I can. So if you would like to discuss further, please feel free to pm me or just keep posting after this. I truely hope you feel better. God bless

In Christ...

Thank you, again. God Bless.

 

[CGL]

Is there a reason you aren't going out much? Does it make you uncomfortable to leave the house or are you just not leaving because you don't have anyone to go out with?

Both.

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

I have MDD (Major Depression Disorder) I was diagnosed when I was 12, and have been dealing with professionals since I was 9 years old, until just recently, when I was too anxious to meet a new doctor.

Do you have anxiety attacks?

 

[CGL]

Do you have anxiety attacks?

Yes. Less, since I stop taking Celexa. But if the phone rings enough, in a short time span, I can fall into an attack.

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

The best thing to do is to make yourself get out every day, even if it is only for 30 minutes or so and just taking a walk or something. The longer you stay inside, the harder it becomes to leave. I am a recovered agoraphobic and at times I spent months inside my home. (One time, several years ago, I left my house to go to a doctor's appointment and there literally had been new houses built on my street that I had not seen before.) Maybe you could find a mental health professional who would talk to you on the phone instead of you having to go to their office? I had a therapist that did that with me a few times when I could not get myself to physically go to an appointment.

Or does talking on the phone make you nervous?

 

[warrrior4him007]

and cgl i use to have majiordpression too and im bout done with consuling for the frist time in bout 20 yrs i wont be seeing a threapist

 

[Paladin Dave]

Well... I wish I had more helpful things to say, but I've never dealt with anything like this. The only advice I can offer are a few things that worked for my girlfriend, who has a much milder form of depression.

I forget the author of this book, but I bet you could find it on Google. If not, I'll get back to you next week, since I'll be driving down to GA to see her on Saturday. It's called The Power of a Positive Teen, and my gf said it's made a huge difference already.

The other things that worked for us both are to focus on your prayer life. Find something, even something little, to thank God for every day, as many times as you can. The more you're heart is in a place of thankfulness, the better you'll feel about your life. We've both had this one work, and it was recommended to us by people who are experienced in this kind of field.

The other suggestion, while arguably not the most affective, is to get some positive music and play it while you're at home or in the car. "Always Look on the Bright Side of Life" by Monty Python is one of my favorites for brightening up my mood, but whatever gets you feeling happy is what you should go with.

And stop reading Rush. Right or wrong, the guy's the biggest "negative nancy", as a friend put it, since... ummm... I guess I should have thought of someone to put in there, but yeah. Seriously though, positive influence is your best bet for helping yourself along in the non-medical realm.

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

Well... I wish I had more helpful things to say, but I've never dealt with anything like this. The only advice I can offer are a few things that worked for my girlfriend, who has a much milder form of depression.

I forget the author of this book, but I bet you could find it on Google. If not, I'll get back to you next week, since I'll be driving down to GA to see her on Saturday. It's called The Power of a Positive Teen, and my gf said it's made a huge difference already.

The other things that worked for us both are to focus on your prayer life. Find something, even something little, to thank God for every day, as many times as you can. The more you're heart is in a place of thankfulness, the better you'll feel about your life. We've both had this one work, and it was recommended to us by people who are experienced in this kind of field.

The other suggestion, while arguably not the most affective, is to get some positive music and play it while you're at home or in the car. "Always Look on the Bright Side of Life" by Monty Python is one of my favorites for brightening up my mood, but whatever gets you feeling happy is what you should go with.

And stop reading Rush. Right or wrong, the guy's the biggest "negative nancy", as a friend put it, since... ummm... I guess I should have thought of someone to put in there, but yeah. Seriously though, positive influence is your best bet for helping yourself along in the non-medical realm.

The positive music thing is actually very effective. So is focusing on a little bit of the Word every day.

I don't listen to sad or angry music any more and I try to avoid depressing or scary movies, as well. I stick with things that are funny or inspiring.

 

[AWorkInProgress]

The best thing to do is to make yourself get out every day, even if it is only for 30 minutes or so and just taking a walk or something. The longer you stay inside, the harder it becomes to leave. I am a recovered agoraphobic and at times I spent months inside my home. (One time, several years ago, I left my house to go to a doctor's appointment and there literally had been new houses built on my street that I had not seen before.) Maybe you could find a mental health professional who would talk to you on the phone instead of you having to go to their office? I had a therapist that did that with me a few times when I could not get myself to physically go to an appointment.

Or does talking on the phone make you nervous?

I second this.

All I know is fear is a limits that could stop you from living a full life. Anxiety and fear that you face, your going to have to take it on. Learn how to tackle it. Take it little at a time, much like MCN said.

Stay strong in your prayers and studies. Let wisdom and understanding give you strength to overcome it.

Growth process is slow one. Going to have to overcome personal feelings and might feel bad couple of times. Ultimately the most important part of growth is getting back up and doing it again. Oh small tip, don't always rely on your feelings, you have more control than you realize.

You know life in the home is not living. Use this as fuel to the fire to keep getting back up and conquor your fears.

 

[Angela256]

I understand what you're going thru, I used to suffer from Depression and PTSD. Mental Health Professionals can help, to an extent, but there's deliverance with God. My advice, find a good bible teaching, spirit filled church and pour your heart out to God. He'll heal your mind and your Body. He did it for me. Just trus in His Love!!!

 

[CyberPaladin]

CGL I can sort of relate I'm stuck living with my parents right now and all of my friends have movewd away and it's very hard even if you don't suffer from major depression disorder.

CGL I don't if your iltailizing or using some sort nonstandard font but it's straining my eyes could you please use the standard font thank you.