i have made a stand to stand for my marriage and would like to know something that my ubby and i can do for fun that is cheap are better yet free! i also have 2 small girls [5 and 1]. we need something to put the love back in our marriage.
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We have the same dilemma. I tell you...marriage is hard work. :::whew:::
We put together Thomas Kinkade puzzles, play cards and watch Iron Chef on Food TV. (P.S. I hate puzzles and my husband hates cards. We made the sacrifices for each other and it has proved to be a blessing to us. So don't give up on things that one of you may not like...you may never find anything to do.)
Also what has been a real blessing to us is we have started reading a chapter of the bible each night to each other. He does OT and I read NT. It has really opened up some doors for us in the communication area.
But I suggest Iron Chef, it is just so... amusing.
I hope that helps?!
Mixee.
We put together Thomas Kinkade puzzles, play cards and watch Iron Chef on Food TV. (P.S. I hate puzzles and my husband hates cards. We made the sacrifices for each other and it has proved to be a blessing to us. So don't give up on things that one of you may not like...you may never find anything to do.)
Also what has been a real blessing to us is we have started reading a chapter of the bible each night to each other. He does OT and I read NT. It has really opened up some doors for us in the communication area.
But I suggest Iron Chef, it is just so... amusing.
I hope that helps?!
Mixee.
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Well, it won't work for everyone, but here's a few of the things we do:
1. We play D&D. Just one-player games, very plot-heavy. Immense fun, and a great excuse to stay up all night smiting evil.
2. Cooking together, or at least hanging out in the kitchen. Today, I threw out 10 pounds of stuff with "sell-by" dates in the 1990's, while Beloved Spouse prepared egg rolls and fried rice; while she was doing the fried rice, I actually cooked the egg rolls. Mmm.
3. Watching videos. She collects anime, mostly.
4. Playing with cats. Cats go absolutely wild when there's *two* strings to chase.
Sometimes, we'll just sit in the same room and read together. It's pretty cool.
1. We play D&D. Just one-player games, very plot-heavy. Immense fun, and a great excuse to stay up all night smiting evil.
2. Cooking together, or at least hanging out in the kitchen. Today, I threw out 10 pounds of stuff with "sell-by" dates in the 1990's, while Beloved Spouse prepared egg rolls and fried rice; while she was doing the fried rice, I actually cooked the egg rolls. Mmm.
3. Watching videos. She collects anime, mostly.
4. Playing with cats. Cats go absolutely wild when there's *two* strings to chase.
Sometimes, we'll just sit in the same room and read together. It's pretty cool.
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I forgot about that!!! How could I forget my beloved cats...we have two...we are always breaking out the digicam and taking pictures of the cats...and playing with the cats...they are so entertaining! I will try to upload some of those eventually and put them in the photo gallery.
The other thing we used to do was go to a bookstore and browse through books...that was pretty fun...(only expensive if you don't have the willpower not to buy the books...LOL)
Mixee.
The other thing we used to do was go to a bookstore and browse through books...that was pretty fun...(only expensive if you don't have the willpower not to buy the books...LOL)
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There's all kinds of things you can do for free. Here's a list (in no particular order).
1. Take walks together.
2. Watch movies together.
3. Go stargazing.
4. Have sex.
5. Put on a favorite CD and dance.
6. Have a candlelit dinner for two while the kids are at a friends house.
7. Pitch a tent and campout in the backyard.
Just a few cheap ideas. Hope this helps.
1. Take walks together.
2. Watch movies together.
3. Go stargazing.
4. Have sex.
5. Put on a favorite CD and dance.
6. Have a candlelit dinner for two while the kids are at a friends house.
7. Pitch a tent and campout in the backyard.
Just a few cheap ideas. Hope this helps.
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Hmmmm....we....
1. play board or card games (hubby doesn't like to do that much unless there's more people)
2. listen to spoken word, or poetry CD's (Jack Karouac)
3. read cuddled up together
4. go on walks
5. go to state parks
6. cook (not very often, but it's fun when we do)
7. xbox games (we both like that one)
Brandie, try to make a point to hug your spouse several times a day (at least seven good, long hugs), whisper in their ear, kiss them on the cheek or neck often, rub their shoulders or scratch their back when you walk by, sit in his or her lap and just talk, bat your eyes, pinch him/her on the buttocks, hold hands..... I guess what I'm saying is to not forget the simple stuff that you both did in the beginning and make sure you do it until it's almost like a habit. (A concious habit to remind your spouse that you love them.)
1. play board or card games (hubby doesn't like to do that much unless there's more people)
2. listen to spoken word, or poetry CD's (Jack Karouac)
3. read cuddled up together
4. go on walks
5. go to state parks
6. cook (not very often, but it's fun when we do)
7. xbox games (we both like that one)
Brandie, try to make a point to hug your spouse several times a day (at least seven good, long hugs), whisper in their ear, kiss them on the cheek or neck often, rub their shoulders or scratch their back when you walk by, sit in his or her lap and just talk, bat your eyes, pinch him/her on the buttocks, hold hands..... I guess what I'm saying is to not forget the simple stuff that you both did in the beginning and make sure you do it until it's almost like a habit. (A concious habit to remind your spouse that you love them.)
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The cooking thing is a big winner! You can make something easy-- like homemade pizza, and have lots of fun. Also, I enjoy helping my guy do "guy stuff" like learning by watching him work on the car.
Cleaning together can also be fun if you make it that way. Crank up music ya both like, each take a job, and have a fun clean free-for-all. After that you feel like things are a bit more ordered, neither feels like he/she had to do all the work alone, and then if you pop popcorn and sit in front of a movie on the couch, it feels great!
We also like to go grocery shopping together and window shopping at the mall together. Ya don't have to buy anything, ya get exercise, and it is fun to walk around holding hands like teenagers.
Cleaning together can also be fun if you make it that way. Crank up music ya both like, each take a job, and have a fun clean free-for-all. After that you feel like things are a bit more ordered, neither feels like he/she had to do all the work alone, and then if you pop popcorn and sit in front of a movie on the couch, it feels great!
We also like to go grocery shopping together and window shopping at the mall together. Ya don't have to buy anything, ya get exercise, and it is fun to walk around holding hands like teenagers.
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After almost 20 years together and 8 children (3 still in school and one adult who moved back home) finding any together time has been a real test of wills for us.
I can say that when the Lord brought us together he knew that we each needed someone who could put up with us!!
We both like to work in the garden, and rebuilding our patio has been an on going project for a few years now. We enjoy cooking together and working on holiday's crafts together.
We now have another favorite past time. We love to watch Trading Spaces together. It is a good show to watch and we love to see the reaction of the home owners. It has also given us some ideas on redecorating.
And like was said before go back to what you did when you were dating. I know probably had more money back then(no little ones to spend the extra on), but I am sure that there are somethings that you did that didn't cost much. How about renting an movie that you saw together back then, get some chinese food and turn down the lights, put in the video and make a date of it. Better yet put a sheet over your bed spread and have the chinese in your room behind closed doors. Kinda like going to a hotel and ordering room service!!
Most of all have fun getting to know each other all over again.
I'll be praying for you.
Take care 
I can say that when the Lord brought us together he knew that we each needed someone who could put up with us!!
We both like to work in the garden, and rebuilding our patio has been an on going project for a few years now. We enjoy cooking together and working on holiday's crafts together.
We now have another favorite past time. We love to watch Trading Spaces together. It is a good show to watch and we love to see the reaction of the home owners. It has also given us some ideas on redecorating.
And like was said before go back to what you did when you were dating. I know probably had more money back then(no little ones to spend the extra on), but I am sure that there are somethings that you did that didn't cost much. How about renting an movie that you saw together back then, get some chinese food and turn down the lights, put in the video and make a date of it. Better yet put a sheet over your bed spread and have the chinese in your room behind closed doors. Kinda like going to a hotel and ordering room service!!
Most of all have fun getting to know each other all over again.
I'll be praying for you.
Take care
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We often have friday night movie night.
We will cook together - usually home made pizza - or if I get to choose Chinese takeout - and then all sit down to a movie of the kids choosing and the parents approval. By this I mean that we don't watch Shrek every week.
At the later part of the movie we will have popcorn.
We also have one favorite sports team that we will watch and eat popcorn.
There is no other TV that we watch.
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Do a scavanger (sp) hunt at a park or natural area. Make up your own hunt. Find the leaves of ten different trees - teaching as you go/ find ten different types of bugs/ --- etc.
We will cook together - usually home made pizza - or if I get to choose Chinese takeout - and then all sit down to a movie of the kids choosing and the parents approval. By this I mean that we don't watch Shrek every week.
At the later part of the movie we will have popcorn.
We also have one favorite sports team that we will watch and eat popcorn.
There is no other TV that we watch.
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Do a scavanger (sp) hunt at a park or natural area. Make up your own hunt. Find the leaves of ten different trees - teaching as you go/ find ten different types of bugs/ --- etc.
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Is your husband a sports fan?
Surprise him by taking him to a minor league baseball game (the tickets are usually less than $10).
Surprise him by taking him to a minor league baseball game (the tickets are usually less than $10).
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