help....low self esteem/confidence issues : (

[Pink Angel]

Hey everyone!


I have been introduced to a problem that I have that i HAVE to fix or else i am in deep trouble..

I have low self esteem issues and confidence issues...i need help i need some pointers. I have learned that if I dont love myself who will. So i need to learn to love myself for who I am. I have been reading Dr. Phil's new book Love Smart, bc it tells you how to build "The Character of You" which is realizing who you are and how to love yourself so others can love you. However, it is hard to take advice when he doesnt knwo my situation, bc in the book the advice is great but i feel its hard to fully take it in when it is a general topic meant to fit all women and not just me individually.

Now, I wouldnt say i am depressed or anything but there are days i just want to cry bc i am not who i should be and i am not where i should be in my life. I am 22 and still suck at an age that has self esteem issues....i am 22 i should know and love who i am by now, i should have dealt with this in HS but however i look back on those days...and i was a better person! I was more optimistic and confident and more outgoing, and when i was HS I think that appearance wise i am better off now, i mean i have my own look now, i have slimmed out and i know how to wear makeup and i know how to do my hair just right, i have lost some weight and am a lot thinner than i was my sr year. I dont get how when i dont think i was that pretty in HS how my self esteem was at a good level and now, that i know i look better than i did in HS and i am having issues....what is the difference that i missing here, shouldnt i be better off now? I need help

what can i do to be optimistic and to stop worrying so much....im a huge huge huge worry wort and it is really affecting my social life. What are some tips to get me to love me....has anyone gone through this? what did you do?

I just dont understand and random times when i am by myself....i want to cry....its not that i dont have friends and im afraid to be alone, but the times i AM alone and bymyself for thenight......i choose to be.......because we all need "me" time. Does anyone know what I am going through? Any advice? please I am open to anything and everything please help. Thank you for reading

 

[MoChridhe2008]

Hello,

First off - you are certainly not alone. So so many women go through this. I am 25, have had a really blessed life so far, and I also struggle with crippling low self-esteem at times. I have learned for the most part to control it - but it is hard. I can empathise with everything you've said - I had issues at High school and was a bit of an 'outsider', although i had wonderful friends there. After college i got a great job and grew in confidence outwardly... but i still struggle. It affects everything in life; my relationship with my boyfriend, with my friends, the things i do.

It might be down to depression for you - but it's not for me, and please don't just go and get prozac if you think there's another way - i know too many people who just medicate the problem. What I try to do - and this is just for me and might not help you, but here it is - I try to accept that I am going to feel this way, and that in reality, most people do feel this way, they just express it differently. It doesn't always help... but its a start.

Please feel free to PM me for a chat if you want; and be reassured, I know how you feel and you're not alone.

Remember too - God made you in His image, exactly as you are meant to be. You are exactly the person you are supposed to be. Which makes you very special

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