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Help! Long Distance Relationship???
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I have never been in a long distance relationship, but I have never heard of them working very well. How long will you be apart for? Will you be back together in the same place soon? What is going to happen in the long term?
It does sound as though he is trying to distance himself away from you.
It does sound as though he is trying to distance himself away from you.
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Well, if you've asked and he said no, I don't know, if he said no, you could always be paranoid that he is lying.
I would just pray, release the relationship to God and see what happens with that. If you are meant to be married, then it will happen, even if you are apart for a little while.
I would just pray, release the relationship to God and see what happens with that. If you are meant to be married, then it will happen, even if you are apart for a little while.
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Arikereba
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Sometimes, when I move away from people I care about, sometimes I try to separate myself from them emotionally so that moving won't be as hard--or they try to separate themselves from me, for the same reason. It's too hard and lonely to love someone who lives so far away from you, and it's easier just to try to stop caring about them at all. Maybe that's what your boyfriend's going through right now--or maybe not. It IS hard to keep those feelings strong when you live so far apart, and even if you stay together for the next four years, you might find that you've grown apart and become different people, and you're no longer comfortable staying together.
It can be a very right and honest thing not to get too involved before you're ready--it's far worse to get engaged with someone, and then have to back out of it.
I hope things work out okay for you too! It's hard, but sometimes things work out better than you could have imagined.
It can be a very right and honest thing not to get too involved before you're ready--it's far worse to get engaged with someone, and then have to back out of it.
I hope things work out okay for you too! It's hard, but sometimes things work out better than you could have imagined.
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Hey Kristamegan. I live in Georgia too! heh
Anyway, I'm sorry things don't seem to be going the way you hoped they would. LDR's are a tremendous strain on the relationship. I want to cover all of the possibilities. Please don't take anything I say as "the gospel". I can't 100% pinpoint what is happening because I don't know you personally and these answers aren't meant to frighten you or make you feel insecure. They are merely possibilities.
1. Before the two of you would resolve conflict face to face, now you are having to solve problems over the phone. Guys hate talking on the phone. Men really don't like problem-solving and talking in general so having to talk over your problems on the phone could make him feel tense. Communication, for the most part, is alot more difficult over the telephone.
2. The distance may be driving a wedge between the two of you. Some couples can start off long distance and it will work out; however, it is extremely difficult for a couple to be together in close proximity for years and then one person moves.
3. The time apart may be causing him to re-evaluate the relationship. Sometimes when you're close it's hard to see the issues in a relationship that could lead to a break-up. He may be starting to re-think being in a relationship.
4. He may be scared you're cheating on him or he may be cheating on you.
5. He could be scared being far away he won't be able to be there for you.
6. Is your boyfriend a Christian? If not, were you a Christian when you first started seeing one another?
You need to spend some serious time in prayer over this. Sit down with a pen and a piece of paper in a quiet place where you can spend time with God uninterrupted for as long as it takes. Don't spend as much time talking to God. Instead be patient and listen to Him. When thoughts about this matter start coming to your mind - your fears, doubts, concerns, and questions - write them down and then pray over each of those issues specifically. Ask for God's wisdom and guidance. And last, be patient and receptive to whatever God wants. Don't be afraid. If God reveals to you that you need to take a break from your boyfriend obey at once...don't delay. When we procrastinate doing God's will we begin to justify and we will end up disobeying. If God gives you the go-ahead to stay in the relationship, address your concerns with your boyfriend, but if possible do it in person. He won't be quite so defensive if you're face to face plus you can read facial expressions and body language. I will be praying that God's will be done in this relationship. God bless you.
Anyway, I'm sorry things don't seem to be going the way you hoped they would. LDR's are a tremendous strain on the relationship. I want to cover all of the possibilities. Please don't take anything I say as "the gospel". I can't 100% pinpoint what is happening because I don't know you personally and these answers aren't meant to frighten you or make you feel insecure. They are merely possibilities.
1. Before the two of you would resolve conflict face to face, now you are having to solve problems over the phone. Guys hate talking on the phone. Men really don't like problem-solving and talking in general so having to talk over your problems on the phone could make him feel tense. Communication, for the most part, is alot more difficult over the telephone.
2. The distance may be driving a wedge between the two of you. Some couples can start off long distance and it will work out; however, it is extremely difficult for a couple to be together in close proximity for years and then one person moves.
3. The time apart may be causing him to re-evaluate the relationship. Sometimes when you're close it's hard to see the issues in a relationship that could lead to a break-up. He may be starting to re-think being in a relationship.
4. He may be scared you're cheating on him or he may be cheating on you.
5. He could be scared being far away he won't be able to be there for you.
6. Is your boyfriend a Christian? If not, were you a Christian when you first started seeing one another?
You need to spend some serious time in prayer over this. Sit down with a pen and a piece of paper in a quiet place where you can spend time with God uninterrupted for as long as it takes. Don't spend as much time talking to God. Instead be patient and listen to Him. When thoughts about this matter start coming to your mind - your fears, doubts, concerns, and questions - write them down and then pray over each of those issues specifically. Ask for God's wisdom and guidance. And last, be patient and receptive to whatever God wants. Don't be afraid. If God reveals to you that you need to take a break from your boyfriend obey at once...don't delay. When we procrastinate doing God's will we begin to justify and we will end up disobeying. If God gives you the go-ahead to stay in the relationship, address your concerns with your boyfriend, but if possible do it in person. He won't be quite so defensive if you're face to face plus you can read facial expressions and body language. I will be praying that God's will be done in this relationship. God bless you.
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I don't know how much most guys like it, but my husband used to love it when I would write him a love letter. I would also write poetry and send text messages. I think most guys like it, but many won't admit to it.
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KGirl
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Yea, I like to get little things now and then to plan on giving him next time I see him, as something to look forward to, and something nice to do for him. It comes so easy for girls to talk about problems that need fixing, and sometimes we don't go about it the right way. Guys get discouraged sometimes thinking they can't please us.
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catch22
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I give long distance relationship an all new meaning....not just distance, but time too. Ironically enough, the girl I really really like is also from Georgia. We both feel the same way about each other, but we have to wait a year and a half before we can even talk again. Harsh? yes. Worth the wait? a million times yes. Any relationship can work out if you have two things....first, God at the center of it all, and two...love. It's not always easy, but it's always possible and there's always hope. Read Corinthians I 13:4-7...thats what love really is.
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Wow, so many of us from Georgia! This is great! Thank you everyone who has commented in this thread! It has been great to hear everything everyone has to say! It's been very helpful also!
Catch22 ~ Thank you for the verses!! Those are a few of my *favorites*!! I couldn't imagine waiting that long just to even speak again!!! Yall have something truly amazing!! I wish yall the best!!
Anymore responses will be great!!
GOD Bless
~*~Krista~*~
This is great! Thank you everyone who has commented in this thread! It has been great to hear everything everyone has to say! It's been very helpful also! Catch22 ~ Thank you for the verses!! Those are a few of my *favorites*!!
I couldn't imagine waiting that long just to even speak again!!! Yall have something truly amazing!! I wish yall the best!! Anymore responses will be great!!
GOD Bless
~*~Krista~*~
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William Nunn
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I guess I put my experience into the hat too.
I'm in the US Army and had been friends with a certain girl since freshman year in high school. After high school was over and I shipped off, we still kept in touch, even when I came over here to Korea. After a year and a half or so of being here in Korea, she asked me if I thought we could make it more than a friendship. I didn't think I wanted to at first, but after a while I realized that I really did love her, and that it was a good idea to at least try. We continued talking, more seriously now, and then after a few months of that I got to go home on leave for three weeks durning Thanksgiving. Seeing her was......just AMAZING. I knew, I and still know, that this is the girl I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, who I wanted ot have my children, who I wanted to love, cherish, and honor until I died, so I proposed to her and she said yes. I had to come back to Korea. Seperating again is tough, and even though we talk and email everyday, we miss each other so much. But we both know that missing each other is just going to make it that much more wonderful when we get to see each other in March (that's when I get to go back to the US!). Then, in July we are getting married.
Those of us who have gone through long-distance relationships have a decided advantage. We know what it's like to not have our loved one there to hug or to kiss, or to talk to when we need them, so that's makes us appreciate them all that much more. In the end, it makes your bond so much stronger.
As for guys liking girls sending them love letters - YES YES YES! I'm about as much of a guy's guy as you can be. I lift weights, like sports, don't like girly movies,etc. But I love getting a letter from Kristen. And I work in the mailroom right now, so i know from experience that most guys love it, even though they might not admit it to the women.
I'm in the US Army and had been friends with a certain girl since freshman year in high school. After high school was over and I shipped off, we still kept in touch, even when I came over here to Korea. After a year and a half or so of being here in Korea, she asked me if I thought we could make it more than a friendship. I didn't think I wanted to at first, but after a while I realized that I really did love her, and that it was a good idea to at least try. We continued talking, more seriously now, and then after a few months of that I got to go home on leave for three weeks durning Thanksgiving. Seeing her was......just AMAZING. I knew, I and still know, that this is the girl I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, who I wanted ot have my children, who I wanted to love, cherish, and honor until I died, so I proposed to her and she said yes. I had to come back to Korea. Seperating again is tough, and even though we talk and email everyday, we miss each other so much. But we both know that missing each other is just going to make it that much more wonderful when we get to see each other in March (that's when I get to go back to the US!). Then, in July we are getting married.
Those of us who have gone through long-distance relationships have a decided advantage. We know what it's like to not have our loved one there to hug or to kiss, or to talk to when we need them, so that's makes us appreciate them all that much more. In the end, it makes your bond so much stronger.
As for guys liking girls sending them love letters - YES YES YES! I'm about as much of a guy's guy as you can be. I lift weights, like sports, don't like girly movies,etc. But I love getting a letter from Kristen. And I work in the mailroom right now, so i know from experience that most guys love it, even though they might not admit it to the women.
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~William~ Aww, that is such an amazing story of the two of you!!! It's great to hear incouraging words!!! LDR's are so hard, but you're completely right! They make you realize what a great thing you have, and they make the time spent together that much more special! And if you can make it through a LDR, then you know you can make it through ANYTHING, because I'm not sure any problem that would arise later on would be anything close to being as hard as an LDR is!!!
~Catch22~ I definitely agree with you there!! It's very much worth while!!!
Well, everyone!! I love this forum! Everyone is just SO extremely nice on here!! It's *Great* I think I'm going to end this thread!! Thank you everyone for all of the WONDERFUL comments!! I hope to keep talking with all of you on here!
GOD Bless!!!
~*~Krista~*~
~Catch22~ I definitely agree with you there!! It's very much worth while!!!
Well, everyone!! I love this forum! Everyone is just SO extremely nice on here!! It's *Great*
I think I'm going to end this thread!! Thank you everyone for all of the WONDERFUL comments!! I hope to keep talking with all of you on here! GOD Bless!!!
~*~Krista~*~
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catch22
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Bravo for this thread!!! MOst of what I hear from my friends is..."it'll never work"....or "why don't you just find someone else, there's plenty of women out there". The thing is, I don't want those other women, I only want one and it's good to hear some encouraging stories about LDR's! God Bless all of you!
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My story is very similar to that of Williams. My now husband was in the NAVY and living in Japan when we discovered that we loved eachother. He proposed, I said yes, he went back to Japan, two years later we were married.
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