I met a man at a church social gathering and we have become real good friends. I was visiting with relatives at the time so I have gone back home and we have been carrying on our friendship long distance. When I met him he was what seemed to be a wonderful guy. I have recently noticed some odd behaviors and they are starting to concern me now for his own safety and well being. I started to suspect something was going on when he would go from calling and being very active in our friendship to just suddenly disappearing then come back again. After a few times I noticed what seemed to be a pattern. He would be around and active with me, very talkative, we would talk for hours at a time, sometimes as much as six hours. We would talk about trips and future plans and then he would stop contacting me all together and not answer calls, mail anything. He was doing this to other people too from what Ive been told.
This last time when he came back he was acting very unlike himself. He wasnt sleeping, for instance, he would be cleaning the gutters of his house at midnight. He would be cleaning or going to the store at 2 AM. He was calling me at 3 and 4 AM and then calling me at 9 AM when he had to go to work and he still wasnt tired. He works at an office so I dont know how he managed to function on so little sleep. He was spending money like there was no limit to it and this was after he almost had his car repossessed and couldnt pay his bills. He suddenly was spending like he hit the lottery with no regard for the financial trouble he is in he was buying anything and everything. He is not a social guy at all but was suddenly going out to eat every night with a friend and going out to pubs too and he hates drinking and the bar scene because he always said its not Christian behavior so this makes no sense. Normally he has social anxieties and cant tolerate crowds or stores for too long so this is not like him. His attitude was like he was better than anyone else and insists that he is gorgeous and that everyone wants him. He was telling "white lies" and laughing alot, talking real loud and going going going. He would say things purposely to upset me, was critical and in a word, a jerk. I had never experienced him being like this. So then, I started to notice that he was slowing down alittle, this was about two to three weeks later. He started to slow down and call less, stopped talking to a couple of other people too. Then, he was gone. Not answering calls and not returning messages. We dont know what to think. He is losing friends and from what he has told me in the past he always lost friends. I think he was in a manic state. That is all I can think of. I dont know how depressed he gets because Im not there to witness it all I can do is go by his friends who say that he wont return their calls either. Some people he talks to, others he doesnt. Its real hard not to get my feelings hurt when he withdraws like he does but maybe he is Bipolar? What do you think?
This last time when he came back he was acting very unlike himself. He wasnt sleeping, for instance, he would be cleaning the gutters of his house at midnight. He would be cleaning or going to the store at 2 AM. He was calling me at 3 and 4 AM and then calling me at 9 AM when he had to go to work and he still wasnt tired. He works at an office so I dont know how he managed to function on so little sleep. He was spending money like there was no limit to it and this was after he almost had his car repossessed and couldnt pay his bills. He suddenly was spending like he hit the lottery with no regard for the financial trouble he is in he was buying anything and everything. He is not a social guy at all but was suddenly going out to eat every night with a friend and going out to pubs too and he hates drinking and the bar scene because he always said its not Christian behavior so this makes no sense. Normally he has social anxieties and cant tolerate crowds or stores for too long so this is not like him. His attitude was like he was better than anyone else and insists that he is gorgeous and that everyone wants him. He was telling "white lies" and laughing alot, talking real loud and going going going. He would say things purposely to upset me, was critical and in a word, a jerk. I had never experienced him being like this. So then, I started to notice that he was slowing down alittle, this was about two to three weeks later. He started to slow down and call less, stopped talking to a couple of other people too. Then, he was gone. Not answering calls and not returning messages. We dont know what to think. He is losing friends and from what he has told me in the past he always lost friends. I think he was in a manic state. That is all I can think of. I dont know how depressed he gets because Im not there to witness it all I can do is go by his friends who say that he wont return their calls either. Some people he talks to, others he doesnt. Its real hard not to get my feelings hurt when he withdraws like he does but maybe he is Bipolar? What do you think?
