Help for my marriage

[ontheedge]

This is my first ever post on any forum anywhere! I have been a committed practicing Christian for 20 years, married for the last 9 years, and yet find myself wanting to have an affair with another woman. As I sit here and try and rationalise my thoughts I am at a loss.
Firstly, I feel that an explanation of our background is needed. We are both educated successfull people, I hold multiple qualifications in a number of academic descipines. We have two energetic yet wonderful children. Due to our geographical location and nature of our work we have no family support and little church support. We are reasonable wealthy and have no money/ work issues to contend with. However, at the present our lives are in a state of transition as we prepare to return home from living overseas for a number of years. Outsiders look at us and often comment on how amazing and blessed we are as a family unit.
Recently I returned home from an overseas trip and my wife was very cold to me. Eventually we talked and she said that she was tired of our marriage, that she had no love for me anymore. I didn't get angry, and instead we talked a lot that night and discussed ways of rebuilding our marriage, and of how it was easy to look outside of the marriage for companionship. She admitted to me that she had recently looked (and only looked) elsewhere, and I correctly guessed who she had looked at, a mutual friend of ours (not much choice where we live). I then admitted to her that I too had looked, and only looked elsewhere, again my wife correctly guessed who I liked. I guess that our correct guesses are evidence of some openess and honesty that exists in our marriage. That night we talked and cuddled. I admit that many of the problems in our marriage come from my drive to succeed at work. Last year I was doing the equiviant of 2 full time jobs, I often work late at night and on the weekends, my wife also works, given our lack of support, we don't have much time for each other.
The next night I sat down on the sofa to again spend some time talking to my wife to rebuild our relationship. She was writing an email on our laptop and didn't want me to read the email. I knew that the email was to the guy that she liked and I got angry. I didn't think that by her continuing her private little friendship with him would help our marriage. She said that it was her business and not mine as to what she wrote. I was quite upset and after that I was in no frame of mind to continue relationship builidng talks with her.
A key question here is should my wife have that right to continue her special friendship? Or is it destructive to our relationship?
My wife left the next day Fri for a planned overseas trip (with our chidren) and will be gone for eleven days. To complicate things my female friend wants me to go to a hotel with her at a tourist resort next week, and I imagine to share a room, possibly bed with her. I have never done this before, and never cheated on my wife, but I am upset and want to go with my female friend.
I have sat here all day and thought about things, and read articles on the internet. The only thing that I have not done is pray....because I already know God's answer. I know the pain that my actions could cause, on the other hand I want intimacy and friendship that I am not currently getting from my wife. And that is the source of my tempation, I am craving for intimacy, and as I think about it there has been little of that in our marriage of late, perhaps we have had sex 5 times in the last year...perhaps. For me that is not enough. In the last year we also have had only one date where we were by ourselves for a couple of hours. I don't know anymore, I just don't know.

Any prayers/ support/ advice would be appreciated

As Paul in Romans said "the good that I want to do...I don't do"

 

[brokenbananas]

Ontheedge -- Don't do it. Don't listen to the lies of the enemy. You already know the right things to do.

The pressures of life, if you let it, can build up and destroy your marriage. Though your communication may be somewhat opened that you guys guessed who you guys each like, that isn't enough. Just making a little strides in talking about this also is a good start, but needs A LOT MORE nurturing.

Imagine eating only a few times a year. How do you think your body would survive? Not very well. You've essentially starved your marriage and now you are getting the results of it. Actually, you've been getting the consequences of those results.

The cool parts are that you have God on your side. He will help you and give you strength. You answered your own question about prayer. Dude, you need to pray and go to God's Word. What He wants you to do specifically is up to Him, not me or anyone else. All I do know is that you are to NOT have this affair with this other woman. Stay away from her.

Yes, you need intimacy, but look to God to meet your intimacy. Meaning, absorb yourself in Him, get to know God better, pour out your heart to Him. Take captive all your thoughts and submit them to Christ. What that means is every time a thought you KNOW that is against God, start quoting Scriptures. I wrote a post earlier this week called "Power - No Fear". That applies to you in your situation.

If you're so financially well off, I'd come back her to the United States and start fresh where you have more family support. When you destroy your marriage, you are also involving your kids. Divorce does very negatively impact children, and do you want to leave that legacy to your children? Don't you want to role model for them on how to have a successful marriage, how to be overcomers, rather than be quitters, or be people who will take the easy route?

Marriage is hard work, hard daily work. You haven't done that. But, it is still not too late. Why are your wife & kids taking an 11 day trip without you? So what regarding the wealth/money/position/status thing if you've destroyed your marriage & family. Time to make some changes. Is your job and money more important than your marriage and family? You've sacrificed enough of your marriage. Now start making better choices.

How I read some of your post was that after years of neglect, you make some intial attempts, and they turn out sort of awry -- so you feel like throwing in the towel. Any successful pro-athlete practices, practices, practices every day making right moves, so when the testing time comes (game day), they can withstand the test. That's similar in marriage -- have you clothed yourself in prayer & the Word of God, surrounded yourselves with people who can pray for you, walking in faith in God, spending time DAILY cultivating your marriage, spending time with your family? If you haven't put in the time you needed, why should you expect that it would turn out differently.

Be empowered. God is on your side and He will help you through this difficult time. He wants success in your marriage. He does want you to make right choices, but you must allow Him to help you. Don't allow feelings to grip you and make you make wrong choices. You have Christ, the indwelling Spirit, to guide you. Your faith is based on the Word of God, not on any feelings.

Go make the right choices,
Doris

 

[lovesong]

Hi ontheedge!

In a nutshell, you're both running ... but in the wrong directions. You've already hit the nail on the head in saying how your focus has been elsewhere except the most important part of your lives .. your marriage. Taking separate trips while leaving the other behind in close proximity of 'the other person' is only opening the door for temptation.

If you have the money you say you have .. go and be with her. Don't give her the time to be online with someone else. And don't allow yourself the time to 'dream' about being with someone else. You need to act .. NOW. You two can sit and talk about rebuilding your marriage, but what have you done about it? How bout making time to be together? Sometimes sacrifices from other things are necessary. But it's worth it in the end!!

May I suggest that you start by listing you priorities. Remember the chain of command .. God first, wife second, kids then you. The job will be there if the Lord wills.

You said you haven't prayed about it because God already knows the answer. My friend, this is all the MORE reason you need to pray .. so that He can reveal His answer to you. This is a common mistake for many Christians .. taking for granted that 'God knows'; taking God for granted, period! You need to fix that first, k?

In your request for prayer, you've also confessed .. to us. This is the time more importantly for you to make that same confession to Him, and ask for healing in your marriage .. to help you to be the husband that she needs, so in turn, she can be the wife that you need. Your wedding vows consisted of three hearts .. yours, hers and the Lords. Never forget that. Ask the Lord to continue to be the strength and love in your marriage.

May God bless and heal you both.

 

[MaraPetra]

You already know what is right in God's eyes. You've successfully identified satan's temptation, and know it for exactly what it is. Adultery is wrong for a reason...In your search for that affectionate touch you have missed, you will find that there are more horrors AFTER the sin. You run the risk of completely destroying the trust you spouse has left in you, as well as the trust and respect of your own children. There will also be a feeling of cheapness to what you are seeking outside of marriage, and a knowing that you are pulling away from God. You're looking at a beautiful golden chalice, not realizing that the inside contains putridity and all things unclean.

I've done the divorce thing, my friend. I have two children, and even though the divorce is years in the past, my kids bear open wounds, not scars, from it. I've torn apart something sacred, and though I did it before I came to God, sometimes I think my heart will never let me forgive myself for what I did to my precious babies.

satan never shows us the ugly side of sin. In ads for alcohol, all of the people drinking are young, healthy and having a good time. Alcohol ads will NEVER show the drunkard who sleeps in a cardboard box and begs openly on the street, and who wants nothing more than a few dollars for his next drink. In ads for cigarettes, the models are potrayed as young, sensual, and beautiful. You'll never see a Marlboro ad where the model is sitting in a wheelchair and puffing on oxygen because he has emphesyma, or where the model is proudly showing off the scars on her flat chest from metastisized lung cancer which spread to the breasts. satan's success in destroying Godly things lies in the fact that he can show the desirable sides, but hide the consequences.

And as I've said on other posts, divorce is satan's ultimate triumph against the holy sacrament of marriage.

And thus is the enemy's lie to you and your wife. The sin itself looks very appealing, but there's a darker side to this that cannot be ignored. You two are both craving something that you are no longer getting from one another, and haven't been getting in some time. But, your answer is not in someone else. Your answer lies in both your spouse and yourself

In you and your spouse's drive for success, the true intimacy of the marriage has been lost. Yes, you say you two are open with one another, but do you talk about the things that truly matter? Do you know what actions/words tell your wife "I love you" without saying a word? Once you get back to the point that you can fulfill your wife's needs, and she yours, sexual temptations cease to exist. You don't search for what you can get at home.

Do the one thing you haven't done yet...PRAY. God knows our hearts, knows our pains, and He cares about what happens to us. Drawing closer to God works miracles that nothing else can.

I can't offer a quick fix, there's none, but here's a few suggestions to get you started. First, PRAY, PRAY, PRAY. Second, buy the book, "The 5 Love Languages". It's an awesome guide for understanding your spouse, and get her to read it as well. Thirdly, seek counseling. If your wife won't go with you, go alone. It's sometimes easier to have an objective third person involved that to try to work out intimate problems, than trying to do it alone (as you saw with the wife's email).

And lastly, don't go on that resort trip. The best way to keep temptation at bay is to avoid it altogether.

PROVERBS 5 deals explicitly with this, and says it more eloquently than I ever could:

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1My son, attend unto my wisdom, and bow thine ear to my understanding: 2That thou mayest regard discretion, and that thy lips may keep knowledge. 3For the lips of a strange woman drop as an honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than oil: 4But her end is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a twoedged sword. 5Her feet go down to death; her steps take hold on hell. 6Lest thou shouldest ponder the path of life, her ways are moveable, that thou canst not know them . 7Hear me now therefore, O ye children, and depart not from the words of my mouth. 8Remove thy way far from her, and come not nigh the door of her house: 9Lest thou give thine honour unto others, and thy years unto the cruel: 10Lest strangers be filled with thy wealth; and thy labours be in the house of a stranger; 11And thou mourn at the last, when thy flesh and thy body are consumed, 12And say, How have I hated instruction, and my heart despised reproof; 13And have not obeyed the voice of my teachers, nor inclined mine ear to them that instructed me! 14I was almost in all evil in the midst of the congregation and assembly. 15Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well. 16Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets. 17Let them be only thine own, and not strangers'with thee. 18Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. 19 Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love. 20And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger? 21For the ways of man are before the eyes of the LORD, and he pondereth all his goings. 22His own iniquities shall take the wicked himself, and he shall be holden with the cords of his sins. 23He shall die without instruction; and in the greatness of his folly he shall go astray.

 

[llghoney]

Great advice from the other posts & please please please DON"T GIVE IN!!!!!!!!

 

[RooMama]

Instead of meeting up with your friend, take a few days off and meet up with your wife and children. Show them that they take priority over work and this other woman.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Success hollow when you stand on top of a mountain and then turn around and only see a crater.

I want to live long enough to have a 50th wedding anniversary. If I can do that then I will have lived a successful life. I don't give a flip what I accomplish at work. If I died tomorrow I can be replaced by thousands of other fools at work. If anything your death would be an inconvenience rather than a sorrow to your profession. But your family cannot replace you.

 

[TheMilkman]

I strongly suggest that you don't have an affair. It will make things much worse on you and give your wife the upperhand if she finds out.

What she is doing is wrong. It is obvious that she is being inconsiderate of your feelings by continuing to engage in a secrative relationship with another man that she admits to having feelings for. If the marriage as become loveless and she continues to act this irresponsibly I would look into a divorce or at minimum go to counsiling with her if she is willing.

 

[Leanna]

Recently I returned home from an overseas trip and my wife was very cold to me. Eventually we talked and she said that she was tired of our marriage, that she had no love for me anymore. I didn't get angry, and instead we talked a lot that night and discussed ways of rebuilding our marriage, and of how it was easy to look outside of the marriage for companionship. She admitted to me that she had recently looked (and only looked) elsewhere, and I correctly guessed who she had looked at, a mutual friend of ours (not much choice where we live). I then admitted to her that I too had looked, and only looked elsewhere, again my wife correctly guessed who I liked. I guess that our correct guesses are evidence of some openess and honesty that exists in our marriage. That night we talked and cuddled. I admit that many of the problems in our marriage come from my drive to succeed at work. Last year I was doing the equiviant of 2 full time jobs, I often work late at night and on the weekends, my wife also works, given our lack of support, we don't have much time for each other.
The next night I sat down on the sofa to again spend some time talking to my wife to rebuild our relationship. She was writing an email on our laptop and didn't want me to read the email. I knew that the email was to the guy that she liked and I got angry. I didn't think that by her continuing her private little friendship with him would help our marriage. She said that it was her business and not mine as to what she wrote. I was quite upset and after that I was in no frame of mind to continue relationship builidng talks with her.
A key question here is should my wife have that right to continue her special friendship? Or is it destructive to our relationship?
My wife left the next day Fri for a planned overseas trip (with our chidren) and will be gone for eleven days. To complicate things my female friend wants me to go to a hotel with her at a tourist resort next week, and I imagine to share a room, possibly bed with her. I have never done this before, and never cheated on my wife, but I am upset and want to go with my female friend.
I have sat here all day and thought about things, and read articles on the internet. The only thing that I have not done is pray....because I already know God's answer. I know the pain that my actions could cause, on the other hand I want intimacy and friendship that I am not currently getting from my wife. And that is the source of my tempation, I am craving for intimacy, and as I think about it there has been little of that in our marriage of late, perhaps we have had sex 5 times in the last year...perhaps. For me that is not enough. In the last year we also have had only one date where we were by ourselves for a couple of hours. I don't know anymore, I just don't know.

Any prayers/ support/ advice would be appreciated

As Paul in Romans said "the good that I want to do...I don't do"

Oh my goodness. This so much reminds me of my husband and I three years ago. Our relationship had drifted and although we had the "perfect" family unit according to our church, my husband was a pastor/minister in training with an internship and in college and I was working to pay for our basic needs. We went to church 3 times a week and were youth leaders.

I am really glad you had that talk, admitting who you like to each other. That is the first step. I remember doing that the first time. Yes, I said first time. I told my husband about my feelings for another guy, a "friend" of ours/mine. We wrote each other lengthy emails, talked on instant messenger and saw each other at work at this point. We were friends and hadn't even hugged or spent time alone except on IM but I knew I really secretly liked him. The other guy told me he liked me. I told my husband about my feelings and we agreed that I should stop talking to him. I knew this was right thing to do because I had read it here: How Affairs Should End.

Here are some excerpts:

"There are three parts to the way affairs should end. The first part is revealing the affair to one's spouse, the second part is never seeing or communicating with the lover again, and the third part is getting through symptoms of withdrawal after a permanent separation takes place. "

"The one having an affair is in no position to bargain, but he or she usually tries anyway. The bargaining effort usually boils down to somehow keeping the lover in the loop. You'd think that the unfaithful spouse would be so aware of his or her weaknesses, and so aware of the pain inflicted, that every effort would be made to avoid further contact with the lover as an act of thoughtfulness to the stunned spouse. But instead, the unfaithful spouse argues that the relationship was "only sexual" or was "emotional but not sexual" or some other peculiar description to prove that continued contact with the lover would be okay."

Now one could easily say that I was not in an affair. Its tough to make that call myself, but I was definitely in a risky place. I looked forward to seeing the other man more than my husband. It sounds like you are both in this place now. Please I ask you not to make the same mistakes we made.

I stopped talking to him at that point. But since my marriage did not improve I felt this empty lonely feeling. I tried to seek help at church but they looked at me like I was an alien. The person I felt most comfortable talking to was the other guy and so after two short weeks I wrote him an email, a casual email just saying hey how are you? And then we started talking on IM and emailing again, but not so intense as before. We were "doing the right thing" and keeping it at a friends level. We both knew just what had happened before was wrong so we thought we were capable of keeping it at an appropriate level. He started telling me about this girl he liked and although I was jealous I knew it was better if he liked someone else. (I later found out that he never stopped liking me) We were so deceived. This entire time that we were "friends" we may not have been having any kind of physical contact but we were still meeting each other's emotional needs in a way that was not appropriate for me as a married woman. After six months of this deception it got worse.... but since you aren't there I will end my story here.

My point is, your wife is clearly in the same place I am. She is emailing the other guy and is more excited about him maybe than you. I don't say that to hurt you but to warn you. You should both stay away from your crushes *at all cost* Please let her read my post, and read the website that I gave the link to.

You know what else freaked me out? I used that very same verse when I was struggling with this. Romans 7:15 "I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do.... for I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. For what I do is not the good I want to do; no, the evil I do not want to do-- this I keep on doing." I felt this way because although I really did know it was wrong to talk to the other guy I absolutely felt like I was powerless to stop. It was like a drug that I was addicted to. It is so hard to describe the feeling. I do feel for your situation and I hope that you are wiser than I was.

 

[Silent Enigma]

My wife and I prayed for you to have the strength to do the right thing and to soften your wife's heart. Sounds like this all has been years in the making.

Any why on earth did you need to work the equivalent of 2 full time jobs?

 

[agyevesam]

There is nothing that I can add, that hasn't already been said. But it sounds like you already know the answer. You know that there is no way you can go away with "the other women" and then return home and continue with your marriage!! You owe it to your wife and yourself to try and work things out. If things don't work out, at least you won't have adultery to live with!!

You and your wife are in my prayers. For your sake, your children, and your wife, stay at home and try again.... Keep trying....Find a reason to fall back in love with your wife. This other woman is just a crush, not your wife. The woman that you marrried, Holy Matrimony!!

God Bless You

 

[Beth1231]

Go and meet your wife and children and lay down your life for them on their overseas trip. This is what I would do if at all possible. It won't be like a movie where you instantly fall in love again and the kids are perfect. But it will be a huge leap in the right direction and more importantly, you will will both be with each other..where you belong. And when your wife is enamored by this other daydream of hers, she won't be able to push away the fact that you came overseas just to say "you are worth it. I want to rebuild our marriage at all costs." And, of course, you are going to have to pray. I wouldn't pray about the other lady (who will cause you great pain in the end). Instead, I would pray hard that the trip overseas would be a time of softened hearts and reopened doors. Affairs end in heartache. A hurt far worse than what you are now experiencing and I'm sure you know this. Pray and book that trip ASAP!!

 

[heartnsoul]

Deep down, you know adultery is wrong and never solves anything...it just creates more problems. If you truly want your marriage to work, you will need to do much more than just simply talking to her for two nights and then wanting to have passionate sex with her. Forgive me for being honest here, but it's your dedication to your business that caused you to take time away from your marriage and your wife. So, the answer is for you to now put your wife 1st and your job second. You will have to go the extra mile and it will take lots of time to win her heart back. It's understandable why your wife's heart grew cold since she was emotionally and physically abandoned/neglected due to your work. Both of you have some serious communication and trust issues to work out now...especially since both of you have mutually turned to emotional affairs with other people.

First and foremost, I recommend that you stop communicating with that female friend of yours who is making sexual advances. Secondly, begin going to counseling for yourself and find a marital counselor that both of you can go to. It will be a very long and painful process to rebuild your marriage, but it can be done so long as you make the commitment to God and put God and your marriage as the highest priority in your life.

It's time now to take the focus off of yourself and your job. Commit yourself to be successful in God's eyes and in your marriage. May God give you the wisdom and humility to do the right thing. Praying things work out for you and your marriage.

 

[SomeRandomGuy]

should my wife have that right to continue her special friendship?

To answer that question, I would say no, your wife shouldn’t continue with her special friendship. However, given the critical stage your marriage appears to be in, I would not push to see the email or even try to dig it up. Just leave it alone and don’t worry about it. I would not force anything from her at all. I think that would only push her further away.

I know of a couple who had drifted apart emotionally and separated. To mend their marriage they decided to make breakfast on Saturday mornings their weekly ‘date’. Even though, for the first six months, the weekly breakfasts were a chore, each was determined to keep going. They are now a very close couple and continue their weekly tradition to this day.

It seems like the two of you need to seriously focus on each other, not on work. Do lots of family things and set aside weekly dates. As a husband and friend to your wife, your first priority after following God is to make sure her needs are met. Ensure that she knows that you desire to be there for her and that work is, and always will be, second.

Hope that helps

edit: tipoh

 

[PastorofMuppets]

It sounds like your marriage is in crisis mode.
I think that if you value your marriage you need to
cancel your trip abroad, and perhaps look for another job that will allow you to be home more. Dont cross that threshold, you can never walk back. Even if she forgives you, you will always have to deal with being an adulterer. its not to late to steer clear of that road.
God is willing to restore your marriage, you just have to be willing to do whatever it takes and show that your marriage is the top priority above work, business. I would highly suggest getting a different job, even if you have to move to a smaller house and make less, if your marriage is on the line isnt it worth it.

 

[Devasha]

Instead of focusing on the marriage at this time, try focusing on your relationship with YHVH. Read Proverbs 5, 6 and 7 to hear his teaching and substitute your own name and/or personal pronouns where appropriate. Hebrews 10:26-31 is crystal clear and is the final answer to the Romans passage (blue edits used to demonstrate personalization for better awareness):

If ontheedge deliberately keeps on sinning after he has received the knowledge of the truth, no sacrifice for sins is left, but only a fearful expectation of judgment and of raging fire that will consume the enemies of God. Anyone who rejected the law of Moses died without mercy on the testimony of two or three witnesses. How much more severely do you think ontheedge deserves to be punished who has trampled the Son of God under foot, who has treated as an unholy thing the blood of the covenant that sanctified him, and who has insulted the Spirit of grace? For we know him who said, "It is mine to avenge; I will repay." and again, "The Lord will judge ontheedge." IT IS A DREADFUL THING TO FALL INTO THE HANDS OF THE LIVING GOD.

It always helps me to personalize the Scriptures this way to more fully comprehend what YHVH is telling me. Also, speaking the Word out loud helps because "faith comes by hearing". This tends to give me ears to hear, and I hope it does the same for you.

To summarize, when we deliberately sin, we are:

• Trampling the Son of God under foot
• Treating the blood of the covenant as an unholy thing
• Insulting the Spirit of grace

Fear of God is what you need right now more than anything else--He has told us that fear of Him is the beginning of wisdom, so I implore you to start there.

 

[janny108]

Instead of meeting up with your friend, take a few days off and meet up with your wife and children. Show them that they take priority over work and this other woman.

Excellent idea!
Jan

 

[revjayman]

Firstly, I feel that an explanation of our background is needed. We are both educated successfull people, I hold multiple qualifications in a number of academic descipines. We have two energetic yet wonderful children. Due to our geographical location and nature of our work we have no family support and little church support. We are reasonable wealthy and have no money/ work issues to contend with. However, at the present our lives are in a state of transition as we prepare to return home from living overseas for a number of years. Outsiders look at us and often comment on how amazing and blessed we are as a family unit.

You have to make a choice and step back from your career. Wealth and success cannot compare to joy and God's kingdom.

If you choose to go outside God's moral will, what joy you have will be replaced with guilt, depression, high anexity, and other emotional problems and will eventually lead you down to the path of spiritual descruction
Is is worth it? Not in my opinion!

The immediate solution, is you need accountablity, you need a REAL man to pray with and talk this over to and not someone of the opposite sex.

Rev

 

[ontheedge]

Thanks all
For your support, prayers, verses, encouragement, and admonishment. I am certainly seeing things a lot clearer. Here are some answers to some of the questions/ suggestions that people made.
a) Why do I work so much? ANS. Hmmm difficult to say, opportunities were there to gain good experience so I took those opportunities. They were in the form of one year contracts which have now finished. Recently I have cut down my work load considerably, and there are more changes ahead next year. I even recently suggested to my wife that we buy a farm somewhere and go grow cows and chill out.
b) I looked into getting an air ticket and going to see my family over Christmas...but it was not practical....athough this was a great suggestion, and I really wanted to do it.
c) Regarding my friend....I am NOT going to the tourist hotel with her. I feel embarassed that my own thoughts and desires have deceived me so much. Adultery is definitely not the path to down. I am also going to say goodbye to her... I have only started to realise how damaging emotional affairs can be to marriages, her friendship has placed my wife's friendship. It is time to reverse that trend.

Finally I am feeling optimistic about my marriage. Certainly changes have to be made, work has to be done, but it is not impossible. I really know that God placed my wife and I together, I know that from the special circumstances of our meeting. I want to continue travelling down that road...but with more prayer to God and more commitment to my wife.
Thanking you greatly

 

[heartnsoul]

Amen, great news! May God's love help your marriage heal. God bless you.