Help for my 12 year old nephew

[New Creation]

My almost 13 year old nephew lives with my husband and I because his mother is no longer able to care for him. It looks like he will be with us until he is grown up.
His mom is still using and is experiencing cocaine psychosis- she is telling him that people are trying to kill her and that they are coming after him too. (she lives 3000 miles away from us) I just found this out this morning. When he comes home from vacation bible school, I'm going to let him know the extent of her illness because he has to know that he is NOT in danger and that no one is trying to kill his mother.
My husband and I have been truthful with him so far but didn't think he needed to know all the gory details. Unfortunately, we have to let him in on some of them.
My question is- do any of you know of any web sites or message boards for kids- and specifially Christian kids who have parents who are addicts? Somewhere he can go to to know that he's not the only one?
Any and all other advice is welcome.
Our youth pastor returns from a 2 month trip to Africa soon and we are going to talk to her about things.

 

[Annoula]

dear friend,

it is a great spiritual challenge to care for ur nephew when his mother is not well.

i don't know of any websites that could assist ur nephew, but this site can give him some support.
have u thought of talking to a professional about it? they may have some good suggestions. of course ur pastor can be very valuable, but sometimes specialized professional help is a good thing. perhaps the professional can explain his mother condition in a neutral and better way to the boy. he can have the chance to ask questions and get valid answers.

i wish u all the best with ur nephew and i somehow envy u for this great challenge u r facing. we r in this world to learn and u have the chance to learn so many things.

good luck... may Christ enlighten ur way...

 

[BlondieLashes]

Hi New Creation! Wow! You have a lot to try to figure out. You, your hubby and your nephew have a lot to deal with!!!

I am not aware of any websites for kids who's parents are addicts....there is always al-anon, but you would have to make sure it is a Christian group before taking him.

I will pray for you and your hubby and your nephew! The one thing I know you know is to show him lots of unconditional love!!!!! He is lucky to have you!!!

-BlondieLashes

 

[New Creation]

Thanks for your prayers folks. I know something will come along. God always takes care of us.

 

[Imani]

Hey NC

Don't know if this will help, but I did a quick search, and came up with these site. Maybe one of these organisations could give you / your nephew more info or contacts or something.

http://alt.samhsa.gov/samhsa_news/VolumeXI_2/article5.htm
http://www.nacoa.org/
http://www.freevibe.com/
http://www.bettyfordcenter.org/children/childresources.php
http://www.heroinhelp.net/our_kids_page.htm
http://www.familiesanonymous.org/

hope one of these might help somehow...

Love you!
Imani

 

[GabrielW]

Dear friend

There is a program called Al-Anon that is for family members of alcoholics/addicts. They have meetings and it is a support group based around 12 steps, you can google it and find numbers for meeting and offices in your area. I myself am a recovering alcoholic. I got sober at 17 and I'd be willing to talk to him if you'd like

 

[Zita123]

Has gotton so many young to older kids off a lot of stuff and also through a lot of stuff with thier families.
Victory Tabernacle Church in Ct.
It has been the best experience of my life watching how they help all age children!!
My prayers are also with you and yours!
GOD BLESS YOOU ALL!!
Zita

 

[New Creation]

Hey NC

Don't know if this will help, but I did a quick search, and came up with these site. Maybe one of these organisations could give you / your nephew more info or contacts or something.

http://alt.samhsa.gov/samhsa_news/VolumeXI_2/article5.htm
http://www.nacoa.org/
http://www.freevibe.com/
http://www.bettyfordcenter.org/children/childresources.php
http://www.heroinhelp.net/our_kids_page.htm
http://www.familiesanonymous.org/

hope one of these might help somehow...

Love you!
Imani

Thanks Sara,
I will definitely look into these.
I love you too.

 

[New Creation]

Dear friend

There is a program called Al-Anon that is for family members of alcoholics/addicts. They have meetings and it is a support group based around 12 steps, you can google it and find numbers for meeting and offices in your area. I myself am a recovering alcoholic. I got sober at 17 and I'd be willing to talk to him if you'd like

I am familiar with Al-anon (since I'm a recovering alcoholic too- hey brother )
but I wasn't sure that they were for drug addicts as well. We live in a very remote area with a small population. I know there is an AA meeting place around here but I'll look into Al-anon as well. Thanks for the suggestion brother.

 

[TIMMAH]

Alanon has an off branch for YOUNG members called "Alateen". Id defiently suggest that. Id post the link but im to new lol.

 

[GabrielW]

I've never heard about Alateen, good or bad, but I've heard it's not too organized... But it's all hearsay

 

[Newsboy1900]

My almost 13 year old nephew lives with my husband and I because his mother is no longer able to care for him. It looks like he will be with us until he is grown up.
His mom is still using and is experiencing cocaine psychosis- she is telling him that people are trying to kill her and that they are coming after him too. (she lives 3000 miles away from us) I just found this out this morning. When he comes home from vacation bible school, I'm going to let him know the extent of her illness because he has to know that he is NOT in danger and that no one is trying to kill his mother.
My husband and I have been truthful with him so far but didn't think he needed to know all the gory details. Unfortunately, we have to let him in on some of them.
My question is- do any of you know of any web sites or message boards for kids- and specifially Christian kids who have parents who are addicts? Somewhere he can go to to know that he's not the only one?
Any and all other advice is welcome.
Our youth pastor returns from a 2 month trip to Africa soon and we are going to talk to her about things.

You need to report his mother and or take her to a police officer and they will force her to goto rehab. or get her to go.

 

[GabrielW]

You need to report his mother and or take her to a police officer and they will force her to goto rehab. or get her to go.

Rehab doesn't work unless the person is willing to quit.

 

[Newsboy1900]

Rehab doesn't work unless the person is willing to quit.

lol sure it does if it comes to them not being able to stay off herion being in a restrivtie rehab will detox her and she will think right at least for a few days at most and she can decide to stop. CAUSE you know anyone who has been on herion long enough wants to quit at some level trust me i know