Ok, I'm big into this whole "out with dating, in with courtship" thing. I have never gone out with another girl in my life, and I'm proud of it.
Here's the story ... it's pretty cool actually.
Four years ago, I was having my quiet time, and I just felt God was giving some kind of weird "block" about a girl I knew. It was kind of weird because I knew her (more like an acquaintance), but I had never considered her at all and I didn't have any issues with her.
It stayed for several days, and after a while I thought, okay, maybe God is trying to say something about her and me. So for a while I thought about whether it might make sense or not. And just about everything did. I've got a fantastic relationship with lots of people in her extended family. Her Dad even called me over at work on my 21st birthday to pray blessing over me like a father would (how weird is that?). We are both called to ministry in worship and we used to lead Sunday School worship together. She has an amazing passion for God. If I were to say, "God's called us to go to Mongolia", she's the kind that we say "Cool! When are we leaving?" (how many others could say that?). She's very pretty with a beautiful figure and dresses in a way that I find very attractive. She's a good talker and I'm a good listener. We're both very creative.
So, because she was 6 years younger than me, and because it wasn't the right time, I prayed and thought about it for the last four years!
My big question was whether we could actually get on and be best friends. I should mention here that I study at a university a thousand miles away from home and from where she stays. Anyway, when I went home two years ago, we got to lead an outdoor kids camp together, and I said God, this is a big test of this. And we got on so well, it was really cool!
So, four years later, I feel it's time to make a move.
I spoke to my brother, and he was a bit shocked at first, but he though it was cool. Now my plan when I get home is to speak to my parents and then to the girl's father. That may surprise some of you, but that's the proper way to go about it. Her father is actually quite strict about this and has intervened before in another relationship she had. I'm sure he'll have plenty of good advice if he thinks I'm on the right track.
Now I asked some friends (Christian girls) about this, because I thought that in some round-about way that I would mention to this girl something along the lines that I felt God was speaking about us being together. But they said No! They would run away. Their advice was to start off as friends, and then build things nice and slowly and so on.
Ok, that's all a little bit weird, because it's going to seem a little bit weird saying "Hey, you want to be friends?" Ehem, I think that will sound full of "please read between the lines".
So how would you go about it ... dive in the deep end, tip toe around the shallow end?
Here's the story ... it's pretty cool actually.
Four years ago, I was having my quiet time, and I just felt God was giving some kind of weird "block" about a girl I knew. It was kind of weird because I knew her (more like an acquaintance), but I had never considered her at all and I didn't have any issues with her.
It stayed for several days, and after a while I thought, okay, maybe God is trying to say something about her and me. So for a while I thought about whether it might make sense or not. And just about everything did. I've got a fantastic relationship with lots of people in her extended family. Her Dad even called me over at work on my 21st birthday to pray blessing over me like a father would (how weird is that?). We are both called to ministry in worship and we used to lead Sunday School worship together. She has an amazing passion for God. If I were to say, "God's called us to go to Mongolia", she's the kind that we say "Cool! When are we leaving?" (how many others could say that?). She's very pretty with a beautiful figure and dresses in a way that I find very attractive. She's a good talker and I'm a good listener. We're both very creative.
So, because she was 6 years younger than me, and because it wasn't the right time, I prayed and thought about it for the last four years!
My big question was whether we could actually get on and be best friends. I should mention here that I study at a university a thousand miles away from home and from where she stays. Anyway, when I went home two years ago, we got to lead an outdoor kids camp together, and I said God, this is a big test of this. And we got on so well, it was really cool!
So, four years later, I feel it's time to make a move.
I spoke to my brother, and he was a bit shocked at first, but he though it was cool. Now my plan when I get home is to speak to my parents and then to the girl's father. That may surprise some of you, but that's the proper way to go about it. Her father is actually quite strict about this and has intervened before in another relationship she had. I'm sure he'll have plenty of good advice if he thinks I'm on the right track.
Now I asked some friends (Christian girls) about this, because I thought that in some round-about way that I would mention to this girl something along the lines that I felt God was speaking about us being together. But they said No! They would run away. Their advice was to start off as friends, and then build things nice and slowly and so on.
Ok, that's all a little bit weird, because it's going to seem a little bit weird saying "Hey, you want to be friends?" Ehem, I think that will sound full of "please read between the lines".
So how would you go about it ... dive in the deep end, tip toe around the shallow end?
