Hi there. I have been a Christian going on 7 years. I have experienced some sexually desires I've never had before as far as watching pornography while masterbating. I've never had this problem before. It just came out of nowhere. For the last week I've been dealing with this. Even though my husband and I are active some of the times. How do i stop this? I feel disgusting and condemned. Thank you.
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Pal Handy
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You could stop it...
The more you continue, the harder it will be to quit.
You have opened the door to something that will never be a benefit
to you, your husband or your marriage.
The first thing to do is
pray and ask for forgiveness while asking God to give you the strength
to deny the sin of lust and to instead to put your energy into making
your walk with God deeper and to love your husband as Christ loves you.
Remove any temptation, even if you have to stay away from the internet
until you can build up the strength to deny your temptation.
God will help you but you must be willing to pray and surrender this to Him
while doing your part to deny this sin in your life.
1 Corinthians 10:13
No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it.
It takes effort to make a marriage work so even though your marriage seems ok now,
the devil will try very hard to put a wedge between you and your husband by entraping you
in lust and taking away your desire to be with your husband as God designed marriage to be.
Hope this helps....
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tell your husband and ask him to help you (not trying to be funny); he might be struggling with the same thing. once it's out in the open between the two of you, much of it's strength will fade - the devil is actually tring to get you two to split up, and this is the tiny chisel that is intended to crack the giant boulder
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To add to what Pal said, pornography will never satisfy you it will only leave you more 'hungry' and lead you into darker places. It's a poor shadow of what real love and intimacy is.
Also, you need to replace the sin and temptation with other better things. Whether that's the love of your husband or a deeper understanding of God and His love. Even if you feel condemned, this is the time to be seeking out the Lord even more. You may need to seek out marriage counsel to reestablished your marriage.
Sin in our lives is often a result of us seeking after what we need in the wrong places. We end up replacing God with lesser things when only He can give us the value, acceptance, identity, security we're looking for.
Also, you need to replace the sin and temptation with other better things. Whether that's the love of your husband or a deeper understanding of God and His love. Even if you feel condemned, this is the time to be seeking out the Lord even more. You may need to seek out marriage counsel to reestablished your marriage.
Sin in our lives is often a result of us seeking after what we need in the wrong places. We end up replacing God with lesser things when only He can give us the value, acceptance, identity, security we're looking for.
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Porn is no good, focuses on the physical & totally misses the important part of intimacy inside marriage. Forget the porn. If hubby is boring in bed, talk to him about what you both may enjoy. . . could be he is afraid to ask. If you have a satisfying sex life, the desire to do what you know is wrong, fades away.
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I agree with iambren.
There must be something that started it, and is triggering it. A person, a situation, or an emotion.
Like any addiction, going cold turkey might help. But if the desire it still there the problem is still there. Ask the Lord to take the desire away.
There must be something that started it, and is triggering it. A person, a situation, or an emotion.
Like any addiction, going cold turkey might help. But if the desire it still there the problem is still there. Ask the Lord to take the desire away.
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You might want to take this to the women's or married couple's area. Just a thought.
Since this has only been going on for a week, you're in a good place to put a quick and complete stop to it. Get rid of any pornographic materials in your home (magazines, DVD's). If it's something you're doing online, activate some of the parental controls on your PC that will prohibit you from visiting those websites. If that's too tempting and easy to get around, download or purchase something that your husband can install and control the passwords and permissions for.
Does your husband even know about what's going on?
You also need to seek healing and help from God on this. Porn is damaging to us spiritually and psychologically. Those wounds don't heal on their own. Confess it to Him and then rely on His strength to resist the temptations in the future.
But DEFINITELY find someone to be accountable to, whether it's your husband or a strong Christian female acquaintance, or even a female counselor.
Since this has only been going on for a week, you're in a good place to put a quick and complete stop to it. Get rid of any pornographic materials in your home (magazines, DVD's). If it's something you're doing online, activate some of the parental controls on your PC that will prohibit you from visiting those websites. If that's too tempting and easy to get around, download or purchase something that your husband can install and control the passwords and permissions for.
Does your husband even know about what's going on?
You also need to seek healing and help from God on this. Porn is damaging to us spiritually and psychologically. Those wounds don't heal on their own. Confess it to Him and then rely on His strength to resist the temptations in the future.
But DEFINITELY find someone to be accountable to, whether it's your husband or a strong Christian female acquaintance, or even a female counselor.
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