Hello! I'm new here, just stumbled upon it. I am a member of Talk Jesus which is another Christian forum. I actually posted this question over there but it hasn't been answered yet so I'm hoping maybe here it will be. I guess I'm not looking for an answer, just some help... So here goes:
I was with my boyfriend for 1 year and 7 months. He was my first relationship and I was his first relationship too. We broke up at the end of May by a mutual agreement and talked about getting back together later on. We both love each other and both wanted to be together forever. Well, obviously now we are not together but, like i said, it is hopefully just a break and I do still love him and want to be with him and only him forever. So I've been praying and praying that God will heal our relationship.
Most of the reasons why we broke up are my fault, quite frankly I was horrible to him. But I have been blessed during this time because God has brought me back to HIM and I now have a renewed and strengthened relationship with God and its really incredible; I never knew God really cared so much about me. So since I was the "bad-guy" in the relationship, really the only thing in the relationship that needed changing was me, and now that I have a relationship with Christ I really have been transformed. And I still love my bf and am still praying that God will heal our relationship and lead us back together, in HIS love and glory.
I know it is God's will that, if we choose to marry, we marry a believer and go about dating, and courting, and marriage all by God's rules and all under HIS love. And I know that because this is HIS will he will bless these prayers according to 1 John 5:14-15. So I am praying that God will heal this relationship.
The only problem is my bf is not a Christian. And I know that God doesn't want us to be with unbelievers. But He does want us to be with people that have values and morals. Well I still really love my bf and still really want to be with him forever, and I'm scared that it may not be in God's will because he is not a believer.
I've been praying about this for about 3 months now and they say once you find Christ, your desires will be transformed to align with His. Well my desires have definitely changed. I used to just want my bf back because I missed a boy in my life, but now I feel like God may want to use me to convert him. A Christian friend of mine told me sometimes God will take you away from someone or something to refocus your life on Him; then He will condition you in His love so that you may go out and serve Him in this world. Like I said, I've been praying about this for awhile, and a lot of interesting coincidences have occurred in these months. They definitely could be God speaking to me, but I want some other Christian opinions on the situation.
My bf is a very amazing guy, sometimes i just think he's confused about God. He's not against God. In fact he hangs out with Christian people, he's been to church more times than I have in my life, he goes to youth groups, and he listens to Christian music. He doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't party, doesn't cuss, is ambitious in school and his life, and he doesn't believe in sex before marriage. He doesn't believe in recreational dating and wants very much to marry his one life love and have a family. Oh... and he started going to church again with a good Christian friend of mine. Its like he has all the "Christian qualities" but doesn't have Christ. And I think that is because his family is not religious and he's never been really introduced to God.
And that's where i feel i could come in. Sometimes I feel God may want me to be the one to introduce him to Jesus. I've re-established my faith, and now I've got my whole family going to church! So I'm re-establishing God in my family as well. And now I feel i can establish Christ in my bf's life.
I've had this desire for a long time and honestly I think about it 24/7. And I pray about it every night... but then i read about not being un-equally yoked and I think I could be doing something wrong. I don't want to disobey God. But i also want to show my bf this new life I've discovered in Christ. He's been through a lot of hardship in his life and I want to show him that God can heal his heart in ways nothing/no one else ever could. Sometimes i feel like he really wants to know Jesus, but is just confused because of his family. One time someone told him that God hated him and he got pretty sad, and i told him God loves him, but because of that he said he doesn't know what to believe. But I feel like he has the want to know Jesus, and I feel like God may want to use me to bring him to Jesus. I feel like if i could be an example to my bf of the healing and transforming power of God, then he'll finally see and understand God's love.
I'm confused because I feel bad about wanting to marry this guy and loving him when he is not a believer. But i also know how badly he wants/needs God and I want so desperately to show him the new life I now have from God. Could this desire be a desire form God? Or should I leave him for good because he's not a believer?
I was with my boyfriend for 1 year and 7 months. He was my first relationship and I was his first relationship too. We broke up at the end of May by a mutual agreement and talked about getting back together later on. We both love each other and both wanted to be together forever. Well, obviously now we are not together but, like i said, it is hopefully just a break and I do still love him and want to be with him and only him forever. So I've been praying and praying that God will heal our relationship.
Most of the reasons why we broke up are my fault, quite frankly I was horrible to him. But I have been blessed during this time because God has brought me back to HIM and I now have a renewed and strengthened relationship with God and its really incredible; I never knew God really cared so much about me. So since I was the "bad-guy" in the relationship, really the only thing in the relationship that needed changing was me, and now that I have a relationship with Christ I really have been transformed. And I still love my bf and am still praying that God will heal our relationship and lead us back together, in HIS love and glory.
I know it is God's will that, if we choose to marry, we marry a believer and go about dating, and courting, and marriage all by God's rules and all under HIS love. And I know that because this is HIS will he will bless these prayers according to 1 John 5:14-15. So I am praying that God will heal this relationship.
The only problem is my bf is not a Christian. And I know that God doesn't want us to be with unbelievers. But He does want us to be with people that have values and morals. Well I still really love my bf and still really want to be with him forever, and I'm scared that it may not be in God's will because he is not a believer.
I've been praying about this for about 3 months now and they say once you find Christ, your desires will be transformed to align with His. Well my desires have definitely changed. I used to just want my bf back because I missed a boy in my life, but now I feel like God may want to use me to convert him. A Christian friend of mine told me sometimes God will take you away from someone or something to refocus your life on Him; then He will condition you in His love so that you may go out and serve Him in this world. Like I said, I've been praying about this for awhile, and a lot of interesting coincidences have occurred in these months. They definitely could be God speaking to me, but I want some other Christian opinions on the situation.
My bf is a very amazing guy, sometimes i just think he's confused about God. He's not against God. In fact he hangs out with Christian people, he's been to church more times than I have in my life, he goes to youth groups, and he listens to Christian music. He doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't party, doesn't cuss, is ambitious in school and his life, and he doesn't believe in sex before marriage. He doesn't believe in recreational dating and wants very much to marry his one life love and have a family. Oh... and he started going to church again with a good Christian friend of mine. Its like he has all the "Christian qualities" but doesn't have Christ. And I think that is because his family is not religious and he's never been really introduced to God.
And that's where i feel i could come in. Sometimes I feel God may want me to be the one to introduce him to Jesus. I've re-established my faith, and now I've got my whole family going to church! So I'm re-establishing God in my family as well. And now I feel i can establish Christ in my bf's life.
I've had this desire for a long time and honestly I think about it 24/7. And I pray about it every night... but then i read about not being un-equally yoked and I think I could be doing something wrong. I don't want to disobey God. But i also want to show my bf this new life I've discovered in Christ. He's been through a lot of hardship in his life and I want to show him that God can heal his heart in ways nothing/no one else ever could. Sometimes i feel like he really wants to know Jesus, but is just confused because of his family. One time someone told him that God hated him and he got pretty sad, and i told him God loves him, but because of that he said he doesn't know what to believe. But I feel like he has the want to know Jesus, and I feel like God may want to use me to bring him to Jesus. I feel like if i could be an example to my bf of the healing and transforming power of God, then he'll finally see and understand God's love.
I'm confused because I feel bad about wanting to marry this guy and loving him when he is not a believer. But i also know how badly he wants/needs God and I want so desperately to show him the new life I now have from God. Could this desire be a desire form God? Or should I leave him for good because he's not a believer?
