Wel, I have given up the hotel. I have a friend who just had surgery. I will go stay with her. I might as well do something for someone else and get my mind off of myself.
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Don't just listen to the Word...Do what it says.
Addy; I'm glad you are sticking around and sharing. talking and seeing things in print can be a real eye opener!
I am actually at work right now, so should really be getting it done
I just wanted to mention, that children are a huge blessing from the Lord but we also have a responsability to raise them as God commands us too.
If you have read some of the earlier posts, you will see that I have mentioned a few times that I love my kids to death...but if I was faced with the decision to marry my DH again and have children with him, I would not. I was wrong when I married him, I disobeyed God but I cannot turn back time so I must do the best I can to obey God and not dishonor my husband. What a tightrope walk that is some days!
Seek the Lord, research what the Bible says about being a wife, do not focus on the mother part right now. Focus on the wife and the sectins on being married to unbelievers. God has some very specific directions for us.
God Bless you sister...I am praying for you!
I am actually at work right now, so should really be getting it done
I just wanted to mention, that children are a huge blessing from the Lord but we also have a responsability to raise them as God commands us too.
If you have read some of the earlier posts, you will see that I have mentioned a few times that I love my kids to death...but if I was faced with the decision to marry my DH again and have children with him, I would not. I was wrong when I married him, I disobeyed God but I cannot turn back time so I must do the best I can to obey God and not dishonor my husband. What a tightrope walk that is some days!
Seek the Lord, research what the Bible says about being a wife, do not focus on the mother part right now. Focus on the wife and the sectins on being married to unbelievers. God has some very specific directions for us.
God Bless you sister...I am praying for you!
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free4all
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Addy,
I'm sorry for the situation you are in.
Also, part of my first response was based on him being a practicing Moslem, or an unpracticing Moslem who might decide to practice someday. I missed the mark on that.
What does he think about children? Does he want any? Is he giving you this ultimatum because he thinks you will give in?
This may not apply to you, but if you end up having a child, I would not respect dh's wishes to not teach the child about Jesus. I would not obey his directives for two reasons:
1) It's the right thing to do. We are called to train our children up in the Lord. This is the end-all of any argument, IMO.
2) He already agreed to this before you married, and that was part of the package. Too late for him to change his mind now. He's lost that option. If he doesn't like it, he can leave. Then, IMO, you would be free to remarry. At the very least, there would once again be peace in your home.
Of course, such a response would likely result in many arguments and a divided house, but that is something many of us deal with also. I mention this in case your bc is not ironclad, or in case you two do have a child and you choose to teach about Jesus.
I don't see any easy answers to your dilemma. What do you believe you should do? What do you feel God is telling you? What do you have peace about?
I'm sorry for the situation you are in.
Also, part of my first response was based on him being a practicing Moslem, or an unpracticing Moslem who might decide to practice someday. I missed the mark on that.
What does he think about children? Does he want any? Is he giving you this ultimatum because he thinks you will give in?
This may not apply to you, but if you end up having a child, I would not respect dh's wishes to not teach the child about Jesus. I would not obey his directives for two reasons:
1) It's the right thing to do. We are called to train our children up in the Lord. This is the end-all of any argument, IMO.
2) He already agreed to this before you married, and that was part of the package. Too late for him to change his mind now. He's lost that option. If he doesn't like it, he can leave. Then, IMO, you would be free to remarry. At the very least, there would once again be peace in your home.
Of course, such a response would likely result in many arguments and a divided house, but that is something many of us deal with also. I mention this in case your bc is not ironclad, or in case you two do have a child and you choose to teach about Jesus.
I don't see any easy answers to your dilemma. What do you believe you should do? What do you feel God is telling you? What do you have peace about?
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Thank you all for your prayers.
Lord only knows I was praying without ceasing with it came to this issue. I really am glad I left. It gave me time to spend time with the Lord and get quite and hear from him. I prayed and prayed and asked for his guidance in my words and manner.
I even placed hands on him while he was sleep and prayed for him. That if anything had control of his mind that it be loosed in Jesus name. He started moving away from me in his sleep and I held firm and started praying even harder.
Later, I set up a meeting for us to talk.... And guess what.... He agreed. He said that he is fighting a loosing battle anyway. He has not choice because he can not live without me... (We will see how long this last.) He admitted to be scared, selfish, and immature. He said he can not make a promise of how he is going to react in the future, but he said for my sake he will try.
Ok, now we have to see what happens next. I got words. Now we will see if actions will follow.
I must in constant prayer for my husband. I have to remember, even when things look good. Keep praying! You never know when those pesky vines are growing.
Thank you all for you prayers!!!! This is just the beginning. Why? Cause the Devil is Busy!
Lord only knows I was praying without ceasing with it came to this issue. I really am glad I left. It gave me time to spend time with the Lord and get quite and hear from him. I prayed and prayed and asked for his guidance in my words and manner.
I even placed hands on him while he was sleep and prayed for him. That if anything had control of his mind that it be loosed in Jesus name. He started moving away from me in his sleep and I held firm and started praying even harder.
Later, I set up a meeting for us to talk.... And guess what.... He agreed. He said that he is fighting a loosing battle anyway. He has not choice because he can not live without me... (We will see how long this last.) He admitted to be scared, selfish, and immature. He said he can not make a promise of how he is going to react in the future, but he said for my sake he will try.
Ok, now we have to see what happens next. I got words. Now we will see if actions will follow.
I must in constant prayer for my husband. I have to remember, even when things look good. Keep praying! You never know when those pesky vines are growing.
Thank you all for you prayers!!!! This is just the beginning. Why? Cause the Devil is Busy!
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free4all
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Addy,
Thanks for the update. So, he agreed to let you raise any children you have in church?
If so, that sounds like the best you could hope for at this point! Yes, later it will likely be difficult at some point again, and you'll have to stand your ground again... but thank God for the agreement you two have reached!
Now just be prepared to hold him to it when the going gets rough. Never waiver, even for a moment.
Thanks for the update. So, he agreed to let you raise any children you have in church?
If so, that sounds like the best you could hope for at this point! Yes, later it will likely be difficult at some point again, and you'll have to stand your ground again... but thank God for the agreement you two have reached!
Now just be prepared to hold him to it when the going gets rough. Never waiver, even for a moment.
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*So, he agreed to let you raise any children you have in church?
Yes, he agreed. He said he did not like it, but he had no choice.
* Yes, later it will likely be difficult at some point again, and you'll have to stand your ground again...
True, you get a moment to rest. But there will always be more attacks.
I'm sure I will be boo hooing again at some point. And when that point comes, I will lean on God and get busy praying and act when I hear from him.
Yes, he agreed. He said he did not like it, but he had no choice.
* Yes, later it will likely be difficult at some point again, and you'll have to stand your ground again...
True, you get a moment to rest. But there will always be more attacks.
I'm sure I will be boo hooing again at some point. And when that point comes, I will lean on God and get busy praying and act when I hear from him.
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Just remember to build your strong foundation in Christ now in full view of your dh. It's best to attend church weekly, regularly fellowship with Christians, read the Bible everyday, talk with God on a regular basis, and say grace. Whatever your walk involves, I would show it all to him now. When you have children, these things will just continue and hopefully he will be more accepting of it. I think one of my problems was that I always said, "when I have kids, I will do this and that". Then, "when the kids are this age, I will do a better job of (insert godly action here: pray with them, say grace, read Bible to them, etc)
Don't be like me. Stay strong if your dh makes little negative comments because he forgets his promise to you. I almost let dh turn my kids against godly things. He had them believeing they didn't like church! Well, we went, and we liked it. Dh wasn't around to convince them otherwise. Hopefully it's not too late for us. Don't make the same mistakes I have.
Don't be like me. Stay strong if your dh makes little negative comments because he forgets his promise to you.
I almost let dh turn my kids against godly things. He had them believeing they didn't like church! Well, we went, and we liked it. Dh wasn't around to convince them otherwise. Hopefully it's not too late for us. Don't make the same mistakes I have.
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AbidingInHim
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Addy, I"m glad things worked out with your talk.
I would still recomend to begin praying for thier salvations now. Even if at a later time he says no you can't take them to church, you can still have soooo much influence in thier lives through bed time and meal time prayers, it living a godly life and using scripture when you correct them and tell them scripturally why they've done wrong.
I would like to encourage you and Kanga both to join us in the check in thread above, we share, pray, convict and build each other up here. This is a great support system for us since we are a unique breed of Chrisian.
God Bless,
Be fruitful and multipy
I would still recomend to begin praying for thier salvations now. Even if at a later time he says no you can't take them to church, you can still have soooo much influence in thier lives through bed time and meal time prayers, it living a godly life and using scripture when you correct them and tell them scripturally why they've done wrong.
I would like to encourage you and Kanga both to join us in the check in thread above, we share, pray, convict and build each other up here. This is a great support system for us since we are a unique breed of Chrisian.
God Bless,
Be fruitful and multipy
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Update:
So far so good. He has been keeping to his word about trying to get preg.
But he is driving me crazy with his mouth. Today I when downtown to feed the homeless and hand out money. He just had negative comments. Arrgh.
Sometimes I just want to pop him in the eye!!!!
Please continue to pray for me. Lord only knows I almost slipped some Nair into his Rogaine today. Yeap, the devil almost made me do it.
Man I have to work on my temper. It is a def weak point for me. And the devil knows this. Now I have confessed it, and hopefully can contain it.
So far so good. He has been keeping to his word about trying to get preg.
But he is driving me crazy with his mouth. Today I when downtown to feed the homeless and hand out money. He just had negative comments. Arrgh.
Sometimes I just want to pop him in the eye!!!!
Please continue to pray for me. Lord only knows I almost slipped some Nair into his Rogaine today.
Yeap, the devil almost made me do it.Man I have to work on my temper. It is a def weak point for me. And the devil knows this. Now I have confessed it, and hopefully can contain it.
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Do you respect your husband's wishes not to raise a child to believe the Christian theology? Do you respect his desire to exercise spiritual leadership in your home? Do you wish to submit to him as a wife would submit to her husband?
I know the matter of the spiritual formation of your child is important to you, but do all the instruction about male leadership in a marriage go out the window when this is the issue?
I would recommend to you that you have a little more respect for him and a little more submission. It is his child as well, and he is the man and you are the woman.
I know the matter of the spiritual formation of your child is important to you, but do all the instruction about male leadership in a marriage go out the window when this is the issue?
I would recommend to you that you have a little more respect for him and a little more submission. It is his child as well, and he is the man and you are the woman.
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free4all
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We do not neglect the training of our children in the Lord because a mate doesn't like it.
If the man will not teach children about the Lord, it falls by default for the woman to do it, with or without the man's permission.
She would have followed his spiritual leadership had there been some.
I applaud her submission to the Lord, to train her children in the knowledge of Him.
Do you have children, Ceridwen? If you are a woman, would you allow your husband total say in raising children? If you are a man, do you expect total say in raising children? Like an authoritarian dictator? Are you in an unequally yoked marriage? Are you married at all?
I'm glad more unequally yoked Christian women don't follow your advice, Ceridwen. Satan would like nothing more than to have our children not taught about Christ. Your advice sickens me.
If the man will not teach children about the Lord, it falls by default for the woman to do it, with or without the man's permission.
She would have followed his spiritual leadership had there been some.
I applaud her submission to the Lord, to train her children in the knowledge of Him.
Do you have children, Ceridwen? If you are a woman, would you allow your husband total say in raising children? If you are a man, do you expect total say in raising children? Like an authoritarian dictator? Are you in an unequally yoked marriage? Are you married at all?
I'm glad more unequally yoked Christian women don't follow your advice, Ceridwen. Satan would like nothing more than to have our children not taught about Christ. Your advice sickens me.
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Do you respect your husband's wishes not to raise a child to believe the Christian theology?
*** No, actually, I do not. If he would not have changed his mind on this, more than likely, it would have been over or no kids.
Do you respect his desire to exercise spiritual leadership in your home?
*** No, he has no spiritual leadership. There is a spirt leading him, but it is not of God.
But do all the instruction about male leadership in a marriage go out the window when this is the issue?
***No, I can follow somethings but must have discernment about just following anything thrown at me.
He is the man and you are the woman.
***Yeah, that may be true. But when a man has a bad idea, it is still a bad idea, whether he be a Christian or not.
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*** No, actually, I do not. If he would not have changed his mind on this, more than likely, it would have been over or no kids.
Do you respect his desire to exercise spiritual leadership in your home?
*** No, he has no spiritual leadership. There is a spirt leading him, but it is not of God.
But do all the instruction about male leadership in a marriage go out the window when this is the issue?
***No, I can follow somethings but must have discernment about just following anything thrown at me.
He is the man and you are the woman.
***Yeah, that may be true. But when a man has a bad idea, it is still a bad idea, whether he be a Christian or not.
Yesterday 06:13 AM
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We do not neglect the training of our children in the Lord because a mate doesn't like it.
***Amen. I truely fill I would be in trouble with God if I did not do my best on this one.
If the man will not teach children about the Lord, it falls by default for the woman to do it, with or without the man's permission.
***Praise the Lord.
She would have followed his spiritual leadership had there been some.
*** All to true. At this point if I did, the entire family would be heading to hell. Now, wouldn't the devil just love that!
I applaud her submission to the Lord, to train her children in the knowledge of Him.
***Thank you, I still have my faults, I don't know if I am doing everything right. Sumission, and respect and all. But I am doing the best I can with the resources I have. I do know one of my biggest problems is anger and man does the devil have my number on that one. Whooo wee. There is no one in the WORLD who can upset me like my husband can. And what I have to remember is that is when the Devil can slip in my mind and try to make me take revenge. But I am learning to walk away and just pray. But it hard because I have a sharp tongue. I will scorch your earth.
At this point, it is all about damage control. I can not change him. I can not change the fact that we are married and will have more pain and heartache. But I can change how I react to him. I can try to, with the hlep of God play the chess game to win. God is in control, I need to make sure I am in his will.
***Amen. I truely fill I would be in trouble with God if I did not do my best on this one.
If the man will not teach children about the Lord, it falls by default for the woman to do it, with or without the man's permission.
***Praise the Lord.
She would have followed his spiritual leadership had there been some.
*** All to true. At this point if I did, the entire family would be heading to hell. Now, wouldn't the devil just love that!
I applaud her submission to the Lord, to train her children in the knowledge of Him.
***Thank you, I still have my faults, I don't know if I am doing everything right. Sumission, and respect and all. But I am doing the best I can with the resources I have. I do know one of my biggest problems is anger and man does the devil have my number on that one. Whooo wee. There is no one in the WORLD who can upset me like my husband can. And what I have to remember is that is when the Devil can slip in my mind and try to make me take revenge. But I am learning to walk away and just pray. But it hard because I have a sharp tongue. I will scorch your earth.
At this point, it is all about damage control. I can not change him. I can not change the fact that we are married and will have more pain and heartache. But I can change how I react to him. I can try to, with the hlep of God play the chess game to win. God is in control, I need to make sure I am in his will.
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