Heaven or Hell?

[secretx]

hello, I am just wondering if you could answer my question. (not sure if this is allowed, if it isn't, someone can delete it or whatever)


Well, let me begin by saying that I cut... I have for several years.

My question is, does anyone think someone who cuts will go to Hell for this??

My reason for asking is because whenever my mom finds out that I've done one, she screams at me, says she hates me, and that I will go to Hell for this, that there is NO way I can redeem myself in God's eyes ever.

I really don't want to tell her anymore, because I have been threatened with being kicked out and her never talking to me again.


Thanks, advice greatly appreciated

 

[Sisof8]

I think that cutting is at it's heart/root just like any other sin. (except there are aspects to cutting that are not sin, but still our flesh) Jesus' Christ died on the cross not only so we don't have to cut when we're depressed, but so that when we do we can repent and be forgiven. I think that just like any other sin if we say we know it is wrong, but aren't trying to change we're rebelling against God and that is really bad, but I believe with all of my heart that Jesus' blood paid for ALL of our sins and that means even the "bad ones" (like all sin isn't bad... )

be strong my friend!! Focus on truth and not lies. I don't know your mom, but it is a lie from the mouth of satan that there are unredeemable sins or people. I am sure she is just scared and not trying to lie to you, but... it is a lie.

 

[BelindaP]

First, no, you are not going to hell for cutting. If that were the case, we would all be going to hell. You may cut, but I overeat. That's just as self-abusive, if not more. We all struggle with sin, but God can help us to overcome it.

Second, let me just say that your mother needs to chill. My guess is that she is somehow equating the cutting with the threat of suicide, which is freaking her out. She probably needs some education into the reasons people self-injure.

Are you currently seeing anybody about your cutting? If so, perhaps you could bring your mother along to a couple of sessions. Your therapist might be able to help her calm down about this.

Hope this helps!

 

[InnerPhyre]

It is not the cutting, but the root of it that causes the problem. It is the self-loathing that separates us from God. I understand what depression is, as it nearly took my life. I never resorted to cutting, but my girlfriend, whom I love with all my heart bears the scars of this practice, and looking at the marks on her arm from the time when she did this years ago tears my heart to pieces every time I see them. You are beloved of God. He adores you. Please if you can, talk to someone who can help you through this. It sounds like this self-loathing is coming largely from your family relationships. There is nothing that we can do that God will not forgive.

If I can look at my girlfriend and feel this much pain from seeing the pain that she went through while she was cutting (mental, physical, and spiritual), imagine the sorrow that God feels each time one that He loves much more than any human could love hurts his or her self like this. You are loved. Please look into finding help for this.

 

[ConcreteAngel]

I'm so sorry that your mum fed you these lies...but like others have said, she's probably just scared...it's something that is really hard to understand unless you have experienced it. You wont go to Hell....just keep reading the Bible and praying and God well help you to know this again.

God Bless
CA

 

[secretx]

I wouldn't know where to go about seeking help. My university has free services, but it's a very small school (everyone knows everyone).

 

[BelindaP]

Is there a Lutheran Child and Family Services in your town or city? That's where I went when I was in University.

 

[RealDeal]

hello, I am just wondering if you could answer my question. (not sure if this is allowed, if it isn't, someone can delete it or whatever)


Well, let me begin by saying that I cut... I have for several years.

My question is, does anyone think someone who cuts will go to Hell for this??

My reason for asking is because whenever my mom finds out that I've done one, she screams at me, says she hates me, and that I will go to Hell for this, that there is NO way I can redeem myself in God's eyes ever.

I really don't want to tell her anymore, because I have been threatened with being kicked out and her never talking to me again.


Thanks, advice greatly appreciated

To offer an alternative point of view...

You won't go to hell because hell doesn't exist. Ok, so you might have your reasons for not believing me. That's ok. I'm not hugely knowledgeable about cutting, but I will attempt to address this.

Cutting, as I understand it, helps you cope with emotional pain. Some cutters describe themselves as being dead inside, and cutting makes them feel alive, because they actual feel it. Others say it's the only sense of control they have over their own lives, it is they who inflict the pain, not others. You are not alone. Others have gone through this and have come out the other side. Please, seek support groups (only a Google away). Your mother may not understand, but others will. You can fix this, believe in yourself.

RD

 

[amishparadise]

Your mom is not correct about this particular issue. Your actions stem from clinical mood disorder, not deliberate, fully consensual acts of the will. Therefore, I would venture that you are not committing grave sin. God looks with mercy at the true intent of the heart. Even in a small university, nobody has the legal right to know your medical or psychiatric affairs, period. You could seek treatment there in complete confidence; and you are well within your rights not to talk about that matter with anyone you don't wish to tell, including nosy dormmates or casual friends. Go and get the help, and do it free of undue shame and fear. God bless you, and may He grant you healing and peace.

 

[RealDeal]

Your mom is not correct about this particular issue. Your actions stem from clinical mood disorder, not deliberate, fully consensual acts of the will. Therefore, I would venture that you are not committing grave sin. God looks with mercy at the true intent of the heart. Even in a small university, nobody has the legal right to know your medical or psychiatric affairs, period. You could seek treatment there in complete confidence; and you are well within your rights not to talk about that matter with anyone you don't wish to tell, including nosy dormmates or casual friends. Go and get the help, and do it free of undue shame and fear. God bless you, and may He grant you healing and peace.

Nice post. Regardless of religious beliefs, a proper understanding of what is happening is imperitive. Good advice amishparadise

 

[UnitynLove]

No, but you should respect your temple because it is the temple of God.

 

[bennyk]

I believe the bible says that all sins are looked at the same* and all sins are forgivable if you repent and ask for forgiveness.

*excluding blasphemy

 

[RealDeal]

No, but you should respect your temple because it is the temple of God.

You mean the body? Unless the cutting is due to mental anguish due to religious problems, religion has nothing to do with, it's an entirely medical/psychological condition.

 

[RealDeal]

I believe the bible says that all sins are looked at the same* and all sins are forgivable if you repent and ask for forgiveness.

*excluding blasphemy

Cutting is not a sin, the idea of sins as you talk about them are the very thing that is torturing the OP more than they already are.

 

[bennyk]

What does OP stand for and what exactly are you saying? Please elaborate if you could. I wasn't necessarily saying cutting is a sin, I was just saying that all sins are forgivable except for blasphemy against the holy spirit.

 

[tapero]

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