Heart broken (help)

[Yesca40]

I am a BA Christian and am 42, I recently met someone who i was very attracted to who is not a Christian, we have known each other for a year and i recently went out with him, one thing led to another and we slept together, I feel so guilty and yes I confessed to the Lord and asked forgivness, I ended the relationship, he does not understand why I feel so bad. I know we are supposed to stick with other Christians but it has been so long since someone wanted to be with me as he does. I asked him if he could go without the sex stuff and never got a clear answer which made me end it. I can't stop crying and I feel so alone. Please pray for me to find peace of mind and contentment. I amd heartbroken but I choose the Lord over all.

 

[ido]

& for you.

I'm sorry that you are struggling with this, but you made the right decision, IMO - even if it seems very hard right now. I have struggled the same way you have and know that nothing good comes from a relationship where the other person doesn't respect physically boundaries and/or doesn't have the same convictions about intimacy.

I will be praying for you that God will lift your spirits and help you feel less lonely.

 

[the.Sheepdog]

Do you think this man could be receptive to the message of the Gospel? invite him here to CF maybe to as a way to learn more about you. Maybe we can get him to talking to a Pastor locally or one of us on staff or our chaplains.

It would be a shame to lose him for the Kingdom!

 

[Criada]

You made the right decision, sweetie.. at least for now.
But, if you can remain friends, and if he is interested in why you feel as you do, keep talking, see how he responds... and maybe one day you will be able to get together again without being 'unequally yoked'.

 

[RuthD]

Hi, how are things going for you now?

 

[Saucy]

I am sorry that you are heartbroken over this. There is a reason why the bible tells us not to be unequally yolked with unbelievers...to prevent things like this from happening. He won't understand. He might try, but in the end try to persuade you into having sex with him again and you might eventually give in and start the heartbreak all over again.

Of course you are free to do whatever you want, but I see that the choice right now is between this guy and God. God says not to date him because he is an unbeliever. There's also a reason why the bible says not to have sex outside of marriage.

In my opinion, you should disassociate with this guy and give yourself fully to the Lord. God will and has forgiven you this sin...you just need to forgive yourself. Overtime your heart will heal and things will get back to normal...unless you continue to battle what you want with what you know is wrong.

 

[rodrigorn0]

i would like to give you another perspective on this situation. Just because he is a non believer of Jesus Christ doesn't make him a bad person. i would like to remind you that jesus him self assocciated with non believers for the most part. saying that only the 'ill is in need of the doctors'. there are plenty of events where Jesus welcomed the minority or the socially unacceptable or the non believers. so i don't see why you should avoid a good man only for his beliefs.

also i should remind you that just because you engage in premarital sex doesn't mean you are committing, that s not what Jesus said

28 But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to desire her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

so according to jesus even if you look at you marital partner in selfish way you are committing adultery

all i am saying is as long as your heart is pure in thought you could do what ever you want and be welcomed in paradise

remember Jesus did not come to stick with the traditions but he came to rebel against the traditions to make them new

Do you think that I have come to bring peace to the earth? No, I tell you, but rather division! 52From now on, five in one household will be divided, three against two and two against three; 53they will be divided:
father against son
and son against father,
mother against daughter
and daughter against mother,
mother-in-law against her daughter-in-law
and daughter-in-law against mother-in-law.’

 

[patriciaj]

I truly feel for you and can relate very well as I have also been in similar situations since I became a believer at the age of 26. It has been particularly challenging for me due to the sexually active lifestyle I lived for 10 years prior to that time. Whether we're talking about good or bad habits, it's absolutely true that practice makes permanent. Denying yourself is really the right choice, and I hope you stick with your decision. Pray for him, but it's best to avoid being alone with him. Seek to build other meaningful relationships -- I think when we're lacking in this area, especially as singles, we are all the more vulnerable and prone to find ourselves giving in, seeking to connect and to feel valued in some way by another. Remember how much God loves you and continue to keep your eyes fixed upon Him as you wait upon Him.

 

[Tempura]

i would like to give you another perspective on this situation. Just because he is a non believer of Jesus Christ doesn't make him a bad person. i would like to remind you that jesus him self assocciated with non believers for the most part. saying that only the 'ill is in need of the doctors'. there are plenty of events where Jesus welcomed the minority or the socially unacceptable or the non believers. so i don't see why you should avoid a good man only for his beliefs.

That's what I was going to say. We're all different in our belief, some more strict than others. My girlfriend is not a christian, and it doesn't bother me. She's a good loving person, and very honest and true. That's what counts for me.