Heart broken...and emotional.

[AllUNeedIsLove]

It has been 3 months since my ex-boyfriend broke it off with me. This was our second time breaking it off (both times by him). We both made mistakes, almost the same mistakes as the last time. I really do love him very much, but I feel hurt and abandoned by him. I pray to God everyday to please be with him, and I also have asked God to take away my pain and fill it with his love. To give me patience and understanding. This second break-up has been easier than before, but I still have moments where I am in shock that I am no longer with him. Then I start to cry and I pray. I love God with my heart and I know he is always there for me, but after 3 months...I still feel very sad.

I still do believe that things could have worked if we fixed the problems, but I feel that he chose to run away by breaking it off and saying he didn't love me anymore. He said the same thing the first time we broke it off, only to return a few months later saying he loved me.

We tried to end it as friends since that is what he wanted, and I wanted to help him find his way to God (he wants to know God), but I just kept thinking of the hurt I felt and contact stopped.

I don't know what to do anymore...I know I should be patient, but what can I do when I love him so much?

 

[Johnnz]

Broken hearts are very painful, but over time they do heal. There is no value in pushing a relationship. Long term it most likely won't work. There must be a real spark between both parties for a relationship to prosper over the years.

You will find someone else and then you will be thankful you weren't already spoken for.

John
NZ

 

[AllUNeedIsLove]

Thank you for your response. We did have a real spark, when we first met we had a whole lot of chemistry (I've had other boyfriends, and nothing felt quite like this). I just believe we were too young at the time for something serious, and this second time instead of making the relationship new, it just went back to how it used to be.

 

[Key]

Love is a painful dance of knowing when to smile as your toes get stomped and kiss when the slow songs start. But looking at your situation, this is the best advice I can give: Give up on him.

If I was to guess, I would wager your sadness does not come from him not being around, but from the hope that he will come back, "just like last time" and it seems that hope is chewing you up inside.

So, find someone else, a new flame, a new spark, even just someone to go to the movies with and argue about books, but move on to your days now. Think of the fond memories, and make them just that, memories, things in your past, not your future.

Wishing you lots of love and happiness down the road of life.

 

[Criada]

Praying that God will comfort you, heal your damaged heart and lead you into the relationship He has prepared for you.

 

[K_Wright]

Hi. I know the pain and the emotional damage caused by heartbreak, and I hurt for you. I am 25 and have experienced so much heartbreak its almost surreal. However, it is through the suffering of heartbreak that we begin to understand God better. This is the way He feels after pursuing man, and man rejects Him. Our heart ache now is only a small portion of what Jesus felt on the cross when He was ridiculed and tortured and, and spit on, and, ultimately, crucified by His own people.
As a believing Christian, you are granted the power to rejoice as you partake in the sufferings of Christ. This is truth.
Also, one of the deepest cuts of heart ache is the feeling of rejection. You feel that the other person doesn't want you, and you are powerless to change his mind. Here is a passage that might give you more insight... "Why do you still mourn over Saul because I HAVE REJECTED him as King?" I will pray for you.

 

[Angeldove97]

Revelation 21:4
He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away."

There will be times where we mourn and where our hearts are broken, but in the end we will see it happened because God loved us and wants something better for us.

I dealt with abusive relationships and I would mourn about why a man could not love me the way I deserved to be loved. But in the end, I stayed hopeful and faithful and God has blessed me with a very loving man

Give it time (it may be a short time or a long time), but God will walk with you every step of the way and be there for you to wipe away your tears. In the end, He has a glorious plan for you.