Hearing God's voice

[Sam_Francisco]

I have been dating a Christiand and getting to know hi better. We are both iontersted in marriage and are comparible and love each other./ He has asked me to marry him but I have not said yes yet because I want to be sure that it is God;s will first and I am not sure of thet yet.

I have neve rbeen married but he has been married twice. We have prayed gfr God to revceal his will to us. Victor says that he has received an answer fromGod iand is sure that it is God's will for us to marry. But I haven't felt anyt sense of God's answer either positively or negatively.

This is mt question... How do you get that assurance of God's will>? I feel like I am dragging us down because the whole relationship is waiting for me to make up mty minsd. Maybe I don't even know what I am looking for... what kind of a sign does God send when we ask Hime to reveal His will for us?


Thanks for your responses,
Samantha

 

[f U z ! o N]

he's been married twice? and how long have you guys been dating before he asked you to marry him? what made him end his marriages?

 

[Sam_Francisco]

yes. once in his 20's and once in his 30's

we've been getting to know each other for about 15 months, dating for about 10 months. I'm 49 and he's 52.

his first marriage ended due to infidelity on both of their parts. his second was because of a lack of communication and intimacy. They were vobth befoer he was saved.

But we have beent hrough all of these questions between ourselves. I am atisfied that we are compativlbe and could have a happy successful marriage if it is God's will.

I just want to know ow to determine whether it is god's will. don't ave any major concerns. i jst don't have that peace and assurance that paeolple talk about nor do I have any foreboding.

We live fairly near ... about 60 mile s apart, and Janesville isn't that large of a town so it's mostly country driving. Where we would end up iving is 6 of one and half a dozen of the other. The marriage is a perfectly reasonable idea from a human perspsective. I just want to now how to understand God's persepctive
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[ChildOfGod20]

My boyfriend prayed and fasted about it and God told him. then God confirmed it by giving him scripture. For me I asked God for a sign and He gave me one. Then he confirmed it through another sign.

 

[Sam_Francisco]

Did you ask for specific signs? what were the signs? If they were not specific signs that you aslked for, how did you recognize them>

 

[ChildOfGod20]

Yes I asked for a sign. I had just got onto a plane and was sitting there and I was like "Lord, if you want me to marry him please send me a sign on the plane today so that I can make sure it is good for me to be in this relationship." So after sitting there a few minutes looking for a sign and not getting a sign I began to forget that I had even asked God that. Then, as the plane was getting ready to land I happen to look in between the seats in front of me to see what the man is reading in the newspaper. the only thing i can see is my boyfriend's name in big letters. i thought it was funny (i didn't think it was a sign). so i showed my younger brother and he was like "it must be a sign from God." The fact that I saw my boyfriend's name wasn't the sign. it was the fact that my brother said "it must be a sign from God" after i had just asked God for a sign. Plus, my brother didn't like my boyfriend at the time so it was extra weird that he would say something like that.

So over the months I started doubting that it really was a sign and i was riding in the car with my brother again and I was like "God if that was really a sign please send me another to confirm it." And about five minutes later out of no where my brother says "i think you and anthony are meant to be together." I'm like "what would make you say this?" He's like "I don't know, I was just thinking that." Again, this was weird cause I just asked God for another sign, my brother didn't even like my boyfriend, and this was the second time God had used my brother to confirm it for me.

Then I guess I got another confirmation when my boyfriend told me that he had been praying and fasting for three days about it and God told him that it was His will for us to get married.

 

[~Nikki~]

Ok, please don't anyone flame me...I'm just posting the verses in from the Bible which deal with remarriage after divorce and what it would mean for you both...I'll leave the interpretation up to you...


Matthew 19
9 And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for fornication, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.

Mark 10
11 So He said to them, "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her. 12 And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery."

Luke 16
18 Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced from her husband commits adultery.


There are loads more verses on the subject, but I've deliberately only posted the ones which talk about a man divorcing and remarrying, because you say you've never been married. Anyway, may God bless you as you seek Him.

 

[Sam_Francisco]

Since both of his divorces were before he was saved and he is orgiven for ny sins that lead up to them, and since both of his ex-wives have subsequently passed away, I don't think that thereis a concern for us in these verses.

 

[ChildOfGod20]

i'm sorry i don't understand how this relates to the topic???

 

[Sam_Francisco]

she brought it up because victor has been married before.

 

[Catholic Wife]

I agree that God will give you signs or assurances if you ask for them. My fiance and I have had lots of signs from God all throughout our relationship.

The only other thing that I will add is that it's normal to be apprehensive about getting married for the first time at your age. My fiance is 10 years younger than you and it took him three years to become fully comfortable with the idea of marriage because he had serious issues with giving up his independence after living alone for so long.

 

[WnW]

I personally hear God's voice most clearly when, I've been faithful in prayer to Him every day. Sometimes finding God's will is like baby steps, you take one very small step and stop and give God time to verify your position. What I mean is like praying to God and saying I will commit to marrying him. And say nothing to anyone, but just keep listening for His voice to confirm (or not) your private talk with Him.
I do this all the time in my relationship with my SO and as I look back, I see that so far His answer has always been YES. Remember the scripture: the sheep know the shepard's voice. You will know.

I want to encourage you and your SO. I can empathize, I'm 56 and my SO is 49, we're both from broken marriages due to infidelity (not on our parts). At our age, a new relationship is awkward, scarey, and yet oh so wonderful. God is great and powerful and loving, He can heal and redeem.