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He left me..

eatenbylocusts

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Was this a long distance relationship? Did you have a ring? If you didn't have much face to face contact then it is easy to be deceived about who someone really is. I dated a "great" guy who it turned out had been living with his gf. My mom loved him and my son liked him too. I didn't have peace with the relationship for the majority of the time and kept getting these pictures and thoughts in my head that turned out to be very true. I asked God for direction and was willing to hear and obey.

I don't blame you for wanting closure, but some people just don't do hard truth very well. He is telling you what you need to know. He isn't someone you can trust or count on. The right one will stand out in ways you won't believe. Or at least it was that way for me after a failed marriage and lots of dating and a few heartbreaking relationships.

My fiance had been asking me for a date for 3 years and I kept turning him down because of our age difference. He was always polite and it was a pleasure to run into him a few more times online. I had written an email to the last guy I dated about what I would like my next relationship to look like and except for my fiance not being a member of my church, everything else was what I had dreamed for. We were friends first, we got to know so much about each other without romance getting in the way and we recognized mutual compatibilities and interests. We saw the things in each other that we had been wanting in a mate and after a few meetings he turned down any offers of meeting any other women because he knew what he wanted and couldn't believe he had found it. He pursued me and never looked back. He has treated me with respect and I've never had cause to doubt him. I've never had to wonder what some action, word, or silence meant, because he would tell me his thoughts and feelings. When I think back at all the anguish I went through waiting for a guy to call and let me know where the relationship was going :doh:

After all the dating I've done since my divorce this man stands out so unbelievably. I did meet some good, quality Christian men, but there was either not a mutual attraction or we didn't mesh quite right or they still had some unresolved pain that kept them from moving forward. My fiance is so transparent and trustworthy.......... All the other disappointing relationships and dating has made this one so much more precious and clear.
 
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I was engaged to who I thought was the most wonderful man in the world. He stopped contacting me and then he deleted me from his myspace and hasn't said anything to me.. I'm just very.. heartbroken.. don't know what to do.
I'm really sorry to hear of your heartbreak over this, it's of course totally understandable. Has there been no contact at all - could you provide any more information about the relationship and it's direction?
 
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