He called me "Honey."

[madison1101]

My ex is remarried. We talk occassionally about the kids. We were talking today about our youngest son who is struggling financially. He accidentally called me "Honey". It stirred up feelings I hadn't had in such a long time. I miss that term of endearment he used to use when he loved me and cared about me. I hate that it really belongs to someone else, as does he. Will I ever get over being his ex?

 

[stlsweeti]

I don't have any advice, but I'm sorry you're feeling such emotions. Sending you hugs.

 

[E-beth]

I remember once after I moved out on my cheating ex-husband, and we had been divorced for about five months, I had a car problem and called to ask him about warranties. I was upset, and he let a "babe" slip. I felt all those emotions stir up too. And I was the cheated-on ex spouse!!!

You will get over it....with lots of time and some prayer and support. It will help when you are able to date other men and hear other terms of endearment that are ALL YOURS

praying for ya!

 

[hope4today]

My heart goes out to you. My husband left only 5 weeks ago and I was on the phone to him the other day and called him 'love'. It comes naturally after 20 years. I got off the phone and cried because he is no longer my 'love'. It is so heartbreaking.
Then yesterday my daughters gave me gifts that he had helped them buy which I really appreciated, BUT then he wanted to see me to give me a gift he had bought me for Mother's Day. That really stirred things up. It is all so confusing.
I guess it is going to take a long time to adjust after 20 years of being one and then being ripped apart.

Oops sorry, made this about me when I was responding to you. I suppose that even though they are gone they will always be a part of us because of who they once were in our lives. Our ex husbands will always be a part of who we are and I suppose will always have some sort of emotional attachment. I pray that for all us the pain will be slowly replaced with emotional peace and wholeness.

 

[Svt4Him]

My ex is remarried. We talk occassionally about the kids. We were talking today about our youngest son who is struggling financially. He accidentally called me "Honey". It stirred up feelings I hadn't had in such a long time. I miss that term of endearment he used to use when he loved me and cared about me. I hate that it really belongs to someone else, as does he. Will I ever get over being his ex?

Yes you will. Time tends to heal those wounds.

 

[Svt4Him]

My heart goes out to you. My husband left only 5 weeks ago and I was on the phone to him the other day and called him 'love'. It comes naturally after 20 years. I got off the phone and cried because he is no longer my 'love'. It is so heartbreaking.
Then yesterday my daughters gave me gifts that he had helped them buy which I really appreciated, BUT then he wanted to see me to give me a gift he had bought me for Mother's Day. That really stirred things up. It is all so confusing.
I guess it is going to take a long time to adjust after 20 years of being one and then being ripped apart.

Oops sorry, made this about me when I was responding to you. I suppose that even though they are gone they will always be a part of us because of who they once were in our lives. Our ex husbands will always be a part of who we are and I suppose will always have some sort of emotional attachment. I pray that for all us the pain will be slowly replaced with emotional peace and wholeness.

I am so sorry for this.