Hello, my friends. How are we all doing today? I am doing okay. I am having trouble trying to be myself when talking to people both in real life, and, online. What I mean by this is that I get angry very easily with them, and, when I talk to them I hide my feelings. I am trying soooooo hard, but, I do not know what to do. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Well, if you get angry easily, it is probably good to hide it... self control is a good thing, and if you blow up every time you are angry, you will probably loose friends.
Do you know why you get so angry? It might be worth finding out about anger management if it is becoming a worrying issue for you.
Do you know why you get so angry? It might be worth finding out about anger management if it is becoming a worrying issue for you.
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Well, if you get angry easily, it is probably good to hide it... self control is a good thing, and if you blow up every time you are angry, you will probably loose friends.
Do you know why you get so angry? It might be worth finding out about anger management if it is becoming a worrying issue for you.
It is because I have been taught that being angry is okay in my family. Should I steer clear from angry people, or, what do you think I should do? I need to read/listen to the bible sometime, and, find out what GOD wants me to do about thgis. Maybe you can tell me what to do too.
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The Bible says:
"In your anger do not sin": Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,(Ephesians 4:26)
So, it's ok to be angry.. Jesus was angry sometimes, but it isn't ok to harm anyone because or your anger, or do anything which you know is wrong. And you need to resolve it by the end of the day, rather than bearing a grudge.
I hope that helps some.
The Bible also says
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.(Proverbs 15:1)
So if you are with angry people, if you react gently to their anger it will make things better
"In your anger do not sin": Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,(Ephesians 4:26)
So, it's ok to be angry.. Jesus was angry sometimes, but it isn't ok to harm anyone because or your anger, or do anything which you know is wrong. And you need to resolve it by the end of the day, rather than bearing a grudge.
I hope that helps some.
The Bible also says
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.(Proverbs 15:1)
So if you are with angry people, if you react gently to their anger it will make things better
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What I did last night was make a long list of my faults, which are things I have to work on, and, am keeping it as motivation to get me started on what I know will be a great journey in the right direction. I also listened to a podcast from Joyce Meyer called Making Right Choices, and, they talked about changing the habits you have had for many years. And, I also took notes on it, so, I will have them to fall back on if I get stuck. So, I am on the right path. I have my friends here, GOD, and, positiveness in my life right now to help me through this. It will not be an overnight type of thing, but, a life long thing.
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What I did last night was make a list of my faults while listening to Joyce Meyer's sermon about Making Right Choices, and, she had this guy on there that was talking about making your bad habits into better ones. And, to always tell the truth to yourself when making right choices.
And, today I listened to a song called "The Vow" by Geoff Morre And The Distance, and, made a vow to be a better Christian, and, start changing my life from that point on, which was 11:21am. And, I also said that I am going to love people a lot more. I am going to keep that vow, and, my faults paper to remind me that I need to be more motivated.
So, hopefully this will help. And, I also listened to some positive Christian music from Geoff Morre, and, Hillsong, and, that made me feel better. So, let's see how long this will last. I am POSITIVE that this will last for a long time. I want to not only make myself feel better, but, others feel better about me changing as well.
What do you all think about this? If there is anything else I should do, please feel free to add all that you want to get me on the right path. I want to start my new journey to a better me.
And, today I listened to a song called "The Vow" by Geoff Morre And The Distance, and, made a vow to be a better Christian, and, start changing my life from that point on, which was 11:21am. And, I also said that I am going to love people a lot more. I am going to keep that vow, and, my faults paper to remind me that I need to be more motivated.
So, hopefully this will help. And, I also listened to some positive Christian music from Geoff Morre, and, Hillsong, and, that made me feel better. So, let's see how long this will last. I am POSITIVE that this will last for a long time. I want to not only make myself feel better, but, others feel better about me changing as well.
What do you all think about this? If there is anything else I should do, please feel free to add all that you want to get me on the right path. I want to start my new journey to a better me.
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It's nice that you found yourself a way to help. One thing, that you have probably heard already, is to count to ten when you feel angry and then then when you are calm respond to others. Another thing is to get your sense of humor going and laugh things off if they are not real serious matters. You can also walk away if someone says something rude to you or if you find your anger coming on strong from something that is minor. I hope this will help some.
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I really appreciate all that has been said. I will try the counting to 10 thing, and, I do walk away, but, people do not like that I do that. I walk away to get my composure, so, that will help a lot to make myself laugh. Keep the ideas coming, guys. I want to continue on this journey!!!!!!!!!!
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maybe spend lots more time with God in prayer and bible reading.
Reading teachings and books and listening to cds is wonderful too, but try to make sure that you always read the bible as well.
Maybe try to pray quietly as soon as you begin to feel angry , for yourself and for the person you are feeling angry with,
if you need a little time to get by yourself and pray , maybe let them know you will be back shortly.
Maybe ask God for wisdom about is triggering anger in you
maybe ask God to help you understand them better and keep a soft heart toward them and esteem them even while you are feeling angry
try to think about how they feel when you get angry
ask God to fill your heart with mercy and compassion for them
pray for them that God help them and bless them and care for them and comfort them
forgive them over and over from your heart
hope some of this helps some
Reading teachings and books and listening to cds is wonderful too, but try to make sure that you always read the bible as well.
Maybe try to pray quietly as soon as you begin to feel angry , for yourself and for the person you are feeling angry with,
if you need a little time to get by yourself and pray , maybe let them know you will be back shortly.
Maybe ask God for wisdom about is triggering anger in you
maybe ask God to help you understand them better and keep a soft heart toward them and esteem them even while you are feeling angry
try to think about how they feel when you get angry
ask God to fill your heart with mercy and compassion for them
pray for them that God help them and bless them and care for them and comfort them
forgive them over and over from your heart
hope some of this helps some
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Good for you! We don't have to let any emotion rule us, we can do things that get the emotional energy out of us, too.
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Anger can be more deeply rooted in some past injustice, betrayal, trauma, inattentive parents and similar inner hurts. Do you think there may be something back there fuelling your anger now?
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I think it has something to do with the way I was taught when I was a kid. My mom always got/gets angry at every little thing. She never wants me to be happy. She always wants me/us kids to be angry, and, never have a good time. And, when we are having a good time, she gets angry, and, it brings down the house. I hope to break that cycle. I hope this answers your question. And, another part of it was I almost tried to kill myself when I was 12 years old, and, it was because I thought my parents never loved me. Then I went to counseling, and, the counselor told my parents to come one session, and, tell me that they love all of their kids. And, now I know they both love me. That may be another thing that is feuling the flames iof my anger. Who knows.
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You were obviously well taught to be angry. That will take some unlearning. But you can get there.
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That is why I am unlearning the ways that I was taught. Only GOD will take my anger away, and, make me a more happy person!!!!!
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I threw away my list of faults that I wrote out, because I figured after talking to people on here that I need not let them hinder me from being able to have a better time learning how to become a better person. I want to be the best Christian that I can be, and, GOD will help me. And, I know you guys will help me as well. Thank you for giving me these ideas on how to be better controling of my anger. Keep the ideas coming if you have any.
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I'm glad you got rid of the list.. best thing to do with it!
You're doing great.. keep going!
You're doing great.. keep going!
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Now that I have thrown away the list, what is the next step in getting to become a better Christian? HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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