Having strength

[Snowyyy]

Hello,

I want to know what would you do, if you are surrounded by people who are negative-thinkers and induce negative thoughts in you and kind of demotivate you. Even though their motive behind doing this is not bad most of the time.
No matter you practice positive thinking but there are factors that constantly pull you down every time you are in high spirits or at least in a nice state of mind either cos they doubt your ability or they simply have this habit of skepticism and hence leading the other person into negativity as well.

Is it possible to stay quiet and turn a deaf ear to people even when they are close to you? Esp when you are going through a not-so-good time and you need faith rather than discouragement.

 

[IronConey]

I have experienced the effect of negative thinking from others on my life - so I know it is not an easy of a thing to deal with as it may seem. I suppose for me there comes to mind a few different approaches. For you maybe it would be more profitable to nicely ask them to stop it in your presence. Or perhaps anytime you hear a negative comment to reply or interject with a positive from the otherside of the spectrum. Eventually I think the message might be sent. Or just ignore it. I hope it works out for you though -

However you respond to it - try not to let it dampen your spirit too much would be the best piece of advice I could say. Make sure if you feel it bringing you down that you have the ability to distance yourself from it, even if only momentarily to perhaps meditate on the Lord or read the Bible or whatever it is that relaxes you. No particular verses come to mind right now, but if I think of any I will post them later. God bless.

 

[godismyabba]

Good post, IronConey. I have to tell you though, I worked with a lady who could not say anything positive. I would say something to counteract what she had said, and she would have a "ya, but" statement right back. I tried this for YEARS, until I finally had to learn to escape and run as soon as possible. I liked her as a person, but the negative attitude would really bring me down, and I am a hard person to bring down (I am very Polly Anna). She finally moved onto another job, and I am ashamed to say I was so happy. Our entire office seemed to lift after she moved on. Sometimes you do have to avoid that person at all costs.

BTW, I never tried telling her I didn't want to hear it.. that may have solved a lot of grief.

 

[Snowyyy]

I have experienced the effect of negative thinking from others on my life - so I know it is not an easy of a thing to deal with as it may seem. I suppose for me there comes to mind a few different approaches. For you maybe it would be more profitable to nicely ask them to stop it in your presence. Or perhaps anytime you hear a negative comment to reply or interject with a positive from the otherside of the spectrum. Eventually I think the message might be sent. Or just ignore it. I hope it works out for you though -

However you respond to it - try not to let it dampen your spirit too much would be the best piece of advice I could say. Make sure if you feel it bringing you down that you have the ability to distance yourself from it, even if only momentarily to perhaps meditate on the Lord or read the Bible or whatever it is that relaxes you. No particular verses come to mind right now, but if I think of any I will post them later. God bless.

Thank you. I wish I make those people understand and retain my confidence.
While I was reading a book after creating this thread, I read about mustard seed faith mentioned in the bible too. "If ye have faith as a grain of mustard seed.....nothing shall be impossible unto you."

 

[Snowyyy]

Good post, IronConey. I have to tell you though, I worked with a lady who could not say anything positive. I would say something to counteract what she had said, and she would have a "ya, but" statement right back. I tried this for YEARS, until I finally had to learn to escape and run as soon as possible. I liked her as a person, but the negative attitude would really bring me down, and I am a hard person to bring down (I am very Polly Anna). She finally moved onto another job, and I am ashamed to say I was so happy. Our entire office seemed to lift after she moved on. Sometimes you do have to avoid that person at all costs.

BTW, I never tried telling her I didn't want to hear it.. that may have solved a lot of grief.

Yes thank you. Many times these people don't do it intentionally(it's their habit to be extra cautious or negative) but I sometimes feel worried if I lose my confidence cos of some negativity around...cos I tend to get vulnerable at times. That's also one reason when one should have strong faith.