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Having a crush on someone

blackribbon

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I like having crushes on people because it gives someone a mental break. We carry these heavy mental burdens every day, whatever they may be (bills, problems, worries about health/job) and then along comes someone unexpected that rocks your world. And the best part is, you can totally keep it a secret if you want to. You don't have to worry that they don't feel the same way as you.

It sounds like this crush has crossed into being a mental burden for you. This is why I don't like crushes. They are emotions that are not based on any facts. (Yours is based on he comes in a pretty package). You have even reached the point where this crush might cause you consider avoiding church...he does not sound like he is adding to your life.

((hugs)) and prayers...and I do understand how these emotions can hurt...
 
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It sounds like this crush has crossed into being a mental burden for you.

In the beginning, yes I agree. It was such a mental burden for me because I started to play that "what if he doesn't like me" game, the "am I good enough", "what if..." Yuck. It really tore me up. Plus the church I go to is sooo small. Plus I couldn't stop looking at him because he is very attractive and that bothered me. I'm supposed to be in church putting God first and here I am idol worshipping at its worst.
 
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I'm not really into crushes. They are too much of a mental burden, especially when they don't go away. I wish I had learned the strength of putting silly feelings aside, but even at my age I don't always do that.
 
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I like having crushes on people because it gives someone a mental break. We carry these heavy mental burdens every day, whatever they may be (bills, problems, worries about health/job) and then along comes someone unexpected that rocks your world. And the best part is, you can totally keep it a secret if you want to. You don't have to worry that they don't feel the same way as you.

I have an intense crush on someone at church at the moment. I try not to even look in his direction LOL. Not sure if he's married or has a girlfriend so I have to tread carefully.

At first glance i saw carrying these heavy metal burdens. Hahahaa. Then i thouht about my Metallica and Megadeath headbanging days. ^_^
 
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Seeing someone you want to talk to, just walked passed you by.
I have an anxiety to walk up and talk to the person I have a crush on. We never have a proper communication and now he has changed he doesn't look at me anymore. I wanted to know if I walk up to him and talk to him, would he respond?

I feel helpless. Every day we stared at each other in a distance but we never talk.

Feeling Helpless.
 
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