For me, and for many of us, 'published' means more than a book to hold in our hands. It means that an editor, who's paid to represent the tastes of the book-buying public or the magazine readership, has thought enough of the piece of writing to pay money for it, or tell her bosses to pay money for it. It means that the writing will get out to an audience and be read.
While I really don't mean to deny your perspective, most of the professional writers I 'know' from the internet try to discourage people from self-publishing and vanity publishing of that nature. Writers generally don't get back the money they put into it, and what's more, they don't get back the costs of their emotional investment. They realize that they can't stock their books in stores, that no one wants to read their unedited books... it's heartbreaking.
So I value my rejections. They mean I won't get published till I'm danged good, and until then... it's a learning experience.

I can bind a copy for myself if I want to hold one in my hands.