have friends but...

[Rajah]

....I work Fri and Sat and am too tired to do anything social, and my daughter (16) and my husband are the same way. I have tried to find another job, and I'm almost 60. We never have anyone over because I'll think of all the work that needs to be done, and I have low thyroid. I'm so tired when I get off work. I do my socializing outside the home out and about, lunch, work and the dogpark.or picking up my daughters friends from school.
Anyone else feel this way?

 

[1watchman]

I hope your doctor is a good Internal Medicine specialist who can look at your over-all health and advise you about maintaining well. Some physicians are mechanical and not people-oriented. You might need some recommendations for a caring doctor who will consider the whole person. You should not be tired all the time. At your age, be sure you get a GOOD physical every year.

Trust the Lord Jesus and make Him your best Friend --beside your Savior and lord of your life. He will guide you every day if you stay in communion with Him. Look up always!

 

[Rajah]

I go for my annual later this month. I am asking to see if others can relate and what they do instead. both my husband and daughter feel this way; they act as they they don't want to be bothered. After a lot of activity I don't really want to be bothered either I guess.

 

[pfcreed]

It took me a year from the day I wanted to go to church until the day that I actually went to church. A big part of that is because I'm introverted. I like being alone and I hate being alone. I like it because its so comfortable. I hate it cause Im alone, being alone doesn't serve my family cause they really aren't introverted but they follow my lead. I'm still working on it.

my wife put a trip together for us, a fishing trip. If I had to to do this myself it would of never happened and I like fishing. I had the time of my life sometimes I want to meet new people just to tell them about this awesome fishing trip.

I have some practical advise, Since theres 3 of you maybe every two weeks or so it should be one of your responsibility to put something together as a family thats in a social setting. When I think about having to deal with people outside of work I get so tired I don't even want to bother but if i did bother to do it my life would be better. If I'm obligated to go somewhere and do something I usually have a good time and don't feel so bad about things. This way its only on you to figure it out a 3rd of the time.

 

[If Not For Grace]

Rajah-I'm sorta with you...When It comes to socializing..I prefer not to have people over but rather to meet and greet somewhere else involving some event or activity. Maybe horseback riding, going to our cabin on the river, or a joint vacation (beach) or a music venue or dinner out. That way..there is more of a set time for the socializing to end and no one "overstays" their welcome and they are less likely to "bring" uninvited guests like children or friends of friends, some of my bunch will bring everything from their pets on up..if you let em start frequenting your home..they make themselves right at home..and I am NOT a fan of some of that stuff.

 

[1watchman]

Some good advice given here above. Rather than just going to do some activity, it could be a planned event at times (as one suggested above) where all are motivated to enjoy an outing together for fun occasionally.

Again, I am concerned about your health, and when the whole family feels lethargic, it could be a common ailment --like even lead poisoning which saps out energy. A blood test could reveal that. Well, I don't want to alarm you, but I hope you can get on top of this. Try a new diet too. Pray much and put the Lord Jesus first in your life. I will pray for you all.

 

[ValleyGal]

Rajah, what exactly is the struggle? Is it that you really do want to have more energy, get out there, have people over, and be more social?

When I was younger, I had a lot of energy. I was in great shape, had an active job and an active personal life. My home was always clean and tidy, and the yardwork was always done. Those years, my home was the social hub of our church. It was the place to go for those who wanted coffee, a visit, or a change of scenery. I loved hosting and entertaining - our church had a lot of great social events at my house, including scavenger hunts, New Years parties, birthday parties, Bible Studies, women's sleepovers, long afternoon gab sessions. I even had a house painting party when I decided to change the colour of my house trim.

Since then, life has changed...I have less energy because an injury left me unable to enjoy my active lifestyle anymore, I work from home now, and I have a grown son living with me who struggles with mental illness and I do not want to over-stimulate him by entertaining the crowds. I don't have a yard anymore either. Because of all that, I absolutely love going out with my friends, visiting at their homes, or spending social time elsewhere.

There is nothing wrong with either way of doing things. My friends understand my situation, and they do not expect me to open my home now. I'm not sure that you are looking for advice, but I would be concerned about the lethargy - if your thyroid is not performing as it should, there are treatments for it. But since the whole family is lethargic, you might want to get everyone tested, as 1watchman suggests. A friend of mine's son's family was feeling lethargic and mildly unwell for a long time until one day they all died.... all of them, and a tenant they had, and their pets. It turned out their chimney was gradually getting more and more blocked, and they ended up dying from carbon monoxide poisoning. Imo, the lethargy should be checked. Otherwise, there is nothing wrong with not wanting to open your home for entertainment - unless you want to but have barriers to doing what you want to do.