Has anyone......

[Browneyedgirl1010]

Hi everyone,

Has anyone stayed in a bad relationship for the security whether it is financial, emotional, or otherwise?

Johanna

 

[Puptart]

Multiple times (emotional security mostly, when I was younger).. and every time it ended in a big ball of flames.

Staying in a relationship for the "security" is not a healthy construct. Recognize when a relationship is unhealthy, and move on.

 

[Browneyedgirl1010]

Multiple times (emotional security mostly, when I was younger).. and every time it ended in a big ball of flames.

Staying in a relationship for the "security" is not a healthy construct. Recognize when a relationship is unhealthy, and move on.

Yes, I think everyone has made that mistake, I know that I have many times.

 

[mina]

No, As an adult, I briefly dated someone that was charming at first and then got very controlling and weird. The final straw was he started yelling at me b/c I didn't call him when he wanted me to (it was half an hour later or an hour later b/c I was at work) or something stupid like that. That was the end of that. I had no regrets walking away. There was no love lost. Luckily I've been very blessed in that I was able to be independent and confident in that way. If a guy treated me badly (or showed any signs of treating others badly in a repetative abusive way), he was gone pretty quick. I didn't stay. I don't even stay friends with people like that.

 

[Kat85]

I did in my last relationship. I just didnt want to be alone. I like being in a relationship. Im glad he and I broke up though he was really starting to be a condescending jerk. It really isnt healthy. If things start to get bad in the next relationship Im in, Im going to leave ASAP.

 

[Browneyedgirl1010]

No, As an adult, I briefly dated someone that was charming at first and then got very controlling and weird. The final straw was he started yelling at me b/c I didn't call him when he wanted me to (it was half an hour later or an hour later b/c I was at work) or something stupid like that. That was the end of that. I had no regrets walking away. There was no love lost. Luckily I've been very blessed in that I was able to be independent and confident in that way. If a guy treated me badly (or showed any signs of treating others badly in a repetative abusive way), he was gone pretty quick. I didn't stay. I don't even stay friends with people like that.

Mina, you had no choice in this matter, he sounds like he was really controlling and it looked like it was just going to get ugly from there. I mean, yelling about a phone call??? That is not normal! I agree with you, if you see a sign of abuse, get out and don't look back. I'm sorry that so many women try to "change" the guy or say that he has a good heart or say that he doesn't mean anything bad....No, a woman cannot change a man like that and stop making excuses for his behavior. Just leave and know that we as women, deserve better.

 

[Browneyedgirl1010]

I did in my last relationship. I just didnt want to be alone. I like being in a relationship. Im glad he and I broke up though he was really starting to be a condescending jerk. It really isnt healthy. If things start to get bad in the next relationship Im in, Im going to leave ASAP.

Unfortunately, Kat, alot of women stay in relationships for just that reason...they don't want to be alone. I've done that in the past myself, it is unhealthy and it makes you feel like you are nothing...but I read something recently that I decided to always remember. It said: "I will not make myself feel like nothing so that someone else can feel like something."

It is really true.

 

[ForeverHarmony]

Mmm.. not a "Relationship" I think you are asking for, but I stayed connected with my Dad for a while because of financial reasons. I hate doing that, its a burden. But sometimes its like..he owes it to me to help me out when I need it.