Has anyone noticed this?

[PassionFruit]

I was eating out a couple of nights ago, and I couldn't help noticed there was couple sitting, I guess they were on a date or something, I'm assuming. But what struck me was that both of them weren't really talking to each other, in fact I think they spent most of their time texting other. I wanted to ask them why they weren't interacting, but I knew it wasn't any of my business.


I've seen this many times, where it would seem to people were out together, but they were busy texting other people. I don't know this is bothering me.
But I see this happening alot. It's like people have become more isolated with technology. Like I noticed people on their laptops with their earphones and they basically shut out everything else.

Maybe I'm reading too much into this, but I can't help that it's something really getting to me.

 

[trentlogain2]

I told someone I help out with that I was going to stop lending them a hand for a while. They kept trying to pry, asking me why, after I told them it was personal. Finally, I had to tell them point blank..it was none of their business. I haven't heard back from them. And to be honest, I'm glad. Most of the time, I don't like where the conversations go with them.

 

[Rhye]

I dislike it as well.

I don't like to be around a group of friends and half of them are texting. Can't it wait? Is it that important?

If I get a text and know it something important, I'll let the person know in front of me and send a quick one back. Other then that, I don't see a point.

 

[PassionFruit]

I dislike it as well.

I don't like to be around a group of friends and half of them are texting. Can't it wait? Is it that important?

If I get a text and know it something important, I'll let the person know in front of me and send a quick one back. Other then that, I don't see a point.

I have also noticed, that when people are talking and there's an awkward pause, instead of trying to fix it, people start texting each other, like they're using it as a buffer.

 

[Luther073082]

Thats why I think its rude to talk on your cell phone or something like that for an extended amount of time when you are out with someone else.

I'm not opposed to you taking a call, but just keep it short and sweet.

 

[ampbelle3130]

if they were just sitting in silence, i would be less disturbed by it. but being as they were texting other people (unless they were texting eachother...) then i find it unfortunate.
personally, i think there is a lot to be said about comfortable silences. (yes. i realize that was somewhat of an incongruous statement...)
if you can sit comfortably with someone and not feel the need to fill silence with anything but a mutual enjoyment of one another's company then i think you have something awesome.
texting during a date however - not so appreciated.

 

[Inkachu]

It's rude and ridiculous. I don't do that and never will and won't put up with someone else doing it around me.

 

[kevlite2020]

some people are really anxious and uncomfortable, they can't just handle and appreciate those moments where neither person has anything to say. So they figit and look for things to be busy with. Personally I am not a fan of that and I really can't stand when a date is texting people and stuff often. I get it if she needs to get a hold of someone or respond to someone for some reason, but you don't need to be messaging everyone you know during time you're supposed to be spending with me. And if we can't fill every single second with conversation, I'd appreciate it tons if they can just enjoy being in my company like I am enjoying being in theirs.

 

[E.C.]

I hate texting. I'll be sitting in class and at least one in three people will be texting during the lectures. It is annoying. It is rude. It is disrespectful.

The one thing that I like about having my other class in the basement of one of the other buildings is because there is no reception there. No reception = no texters = no annoyance

 

[Rhye]

Awkward silent moments really define a date for me.

You can tell if your date really likes you when the silence seems like nervousness or over-thinking.

I kind of like that. Then I tilt my head and give a big SMILE.

That always helps.

 

[latteda]

Perhaps they were texting each other.

 

[E.C.]

Perhaps they were texting each other.

Texting all those words that would sometimes make you blush if other people heard it

 

[Rory]

I know this is mainly about texting but it made me think of something I've dealt with.

My ex has a habit of reading a lot, like multiple books if she loses one for a day or so. Well for the most part of our relationship every time we'd go to a restaurant she'd have a book, eventually I started bringing one also or just my writing journal. I have a few years worth of pictures, from my attempts at photography, of a series of her reading at food places. It's not just food places though, we go into the other room for a cig, she can't find a book I give her the "oh no you might have to talk to me" half joke.

Lack of communication is very unhealthy. Couples like the ones you saw are definitely on the same nasty road I've been down. A stagnant dead end relationship, since they obviously don't talk to each other, they are content to just text away, time will pass and they will be so used to having little communication that neither will broach the subject of why are they together for.

Just my thoughts.

 

[white dove]

I was eating out a couple of nights ago, and I couldn't help noticed there was couple sitting, I guess they were on a date or something, I'm assuming. But what struck me was that both of them weren't really talking to each other, in fact I think they spent most of their time texting other. I wanted to ask them why they weren't interacting, but I knew it wasn't any of my business.


I've seen this many times, where it would seem to people were out together, but they were busy texting other people. I don't know this is bothering me.
But I see this happening alot. It's like people have become more isolated with technology. Like I noticed people on their laptops with their earphones and they basically shut out everything else.

Maybe I'm reading too much into this, but I can't help that it's something really getting to me.

I tend to be a bit of a people watcher, but if I'm with other people I don't tend to pay attention to others around me and what they're doing. I, myself, have received texts and phone calls while with other people and I usually ignore it or respond if it's an emergency (say, work or a health concern). I think the polite thing to do is to say something to the effect of, "Just one moment. I need to respond to this really quickly" and leave it at that. Sometimes, I've had to excuse myself and call the person, but again... not a commonplace thing for me. I've also done the laptop thing once and felt like such a pretentious poser, so I never did that again lol. I was like, What am I doing with my life?

But yeah... sad day when people sitting across from each other can't even talk to each other. What's the point then? I guess to feel that physical presence of someone else, even though the interaction appears empty.

 

[Blank123]

could be awkward silence, could be they're fighting and don't want to talk so they turn to texting. could be a comfortable silence, they don't feel the need to talk so they talk to others; wouldn't be too dissimilar from couples who, instead of sitting down to talk at night they sit down in front of the TV and focus on that all night.

or latteda is right and they were texting eachother

Texting in front of others is becoming more socially acceptable, but i'll only do it if i know the person i'm with is okay with it. It seems kind of rude to assume its okay and focus your attention on another person. but meh. such is life i guess. people my age and younger generally don't care, but if i'm with someone say my parents age. yeah they don't seem to tolerate it very well so i put the phone away