Has anymore been scared?

[~PICKLE~]

Has anyone here that is married been scared of dying and leaving your mate or your mate dying and leaving you? I guess since I'm pregnant, my emotions are going crazy!! I took my hubby to work this morning and on my way home, I almost had a nervous break down. I was crying so hard I had to pull over. I love him so much, I don't want him to leave me or for me to leave him in such grief. It really scared me. Like I said I'm pregnant so my emotions are haywire. Am i weird and the only person that thinks this way or should I just shut my mouth and blame it on the up coming baby.

 

[E-beth]

I have felt that way too, about my husband and also more about my son. I don't want my husband to die and leave me all alone to face the world, nor do I want to die and leave my son motherless and my husband lonely.

When I get that way, I pray for God's protection over all of us, and thank God for my health today, as well as my family's health.

My sister has faced the unthinkable. Her husband was diagnosed with a brain tumor at age 32. He was given a year to live. He made it 15 months. But when I ask my sister about how she deals with it, she reminds me that we aer all in God's hand and His will is done. But He always equips us to deal with whatever we have to. It must be true, because my sister and her daughter have thrived on their own and my sister has an awesome ministry because of having suffered so great a loss.

But yeah, it's hormones.

 

[Blessed75]

hon, it's totally horomones. you are not weird. and don't shut your mouth - it helps to talk about it - it'll make you feel better. i was a basket case with my first one and i wasn't much better with my second one! lol... i've got a 23 month old son and a 3 1/2 month old daughter so trust me when i tell you that everything you're feeling is your horomones out of whack. There are so many baby sites that have message boards too that you could get on. You'll see - you're not the only one. I believe babycenter.com is one that has messageboards. Do you know that with my first child, I joined a message board and now we're all really close friends? we talk on the phone, send emails to each other, meet up with each other. I mod a portion of that board now too and have made some great friends. that's the best part - you're all "crazy" together! lol.... Remember, I had to tell myself this a thousand times when pregnant and still NOW - I LIE TO GOD IN PRAYER IF I DO NOT RELY ON GOD AFTER PRAYER. That may help but talking with other women who are in your position may help as well and please feel free to pm me anytime. btdt so i know what you're going through. congratulations on your pregnancy!

 

[~PICKLE~]

I think about my 4 year old too, but it's not as bad as with my husband. IF by any chance I have to leave this earth, I know my son will be taken care of. I love him so much, and sometimes just watching him play or watching TV makes me cry, cause i do love him and would never want to leave him for anything. Deep down I know his daddy and his grandmother would take take good care of him. And if anything happened to daddy, I know he would be right there to lift my spirts. Maybe I so scared cause Who would take care of my husband. I'm just pregnant, and thinkin' crazy. I know God does everything for a reason, and I have to trust in him. I'm just freaked about left alone or leaving him alone.

 

[Blessed75]

I think about my 4 year old too, but it's not as bad as with my husband. IF by any chance I have to leave this earth, I know my son will be taken care of. I love him so much, and sometimes just watching him play or watching TV makes me cry, cause i do love him and would never want to leave him for anything. Deep down I know his daddy and his grandmother would take take good care of him. And if anything happened to daddy, I know he would be right there to lift my spirts. Maybe I so scared cause Who would take care of my husband. I'm just pregnant, and thinkin' crazy. I know God does everything for a reason, and I have to trust in him. I'm just freaked about left alone or leaving him alone.

it's horomones hon. It really is. It magnifies everything! You are in God's hands and so is your family. Hang in there. Go relax. Try and get this stuff off your mind. Ask God to take this away from you. I'll have you in my prayers......

 

[Tami]

When I was in the hospital becase of an acute attack of pancreatitis I was scared that I would die and my husband would have to take care of the kids by himself. I was given a 50/50 chance to live so I had good reason to be concerned. I was afraid that my husband wouldn't do as good of a job as I did because he always combed our daughters hair like a boy and put boys socks on her. I was afraid he wouldn't dress her femininely at all. I also knew that he worked 12 hours a day and I knew that he wouldn't be able to afford child care for 3 kids so that worried me and even if he could afford it, I didn't want my kids to have to be in daycare all day anyway. I had a really bad dream that my daughter's neck somehow got twisted up in a clothesline and she was crying for help but my husband didn't hear her. I was standing off in the distance and tried to run to her but my feet were stuck in the ground. The nurses had to wake me up because I was screaming my daughter's name. I was a mess. Sometimes I also worry about my husband dying and having to take care of the kids by myself but I'm prpbably just being silly. Besides, when our number is up, it's up. There's not a thing we can do to change it. God already had our days numbered before any of them came to be.

 

[charligirl]

Has anyone here that is married been scared of dying and leaving your mate or your mate dying and leaving you? I guess since I'm pregnant, my emotions are going crazy!! I took my hubby to work this morning and on my way home, I almost had a nervous break down. I was crying so hard I had to pull over. I love him so much, I don't want him to leave me or for me to leave him in such grief. It really scared me. Like I said I'm pregnant so my emotions are haywire. Am i weird and the only person that thinks this way or should I just shut my mouth and blame it on the up coming baby.

I think this is hormones, and probably an attack from the enemy whilst you are vulnerable. I used to have a similar thing with my parents and had prayer, which helped.

The devil feeds on fear, don't give in to it. The other day I read about someone who battled with this very thing and when he got 'what if your child dies?' thoughts consuming him he just said out loud 'I belong to the lord as does my family, the time span of our lives are in God's hands and not yours... I am not listening to your foul attacks, the Lord is in charge of the timings in my life, not you, and He has a perfect plan for us which you can't interfere with, so shut up and get out!' It worked!! once the devil knew he couldn't pull him down and get agreement with the fear he eventually left him alone!

 

[JillLars]

I get scared of this very thing a lot, and I'm not pregnant or anything. I think that eventually we all die, and I'm not so much afraid of dying, as I'm afraid of my fiance dying, or someone in my family dying. My grandpa died a few years back, and my grandma woke up and simply couldn't wake him up. While I would want my fiance to go peacefully in his sleep at an old age, I dread the though of someday finding him and being unable to wake him, and it scares me even more to think that something like that could happen at a young age. I can't imagine the pain my grandma went through, but it is something that many people go through. I worry more about my family than myself, but I sometimes while I"m driving I think "what if this car hits me and I die?" and I think about how they will tell my family and how my fiance would find out. That's so morbid to think about, but I worry about things like that a lot. I pray about it though, and I trust that God will handle things properly as he always does

 

[LN]

Sounds like the hormones. Did you have any of these feelings before you were pregnant?

 

[~PICKLE~]

your not going to believe this...... As always I take my husband to my brothers every morning so he can go to work. This morning I did the same, as my brother and my husband got in the truck, I told both of the that I love them. On the way home I had another panic attackand was freaked out. After I calmed down, i put it behind me and told myself it was just my hormones, everything is gonna be fine. About an hour ago, my mom calls and asks if I'd heard from the guys, I told her no. She then told me they were in a accident. My brother has a big 4x4 Dodge truck, and a city worker stopped in the middle of the road cause he missed his turn, a hummer hit the city worker and my brother hit the hummer. My bother and the other guy that works with them hit are hurting, but get this, My husband knows to sit in the back seat while my brother is driving. This morning he started up front, then They stoped for lunch and he got in the back. He's alittle jolted but okay. My brother and the other guy got the worst of the dash. The truck is brand new and the front end is pretty smashed in. I haven't heard from my hubby yet. I'm still waiting for his call, I know he doesn't want to worry me, that's probably why he hasn't called me yet. I still kind -of freaked cause for the past couple of days I knew something was wrong and something was gonna happen. has this happened to anyone before?

 

[Mistyfogg]

whoa.....I am speechless.

 

[Mistyfogg]

I used to really freak out that my husband was going to die because he is in the Marines and he was in Iraq last year during the war. I used to cry a lot and worry about what would happen to me if he died. But then I just prayed a lot for his protection and remember that God has a plan for all of us and everything happens for a reason. If God brings your to it, he will get you through it I will be praying for your husband and brother.

 

[~PICKLE~]

My husband is now home, he is hurting from whip lash. He's really grumpy, so I'm trying to leave him alone. Please pray that he will start feeling better soon.

 

[JillLars]

whip lash is really really painful, I will pray for your husband!

 

[charligirl]

I am sorry to hear about your husband, I hope he makes a speedy recovery.

Perhaps your misgivings were a warning? Perhaps God was prompting you to pray and hand your family over to him because he is in charge... and He was, they are all alive and not badly injured, praise the Lord.

God has been speaking to our church over the past few weeks on this sort of thing.

As christians we live in a war zone all the time, the one promise of the bible that we don't like to claim for ourselves is that we WILL face tribulation. The devil will try anything to get to our hearts, cause us to mistrust God, question things and be fearful... but...the devil can't win unless we give him our agreement. If we get fearful thoughts about our finances, health, children whatever... it comes from the enemy and what we really have to fight is agreeing with it and giving it room in our head, we need to stand firm and pray to God because He has not given us a Spirit of fear and His perfect love casts out all fear.

 

[DaveKerwin]

If you get scared, bring your worry to God. Pray for safety, then you must trust the Lord. If you pray and do not believe, then how do you think your prayer sounds to God?

 

[Flipper]

I get scared about my husband sometimes. He has high blood pressure and doesn't take care of it like he should. Also, he's had patients get a bit threatening with him at work. A couple of weeks ago, a guy threatened to be waiting by his car when he got off work, because simply the guy felt he wasn't waited on when he should have been. Every so often, he refuses to refill controlled substance scripts for patients tagged as addicts, and they threaten him. With the shortage of pharmacists making them work harder, and with more and more insurance problems, I do get concerned that someone will eventually snap and the saying will change from going "postal" to going "pharm."

Then I start thinking about how I don't know what I would do without him. I'm realistic, the chances of something happening to him at work are remote to none - he has a better chance of having problems from the high blood pressure.

It isn't a huge debilitating worry, but I've had it before. I try to give it all to God. Sometimes it's no problem, sometimes it is a bit harder to do.

 

[~PICKLE~]

my husband is off work today, he's sore and tired, so he's napping. But he's okay, that's what counts. HE told me this morning after I told him about my panic attacks, to ward those feelings away, cause everytime I get them something aways does happen. I told him I couldn't help it, it's just something that happens. This isn't the first time something like this has happened. Last year i dreamed that a male that was close to us was gonna shoot himself. It scared me and after a couple of days, I lew it off, thinking it was just a dream. Well 2 weeks later a friend I grew up with that his family and our family are really close, shot him self in the head. I freaked of course, but what could I do, I didn't know who it was gonna be until it hapened. i have other dreams, but that's for a later date, don't want to bore anyone. Thanks for your thoughts and your prayers!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[charligirl]

my husband is off work today, he's sore and tired, so he's napping. But he's okay, that's what counts. HE told me this morning after I told him about my panic attacks, to ward those feelings away, cause everytime I get them something aways does happen. I told him I couldn't help it, it's just something that happens. This isn't the first time something like this has happened. Last year i dreamed that a male that was close to us was gonna shoot himself. It scared me and after a couple of days, I lew it off, thinking it was just a dream. Well 2 weeks later a friend I grew up with that his family and our family are really close, shot him self in the head. I freaked of course, but what could I do, I didn't know who it was gonna be until it hapened. i have other dreams, but that's for a later date, don't want to bore anyone. Thanks for your thoughts and your prayers!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I really think you need to get some sound prayer and counsel about this from someone who understands Spiritual Warfare. God sometimes gives visions to warn us to pray about a situation and intercede... but equally it could be from the enemy. Either way you need to deal with it or you will forever be fearful and we are called to live by faith.

 

[hisbloodformysins]

Yah, pickle, it's probably just your emotions When I was pregnant, I teared up, and even cried everytime I saw an ambilence drive by, or when I heard one. I felt soooo sorry for whoever they were coming for.

God Bless