Guy In Sunday School Class

[Living4Him03]

This past Sunday afternoon after church, I went to a lunch at the apt. of a girl in my sunday school class. One of the guys in the class came that I am kind of attracted to. He has a great sense of humor and is really cute. Since I began going to this church a few months ago, I've wanted to talk with him and find out more about him. Well, at the lunch I got to talk to him a little while, although there was another girl in the class chatting with us as well (I was sitting in the middle of them at the dining table). Anyway, the girl mentions she graduated high school in 1993, then says to the guy, "wasn't that your class?"...He said yes, it was. I didn't know he was 29, about to be 30. I'm 22 about to be 23. A few times the girl, who just turned 30, made a few jokes about how young I am. The guy talked to me a little, but after finding out we are so different in age, I think that made him a little hesitant to continue talking to me. I worry that he won't want to get to know me further because I'm 22 and he's 29. I don't see it as a big deal, but maybe he's looking for someone his own age. It seemed like the guy and girl know each other and the girl did not seem happy about me chatting with the guy. As far as I know they dont' know each other that well and aren't dating or anything. I don't want to step on her toes or make her mad at me, but should she have dibs on him (sorry that's the only phrase I could think of) ? I'm not sure if I should continue getting to know him at other events or if I should just leave him alone.

Any advice on how to approach this situation besides prayer?

 

[desi]

If you call him up and act like there is no age difference I bet he won't bring it up. If he does and you shrug it off, I bet he won't bring it up again.

 

[Tenorvoice]

Living I can only give you advice as you Phileo Christian Brother here. I have somewhat of an understanding of the problem that you are facing at this moment (only with the roles and ages reverced). I went throught the same ordeal just a few months ago. I was very attracted to a YOUNG lady in the church that I attend (she is 20, im 28).

The only thing that I can tell you right @ this moment Living is that if the timing is right for you to persue a relationship with this gentelman then you WILL know it. Altho I belive that you should spend some more time getting to know him and interact with him in group settings. Be his Sister in Christ, and if he is a true Brother in Christ to you than the relationship will be much more solid. Please, I beg you, do not put on a false front to "impress" him. this could only make matters worse for both in the long run. Be yourself, Trust in God to provide for you in EVERY way (the little stuff too), and if you focus on Jesus, and keep looking @ the Cross and don't waiver. Then, like He tells us, "...If we delight ourselves in Him, He WILL give us the desires of our heart.

All I can do is offer to be here for you and pray for you.

Peace and Joy in the Lord Always

 

[KagomeShuko]

This past Sunday afternoon after church, I went to a lunch at the apt. of a girl in my sunday school class. One of the guys in the class came that I am kind of attracted to. He has a great sense of humor and is really cute. Since I began going to this church a few months ago, I've wanted to talk with him and find out more about him. Well, at the lunch I got to talk to him a little while, although there was another girl in the class chatting with us as well (I was sitting in the middle of them at the dining table). Anyway, the girl mentions she graduated high school in 1993, then says to the guy, "wasn't that your class?"...He said yes, it was. I didn't know he was 29, about to be 30. I'm 22 about to be 23. A few times the girl, who just turned 30, made a few jokes about how young I am. The guy talked to me a little, but after finding out we are so different in age, I think that made him a little hesitant to continue talking to me. I worry that he won't want to get to know me further because I'm 22 and he's 29. I don't see it as a big deal, but maybe he's looking for someone his own age. It seemed like the guy and girl know each other and the girl did not seem happy about me chatting with the guy. As far as I know they dont' know each other that well and aren't dating or anything. I don't want to step on her toes or make her mad at me, but should she have dibs on him (sorry that's the only phrase I could think of) ? I'm not sure if I should continue getting to know him at other events or if I should just leave him alone.

Any advice on how to approach this situation besides prayer?

Talk to him, alone once. Find out what is happening. Find out if they are dating. If not, he has every right to be with you if he wants it that way as well.

God has all kinds of marriages in this world - some people are even over 20 years in age gaps, but it is the love that matters, not the age!

Stein Auf!
Bridget