guilty feelings

[HoneyComb Son]

hey there..could someone help me..like i am making process in walking in my freedom..i have been in bondage for soo long

i just cant tell what is of God..i honestly dont know..the deifference between conviction or condemnation..i dont feel honestly guilty for sins that i know are sins..its hard to get on the right track..when you dont know what you do:S

like i said..i feel guitly over pretty much everything.i made things there are right to be wrong..like when i feel something is wrong..though i know it is right..i get accused.and then i go read the law..i do these quite often..and i get myself all caught up in the law..and then i make life so difficult..making laws..to which no one can do anything..like i make simple things hard..i dont do it on purpose.i just feel myself condemning myself..and being accused..over all things.i do.i cannot feel good about myself for doing a good job..for there is always something i so called missed..or didnt do right..i just find it so hard..

i feel guitly for things that are right..but i am affraid..cause i dont trust myself..because what if..what if..it is wrong..and i do it..then ill be in worse shape with God then before..or wont get blessed..sigh..

like i make life so hard..and the way i think.i know is wrong..but when i try to do what is right..i just get loaded with guilt..and i dont know where i stand with God..sigh

anyway..i hope you can understand me..i am so seeking God.its hard..when you believe you are such an evil person..and you think its wrong to feel good or have good opinions about yourself..as it is written..so you believe it is..that is for me..i am trying so hard to change.i am not a bad person(i know in God's eyes)..but people see me as a goodman.that stands out..but i cannot see that.i feel as if God says its wrong..i want to feel good.about the things i do!..saying wow i did a good job..because i try..i try as hard as i can.and even more..to do a perfect job..but that is not even good enough..please..this is not about pride..i really am trying here


God bless

 

[Onlythingavailable]

You might be suffering from obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). The reason I'm saying this is because your thoughts sound a little bit like mine, and I suffer from OCD. What I have found to help is seeking information from the Bible and also praying to God for clarity. You didn't give any concrete examples of what issues cause confusion for you, but the Bible is always a good place to start. Also look at the reasons for doing whatever troubles you, what it will lead to, will it harm or help anyone and so on. Don't rely on your own feelings too much, they can be deceptive. OCD really tries to convince you of weird stuff, but with God's help it's possible to see through it. I don't know if you suffer from it, maybe not, but God can still grant you clarity. Try to distance yourself from the feelings, and look at things as Jesus would. By this I mean studying how Jesus lived and related to things, and then trying to apply that to your life.

Praying for you.

 

[forgivenmuch]

I do agree with the other poster.

 

[HoneyComb Son]

I do suffer from it..i went to a doctor who said i had alittle bit of it..but i can see it..i just never really saw it as you said..really issues that bother me are like rules..i just make laws for myself that no human can follow..and i feel guitly..its like life is mission impossible..cause i can see it.i just dont know how to overcome.i know what i do is wrong..but i dont see it has a mental disorder..like i cant even get a job..cause when i write out forms..my feelings say i am lying..i am always lying.i cannot even know when i tell the truth.i know the way i think isnt right.i check up laws and things before i do things..so i know i am doing right!..it bothers me so much..like i cannot even feel good when i do a goodjob..i am accused of like how i thought wrong when i did this..or i didnt do this right..so acting like a normal human becomes inpossible

thanks onlything available..i will look at it that way..i never thought about that..i just thought..i was sinning..sigh...which it could not be sin..it is hard though to look the way you do..as when i try to do what seems right and i know to be right..i am condemned.and thinking God wont bless me..etc..i do know from what you said..yes it is like my OCD..i do suffer from it alittle bit..i know people can see it in me..but i could never fully see it myse.f...it is hard though..as i want to do what you say..or get freedom..over this..cause this is death..not life..living under these "laws"..lol.i know what is right.but my feelings dont agrue..feeling good about myself.has become as rare as a full moon..sigh.i hope you can understand

the way my thinking and feelings go now..life is mission impossible for such simple things.i make things so hard..if i make a mistake.i feel i am a criminal..and it will cost me in the future..sigh..thinking is so wrong

i want to be so free..to dream and get life going..cause the way i think now...pff..life is prison..heheh..

thanks that really helps..i do believe it is my mentality and OCD..playing a role.i never thought about it....

if you could..i really would like how people overcome this..their feelings of guilt when they do right...how is this done...what does God say?

God bless

 

[Johnnz]

False guilt is a killer. With real guilt we confess and it's gone. With false guilt we keep on confessing but never feel clean or forgiven.

A negative, unaffirming, or very rule bound, strict upbringing can cause guilt problems too.

John
NZ

 

[Onlythingavailable]

1 John 3:18-22
18 Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth. 19 This then is how we know that we belong to the truth, and how we set our hearts at rest in his presence 20 whenever our hearts condemn us. For God is greater than our hearts, and he knows everything. 21 Dear friends, if our hearts do not condemn us, we have confidence before God 22 and receive from him anything we ask, because we obey his commands and do what pleases him.

While these passages address other issues too, it clearly states that God is greater than our hearts. Getting rid of the false guilt is a process and it will diminish over time, as long as you rely on God and not on the feelings. If you let them control you they won't go away. Build your foundation on Jesus and you will be free.

 

[David861]

One thing I was unaware of until recently is that there are therapists who counsel from the Christian viewpoint. I saw a few and they were very helpful. I believe they are listed as Christian counselors.

 

[EverydayPatron]

hey there..could someone help me..like i am making process in walking in my freedom..i have been in bondage for soo long

i just cant tell what is of God..i honestly dont know..the deifference between conviction or condemnation..i dont feel honestly guilty for sins that i know are sins..its hard to get on the right track..when you dont know what you do:S

like i said..i feel guitly over pretty much everything.i made things there are right to be wrong..like when i feel something is wrong..though i know it is right..i get accused.and then i go read the law..i do these quite often..and i get myself all caught up in the law..and then i make life so difficult..making laws..to which no one can do anything..like i make simple things hard..i dont do it on purpose.i just feel myself condemning myself..and being accused..over all things.i do.i cannot feel good about myself for doing a good job..for there is always something i so called missed..or didnt do right..i just find it so hard..

i feel guitly for things that are right..but i am affraid..cause i dont trust myself..because what if..what if..it is wrong..and i do it..then ill be in worse shape with God then before..or wont get blessed..sigh..

like i make life so hard..and the way i think.i know is wrong..but when i try to do what is right..i just get loaded with guilt..and i dont know where i stand with God..sigh

anyway..i hope you can understand me..i am so seeking God.its hard..when you believe you are such an evil person..and you think its wrong to feel good or have good opinions about yourself..as it is written..so you believe it is..that is for me..i am trying so hard to change.i am not a bad person(i know in God's eyes)..but people see me as a goodman.that stands out..but i cannot see that.i feel as if God says its wrong..i want to feel good.about the things i do!..saying wow i did a good job..because i try..i try as hard as i can.and even more..to do a perfect job..but that is not even good enough..please..this is not about pride..i really am trying here


God bless

As I read your thread, I'm reminded of a specific verse in the Bible that goes something like "I do not know why I do the things I do. I do not do what I want to do. But I do the things I hate." [Check out Romans 7:15-23] Basically, it's telling us that despite the fact that we know certain things are wrong, we still end up doing them. It's difficult to deal with these sort of temptations, but remember, God will always provide a way of escape, so keep your eyes open. Don't put yourself on a huge guilt trip though. If you're willing to forgive yourself and those whom you harm, God is willing to forgive you. Always remember that He will be with you in everything that you do.

Hoping for the best~

 

[If Not For Grace]

feel guitly

Make a conscience effort to stop. This is a tool used by the enemy to make you doubt GOD. God/Jesus has died and forgiven you for ALL your sins. If you keep feeling guilty, it is saying "god can not really have forgiven me"..Do not call God a liar.

If you know something is wrong (whether you feel it or not) REPENT for what you know...and Attempt to REALLY change it.
if you know it's wrong stop, (YES YOU CAN, it takes practice).

You are ok...guilt is a silly stone to carry around, make amends if you have any left to make, then throw the stuff away.. and when the enemy comes to remind you of what you did or did not do back when, say yeah, that was then..this is now and God is Good and forgiving. I am forgiven..