A first note: I recognize I have scrupulosity OCD.
This particular dilemma here started about two and a half years ago, very soon after re-dedicating myself to God. I was raised a Christian, but fell away in high school (lost belief in God and didn't consider myself a Christian at all), and came back to Christ after partying and drugs and stuff in college, realizing I was in a terrible place and needed him in my life.
Well, I cheated in a class in college under a great deal of academic pressure. A lot of kids in the class would work on the homework together, even though it was prohibited, or even get the homework answer key and just copy off it; I was no different. I justified it at the time by telling myself that the professor was a terrible instructor and probably knew this kind of stuff was going on anyway. His tests were recycled from previous years, too.
Well, one night, I went on the professor's website to get the answer sheet for that week's homework (I plain didn't understand the material). I turned it in the next day, and then I started to feel really convicted. I knew what I had been doing in that class was wrong. That taking the homework answer key was probably the single worst cheating I'd done. My school had a very strict honor code, and I was wondering if I admitted to this one thing where it would stop? Would I need to confess all the times I've ever lied and cheated, even going back to high school? Would I need to tell about the other students in the class also cheating?
What I ended up doing is taking the final exam (which was optional, but could still bring my grade down) without any aids (even though students were allowed to have a page with notes). I also changed my major to a less prestigious one in the same department. So, at the end, I didn't need that class to graduate and the C that I got brought down my GPA.
I asked God to forgive me, but I still felt condemnation. I brought the situation to a few spiritual leaders I knew just one wouldn't satisfy my doubt. I got answers ranging from basically It's clear you need to confess to the school. If it's the Holy Spirit convicting you, he's not going to let this go. You're just starting out in life. What would you say to your kids? to Do what's in your heart, but God forgives you and you should move on. Don't focus your life around this. This does not define you. If you let him, Satan will twist you on a hook about this, to God forgives you, but you also sinned against the university and have to get right with them, to God forgives you, just let it go.
As much as I tried to move on, I still felt condemned. I graduated from college. After a few weeks, I told God that I would turn myself in if it was his will. Then, of course, I tried to convince myself that it was his will that I just move on. I was living with my parents and they saw the struggle and pain I was going through. We argued about it. Naturally, they didn't want me to do something to jeopardize my future. I think my mom was even worried I would kill myself. I even quit my job as a research assistant because I felt like I didn't deserve to work in the university and started imagining that I would taint the reputation of the professor I worked under (not the one who taught that one class) if I confessed to cheating.
I got re-baptised that summer but was stressing that I wasn't even worthy to do it, that I was being a fake Christian and not really giving my all to God. I also got back on SSRI medication at the urging of my parents. I felt like medication was a drug though and I really resisted at first.
Since then, I've had times where I've really forgotten about it and can see God working in my life. I'm an assistant leader in the youth group at my church. I believe God has answered some of my prayers. But then, at times like this past week, I have a spike of condemnation and dwell on this particular sin. I wonder if confessing to the school would be like trying to attain works righteousness. When I dwell on sin, I realize I have much less focus on the outside world and act less lovingly toward other people. But, when I try to accept God's forgiveness and move on, I feel like a fake Christian building my future on a lie (lying to people when I put my B.A. on my resume, for example) and trying to preserve my life and not really lay everything down for Christ.
I don't expect that posting on this forum will solve my problem. Only God can do that and I beg him to work in me and do whatever he has to do. I wanted to share this with people like you who are more likely to understand my pain. If you read this all, thanks. It's the first time I've told anyone about this in such great detail.
This particular dilemma here started about two and a half years ago, very soon after re-dedicating myself to God. I was raised a Christian, but fell away in high school (lost belief in God and didn't consider myself a Christian at all), and came back to Christ after partying and drugs and stuff in college, realizing I was in a terrible place and needed him in my life.
Well, I cheated in a class in college under a great deal of academic pressure. A lot of kids in the class would work on the homework together, even though it was prohibited, or even get the homework answer key and just copy off it; I was no different. I justified it at the time by telling myself that the professor was a terrible instructor and probably knew this kind of stuff was going on anyway. His tests were recycled from previous years, too.
Well, one night, I went on the professor's website to get the answer sheet for that week's homework (I plain didn't understand the material). I turned it in the next day, and then I started to feel really convicted. I knew what I had been doing in that class was wrong. That taking the homework answer key was probably the single worst cheating I'd done. My school had a very strict honor code, and I was wondering if I admitted to this one thing where it would stop? Would I need to confess all the times I've ever lied and cheated, even going back to high school? Would I need to tell about the other students in the class also cheating?
What I ended up doing is taking the final exam (which was optional, but could still bring my grade down) without any aids (even though students were allowed to have a page with notes). I also changed my major to a less prestigious one in the same department. So, at the end, I didn't need that class to graduate and the C that I got brought down my GPA.
I asked God to forgive me, but I still felt condemnation. I brought the situation to a few spiritual leaders I knew just one wouldn't satisfy my doubt. I got answers ranging from basically It's clear you need to confess to the school. If it's the Holy Spirit convicting you, he's not going to let this go. You're just starting out in life. What would you say to your kids? to Do what's in your heart, but God forgives you and you should move on. Don't focus your life around this. This does not define you. If you let him, Satan will twist you on a hook about this, to God forgives you, but you also sinned against the university and have to get right with them, to God forgives you, just let it go.
As much as I tried to move on, I still felt condemned. I graduated from college. After a few weeks, I told God that I would turn myself in if it was his will. Then, of course, I tried to convince myself that it was his will that I just move on. I was living with my parents and they saw the struggle and pain I was going through. We argued about it. Naturally, they didn't want me to do something to jeopardize my future. I think my mom was even worried I would kill myself. I even quit my job as a research assistant because I felt like I didn't deserve to work in the university and started imagining that I would taint the reputation of the professor I worked under (not the one who taught that one class) if I confessed to cheating.
I got re-baptised that summer but was stressing that I wasn't even worthy to do it, that I was being a fake Christian and not really giving my all to God. I also got back on SSRI medication at the urging of my parents. I felt like medication was a drug though and I really resisted at first.
Since then, I've had times where I've really forgotten about it and can see God working in my life. I'm an assistant leader in the youth group at my church. I believe God has answered some of my prayers. But then, at times like this past week, I have a spike of condemnation and dwell on this particular sin. I wonder if confessing to the school would be like trying to attain works righteousness. When I dwell on sin, I realize I have much less focus on the outside world and act less lovingly toward other people. But, when I try to accept God's forgiveness and move on, I feel like a fake Christian building my future on a lie (lying to people when I put my B.A. on my resume, for example) and trying to preserve my life and not really lay everything down for Christ.
I don't expect that posting on this forum will solve my problem. Only God can do that and I beg him to work in me and do whatever he has to do. I wanted to share this with people like you who are more likely to understand my pain. If you read this all, thanks. It's the first time I've told anyone about this in such great detail.