Grief comparison

[tergail]

I had a friend say to me that grief was like a huge tidal wave that comes in and knocks you over, makes you feel like your going to drown, and then moves back out to sea again. And as time goes on the wave may get smaller, and smaller. But like the ocean, there will always be waves. Some are just bigger and stronger than others.

 

[jsimms615]

I had a friend say to me that grief was like a huge tidal wave that comes in and knocks you over, makes you feel like your going to drown, and then moves back out to sea again. And as time goes on the wave may get smaller, and smaller. But like the ocean, there will always be waves. Some are just bigger and stronger than others.

Grief is also contagious. You'll notice when someone is grieving and then they see someone who also knew the deceased that that usually starts the person crying again if the grief is recent.

 

[Katieg]

It has been 11 years since I lost my mother and I have realized that this grief never will go away – it will just change over time. You have to find things to help you. I have always been searching. And it takes a long time – not what everyone else would like it to take – like a month or two!!!! What is wrong with these people who do not understand the pain that is involved with this process. I finally found a book on Amazon.com that really helped. It was an easy read and seemed to “speak” to me and made me understand that what I went through was the “norm” and I was not abnormal or nuts!! It talked about the culture we live in as well and why it makes things so difficult.
The name of the book was Baby Boomers Face Grief but it talked generally about grief and a little bit about why this will be so hard for Baby Boomers.