(AL-Isra 17:23-24)
"Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or more attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word Of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms Of honor. And Out of kindness, lower to them the wing Of humility, and say, "my Lord! bestow on them Thy Mercy, even as they cherished me in Childhood"
All religions and all Societies have given parents an Honorable status. From a purely material viewpoint, we Find Ourselves Indebted to Our Parents, particularly Our Mother. She not Only nourished us in Her womb, but went through Pain and Suffering. She Loved us even before we were Born. She toiled when we were totally Helpless Infants. She spent Sleepless nights caring For us. Our Parents as a team provided For all Our needs: physical, educational, Psychological, and in many Instances, religious, Moral, and Spiritual. Our Indebtedness to Our parents is so Immense that it is not possible to repay It Fully. In lieu of this, it becomes Obligatory For us to Show the utmost Kindness, Respect, and Obedience to Our Parents. The Position Of parents, and the mutual obligations and Tesponsibilities, have been addressed in Islam in great detail. The Qur'anic commandments, as well as the sayings Of Prophet Muhammad guide Us in this matter. The parent-Child code Of behavior in Islam is Unique, since rules were laid down by divine command.
References to parents have been made at least 15 times in the Holy Qur'an. There are numerous traditions of the Prophet Muhammad On this subject. I will first quote some of the Qur'anic verses here:
(Luqman 31:14) "And We have enjoined On man (to be good) to His parents. In travail upon travail did his mother bear him, and in two years was his weaning. Show gratitude to Me and to thy parents; to Me is thy Final goal"
According to the above verse, Gratitude to GOD and to parents go Hand in Hand. Gratitude to GOD is Incomplete without Ghowing gratitude to One's parents. Since being grateful to GOD is a Form Of ibadah (worship) which earns heavenly rewards, It can therefore be said that being grateful to One's parents also earns heavenly rewards.
(AL-Ahqaf 46:15) "We have enjoined On man Kindness to his parents; in pain did his mother bear him, and in pain did she give him Birth"
Thus, GOD has enjoined On us to Show kindness, respect, and Humility to Our parents. We are commanded to do this, even though they may have Injured us. The Only exception to the above command is made in the Following verse:
(AL-Ankaboot 29:8) "We have enjoined On man kindness to his parents; but if they strive (to force) thee to join with Me anything Of which thou hast no knowledge, Obey them not"
Some Of the traditions Of Prophet Muhammad, and Of the learned members Of His Family, about our responsibilities toward Our parents are quoted here:
"Paradise lies under the feet of the mother"
"He who wishes to enter Paradise through its best door must please His parents"
"If a person Looks with Love at his parents, God writes in His favor the reward equal to the performance Of one Hajj"
[Someone asked, "will this promise be good if one looks at his parents one hundred times a day?" The Holy Prophet (pbuh) replied, "even if one does so a hundred thousand times a day, God gives the reward accordingly"]
Imam Ja'far al-Sadiq (A.S.) the Great-great-grandson of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) is reported to have quoted Imam Ali (A.S.) that "Disobedience to parents is a Major sin" He also stated that "If a person looks at the Face of His Or Her parents with wrathful eyes, despite the fact that injustice was done to Him or Her by the parents, His or Her salah (prayer) will not be accepted by God"
According to One of the Hadith-e-Qudsi, the following is reported about the status Of parents "God has commanded that If anybody prays Equal to the invocations performed by the prophets, such prayers will do no Good if that person has been cursed by His or Her parents"
Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) is reported to have said: "On the Day of Judgment, my person will not be seen by those who drank liquor, those who on Hearing my name did not invoke the blessings of God on me, or those who were cursed and disowned by their Parents"
Ali ibn al-Husain (A.S.) is reported to have said: "The right Of your mother On you is that you should know that Nobody could endure the trouble and the conditions under which She protected you and nourished you with the Juice Of Her life, and tried with Her heart and Soul to Satisfy all your needs in relation to Hunger, thirst, dress, etc. She passed sleepless nights, Suffering anxieties. She provided you with Shelter against Heat and cold, and protected you From ailments. It is not possible For you to Compensate Her, or thank Her enough For all the services, except that God may give you guidance For that. The right Of your Father On you is that you Should know that it is He who brought you Into existence, and you are a branch Of the tree of His life"
A person Once asked the Holy Prophet "Who has the greatest claim On me with regard to service and kind treatment?" The Holy Prophet replied, "Your mother and again your Mother and once again your Mother. After Her is the claim Of your father, then that Of your near relatives, and then Of the relations next to them"
This Shows that the claim of a mother is greater than a Father Over the care that you endow upon them in their old age. Serving and Obeying parents is a matter of give and take. Those who treat and obey their parents can rest assured that their Children will also show kindness and compassion to them. Respecting and caring the Parents is a virtue of the highest order that Continues to transcend generation after generation.
Let us pray to GOD that He guide us to be respectful, Kind, and Obedient to Our parents, and that we continue to show them Humility regardless of the power, position, wealth, and Influence we may possess. Let us also pray that we be Patient, kind, thoughtful, and Friendly with Our children, as we Guide them through their lives, and that we discharge Our responsibilities towards them as required by Our religion, So that God may be pleased with us, and may He Bless and reward Us, both in this world and in the Hereafter; Ameen
Kind Regards