grandmother

[dogs4thewin]

OK so on 2-16-12 my father's mother passed away. I never got to say good-bye died on a Thursday night found out Friday evening when I came back from school (I am in college) for the weekend. When will the pain and grief go away? It has been 3.5 months now, and yet TWICE this week I have cried at night. In addition, I was upset directly following her death and for maybe two to four weeks after, but then it went away. Why is it that the grief is back so heavy?

 

[rowantree]

Hi AllorNothing. Don't worry about the grief suddenly coming back so strongly. It is normal for this to happen. It is far better to let it out as in crying a lot, than to keep it in and let it eat away at you. It is healthy to let it out, and gradually you will feel better. We never forget those whom we love who have passed on, and the grief we feel indicates the great love that we have for them. She must have been a wonderful grandmother.

Just let the grief come, and don't let anyone tell you "You should be over it by now." It doesn't work like that.

I know the pain of grief can be really bad and it seems all-engulfing at the time. But it WILL get better, in its own time. Don't fight it.

Praying for you.

 

[dogs4thewin]

thanks it just seems that no one (including any of her four children) are taking it THIS hard.

 

[rowantree]

ALLorNOTHING, we are all different. I understand where you are coming from though. I just wanted to say don't compare yourself with other people. We are as we are, however that is, and if the grief seems worse in you than in the others, then this is how YOU are. There may be many reasons for it being that way. We all have had different lives and different experiences. We all have different personalities and vulnerabilites.

It is only a very short time since you lost your grandmother. Grief WILL come and go. I can tell you that for sure.

Sorry you are feeling bad about your grief though. Wish I could help in some way.

God bless you - praying for you.

 

[Criada]

I'm sorry it's so hard, sweetie.
There isn't a right or wrong way to grieve, everyone is different. But however you grieve, it is a long process, especially when you have lost someone you were close to - and when you haven't had the opportunity to say goodbye
Three months is not very long to adjust to being without someone - being upset and crying is very natural.
Praying for you, sweetie - drop me a PM if you need a listening ear at any time.

 

[SplendidTree]

Praying for you.