got through it....lol

[Screamin'Eagle]

ok so me and this girl have been seeing each other for about a year and yes were still in highschool but i swear we are meant for each other. Ok but if you knew her you would know she is not the one to put herself out there alot...so it leaves me to have to bring up alot of the stuff that requires alot of nerve...lol. So tonight we were talking and i just came out and said it, hun i love you and want to spend the rest of my life with you (yeah yeah pretty pathetic lol) and i was so relieved because i thought i was going to have a heart attack so much that i didnt even care what she said i was just glad to get it off my chest. But thankfully she feels the exact same way...just thought i would share that and ask some of the guys, or ladies...does this get any easier over time? putting yourself out there vulnerably like that? oh also no technically were not engaged ............. yet

 

[inrsoul]

well kudos to you

a close bro of mine just did that he kinda got rejected. however gentle she tried to be, rejection in any form is painful i tell you.

but anyways, i digress... heh. congrats... praise God!

 

[TJMan2050]

Wow that's pretty amazing! well I know that when I've put myself on the line like that (without the rest of my life part) I always feel like I'm going to have a heart attack, and then it is a relief as well, so I know how it is, whether it gets easier, I think it will as you both become more comfortable with responding to each other, and how each other responds to certain things. Some things have gotten a lot easier, but whenever I said I love you I always felt a tension inside of me before, like I was nervous or something, not a bad feeling, just a thoughtful say it only if you mean it feeling, just a check up on myself I guess who knows, but yeah, I've only been dating for a while, so I guess I'm not the best for advice in that department.

 

[MagicStar723]

That is awesome! I will keep ya'll in my prayers.
My FH and I started dating when he was a junior and I was a sophmore. 2.5 years later we just finished his first college (2.5 hr away) semester.
Oh, openess comes with time. I used to be that way. Encourage her with convo's try to gently push her along.

 

[Glorianna]

Wow, that's totally awesome.

Speaking from experience, engagement does make a lot of things easier. You can talk about a lot more. I have to warn you though because at first, it will still be hard. You just have to force yourself to talk about what's important even though you may not want to. It WILL get easier.

 

[gweneviere]

I've been dating my FH since high school too. It is a great feeling to have someone who has known you for so long, and through a difficult time in life. Our plans to get married are on hold depending on when we feel we are ready. I'm finishing my undergraduate degree this year, and going to law school next year, so I have to fit our relationship in between all that schoolwork.

i have had trouble communicating and sharing my life with him because I've never had that type of relationship before, as I come from a broken home, and have moved several times. Fortunately, God provides and protects. If it is his will, he will help your relationship grow into all a marraige should be.

Good luck!!