Going crazy with emotions...

[mmreed]

That's what I asked him. If he really loved my when he got married. He said I was one of the lightest hispanic and there was no white blonde girls where we're from. He said the woman had or is still having an affair with is what he always wanted. Some how I feel used and that I waisted my year with him. I just wish I can forward to healing part and not hurt anymore. It's getting better each day but still hurts a bit.

It sounds like your ex has watched too many american movies about the proverbial "hot blonde". Blondes arent any more attractive than other women...In fact, due to the stereotyping and media portrayal of "blondes", I even tend to find them less attractive. no offense to any blondes out there!

It does sound as if your ex is caught up in the whole "what the media says is sexy and what we should want" campaign that targets adolescent males with thier teenage movies about "hot blonde cheerleaders at summer camp".

Does he think he will be more successful in life with a blonde trophy wife hanging off his arm?

You will grow out of this painful time of life and find someone to share a much happier and fulfilling life with...but as you mentioned, now is the time to grow within yourself...make time for yourself and not worry about meeting someone else... join a few community clubs, join a gym, get involved with a church... God will lead you to someone eventually...until then, have fun being yourself and meeting new friends.

I find just meeting new people online is a thrill! If you want, tell us more about yourself and what you do... you may find many things in common with others here and form some great friendships!

 

[Lwest25]

I just wish I can forward to healing part and not hurt anymore. It's getting better each day but still hurts a bit.

I am a divorced person myself and the pain will eventually go away - especially as you draw closer to God.

Here is a hug - it will not mask the pain, nor take it away, but I pray that God uses it and me to assist you in this process. If there is anything I can do to assist you - just be an ear - whatever - let me know and I will try my best to do it.

As far as some of the other comments made concerning what he was looking for or seen in you - AGAIN - looking at color is the wrong thing to do. And as some of the others have stated - TV has infected our world. SATAN - is truly getting his jollies off of how we respond to the things that we see on TV.

Fortunately SATAN gets his in the END, but right now he is having a time.

Gotta get running, but I check periodically on here - send me PM and I will help out whenever and where ever I can. A SOUNDING BOARD GOES A LONG WAY - IT DID FOR ME...

 

[NickMack88]

A divorce after 1 year of marriage... terrible... but by the sounds of things, he wasnt worth it and i'm sure you deserve much better.

God will look after you, and my prayers are with you.

 

[newyorknewyork]

http://www.gotquestions.org/hope-Bible.html

 

[newyorknewyork]

http://www.gotquestions.org/trials-tribulations.html

http://www.gotquestions.org/making-marriage-last.html

http://www.gotquestions.org/restore-marriage.html

 

[Lwest25]

http://www.gotquestions.org/hope-Bible.html

Tsuriyel



Thank you - the hope message helped me. thanks for the website...

 

[gwenevere]

http://www.gotquestions.org/trials-tribulations.html

http://www.gotquestions.org/making-marriage-last.html

http://www.gotquestions.org/restore-marriage.html

I will check these web sites tonight. Thanks