God's Will

[Brittanybelieves]

Hello all. I have been a believer for all of my life, however I have recently decided to take change and grow closer to the Lord and read the Bible in hopes to learn and have a better understanding. So I very much consider myself a Christian newbie.
A lot of the Bible is difficult to understand but I am trying my best. One thing I often question is if I am living a life that pleases God and His will for me or even questioning what His will is for me

I have been in a relationship for a year and some change. We have been going through a lot of downs and very little ups in the past little bit. He decided to end the relationship in August. It was a really difficult time for me. During the separation, I tried to grow closer to God and to work on myself to better myself. During this time I would pray that if it was God's will, he would bring us back together. I had a feeling that is not explainable that our time was not over with one another - like we were brought into each other's lives for a reason. I know God brings people into your life to teach a lesson, but I did not feel as if that is all we were meant to be to one another. Time passed and we did decide to get back together and try again - which I thought was God's doing. Things were going really well for 3 weeks and then I found out something that had happened when we were separated which bothered me and caused me hurt. I began to fall back into bad behaviors of no trust and what I had worked on seemed to disappear. I can admit my faults in this. Now we are broken up again - he is very hurt with words that I said and will not talk to me/says he is done with me.

This is very little detail as to what is going on with this relationship so I know it is not very helpful. My main confusion is I felt so strongly that God was showing me signs and giving me feelings as if our time with one another was not done and that He would restore us. I thought it had happened - although we never truly did the work needed as we reunited - we just kind of placed a bandaid over things instead of truly working through them. But now we are separated again and I don't understand why if it is God's will for us to be together. I know we did not put in the work like we should have and fell into old patterns, is God telling us we didn't quite learn what we needed to in time apart? I would just maybe like an opinion of someone who has a better relationship with God than I do Does God promise us one thing to then remove it? I am not even so much upset or concerned about the relationship part of this as much as I am if I heard God's promise / will correctly.

Feel free to move this discussion elsewhere. I wasn't quite sure where to put it.

 

[Paul4JC]

Welcome to CF. Will pray for you. I'm sure you'll get a lot of advice from people here.

Here's what I've learned in 35 years (and I'm still learning). God's best is always better than something good. He always answers prayer according to his good will. Never take second best for his best. Prayer is answered not by feelings, but by his word and the circumstances we face. Often he is teaching us other lessons, mainly to trust him. God bless you.

[Pro 3:5 NIV] Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;

[Luk 11:9-13 NIV] "So I say to you: Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. 10 For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened. 11 "Which of you fathers, if your son asks for a fish, will give him a snake instead? 12 Or if he asks for an egg, will give him a scorpion? 13 If you then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!"

 

[tturt]

Welcome to CF

Glad your goal is to grow closer to God. One of the best Biblical studies I've done is researched some of God's names, titles, and attributions. Only used the online lists that included Scripture so could check them out.

Hope you find your times here are rewarding.

 

[Michie]

Welcome!

 

[Maria Billingsley]

Hello all. I have been a believer for all of my life, however I have recently decided to take change and grow closer to the Lord and read the Bible in hopes to learn and have a better understanding. So I very much consider myself a Christian newbie.
A lot of the Bible is difficult to understand but I am trying my best. One thing I often question is if I am living a life that pleases God and His will for me or even questioning what His will is for me

I have been in a relationship for a year and some change. We have been going through a lot of downs and very little ups in the past little bit. He decided to end the relationship in August. It was a really difficult time for me. During the separation, I tried to grow closer to God and to work on myself to better myself. During this time I would pray that if it was God's will, he would bring us back together. I had a feeling that is not explainable that our time was not over with one another - like we were brought into each other's lives for a reason. I know God brings people into your life to teach a lesson, but I did not feel as if that is all we were meant to be to one another. Time passed and we did decide to get back together and try again - which I thought was God's doing. Things were going really well for 3 weeks and then I found out something that had happened when we were separated which bothered me and caused me hurt. I began to fall back into bad behaviors of no trust and what I had worked on seemed to disappear. I can admit my faults in this. Now we are broken up again - he is very hurt with words that I said and will not talk to me/says he is done with me.

This is very little detail as to what is going on with this relationship so I know it is not very helpful. My main confusion is I felt so strongly that God was showing me signs and giving me feelings as if our time with one another was not done and that He would restore us. I thought it had happened - although we never truly did the work needed as we reunited - we just kind of placed a bandaid over things instead of truly working through them. But now we are separated again and I don't understand why if it is God's will for us to be together. I know we did not put in the work like we should have and fell into old patterns, is God telling us we didn't quite learn what we needed to in time apart? I would just maybe like an opinion of someone who has a better relationship with God than I do Does God promise us one thing to then remove it? I am not even so much upset or concerned about the relationship part of this as much as I am if I heard God's promise / will correctly.

Feel free to move this discussion elsewhere. I wasn't quite sure where to put it.

Welcome to CF. Enjoy the many forums committed to growing the Kingdom!
Blessings.

 

[RileyG]

Welcome!

 

[Christoph Maria]

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WELCOME to Christian Forums!


“And thou shalt love the LORD thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might.”
Deuteronomy 6:5
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“Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness.”
Isaiah 41:10

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“And Jesus looking upon them saith, With
men it is impossible, but not with God:
for with God all things are possible.”
Mark 10:27

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“The Lord is not slow to keep his promise.
He is not slow in the way some people understand it.
He is patient with you.
He doesn't want anyone to be destroyed.
Instead, he wants all people
to turn away from their sins.”
2 Peter 3:9

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[Brihaha]

Welcome to CF. God bless you friend.

 

[Blade]

Hello all. I have been a believer for all of my life, however I have recently decided to take change and grow closer to the Lord and read the Bible in hopes to learn and have a better understanding. So I very much consider myself a Christian newbie.
A lot of the Bible is difficult to understand but I am trying my best. One thing I often question is if I am living a life that pleases God and His will for me or even questioning what His will is for me

I have been in a relationship for a year and some change. We have been going through a lot of downs and very little ups in the past little bit. He decided to end the relationship in August. It was a really difficult time for me. During the separation, I tried to grow closer to God and to work on myself to better myself. During this time I would pray that if it was God's will, he would bring us back together. I had a feeling that is not explainable that our time was not over with one another - like we were brought into each other's lives for a reason. I know God brings people into your life to teach a lesson, but I did not feel as if that is all we were meant to be to one another. Time passed and we did decide to get back together and try again - which I thought was God's doing. Things were going really well for 3 weeks and then I found out something that had happened when we were separated which bothered me and caused me hurt. I began to fall back into bad behaviors of no trust and what I had worked on seemed to disappear. I can admit my faults in this. Now we are broken up again - he is very hurt with words that I said and will not talk to me/says he is done with me.

This is very little detail as to what is going on with this relationship so I know it is not very helpful. My main confusion is I felt so strongly that God was showing me signs and giving me feelings as if our time with one another was not done and that He would restore us. I thought it had happened - although we never truly did the work needed as we reunited - we just kind of placed a bandaid over things instead of truly working through them. But now we are separated again and I don't understand why if it is God's will for us to be together. I know we did not put in the work like we should have and fell into old patterns, is God telling us we didn't quite learn what we needed to in time apart? I would just maybe like an opinion of someone who has a better relationship with God than I do Does God promise us one thing to then remove it? I am not even so much upset or concerned about the relationship part of this as much as I am if I heard God's promise / will correctly.

Feel free to move this discussion elsewhere. I wasn't quite sure where to put it.

When it comes to people God cannot go against our will. I remember reading where this guy and girl would always get together to pray. One day after prayer she leaves and the lord told him "she will be your wife". That was shocking to him since they were not even seeing each other that way. So if we look at just that.. if God told Him then God would have also told her. That is exactly what happened. God told her he will be your husband. Now we tend to look at that as if GOD made that choice. In truth it is what they wanted. I remember me and someone prayed about a girl. I asked the lord if she is the one and all God said was "what do you want". I didn't understand why God would not just tell me. Some years later the truth was when I asked God I had already made up my mind that I wanted to be with her. God does not play games.

 

[Joined2krist]

Welcome!

 

[GracefulWarrior]

Welcome to the CF and Thank You for Sharing!

My husband and I met online back in '97, we were just friends introduced by some mutual friends. Then one day my husband heard an audible "Voice" say to him, "That's your Wife, you're going to marry her." Long story short, meantime the Lord was leading me to move from my homeland in Hawaii to Michigan to marry this guy! "I" "told" God (lol), "This better be "good" and this guy better be worth it, coz I didn't want to get married AGAIN, BUT YOUR WILL BE DONE, LORD, NOT MINE OR OURS!" We have to remember that God is not a touchy-feeling emotional changing being like us, so if we "feel" differ against God's Will, then it's most likely that God's Will is the right path to stay on, so we take a leap of faith and get off of that emotional roller coaster ride...

We've been very happily married and going on our 25th anniversary next March, we're a work in progress, but we have to come into agreement together WITH GOD, or it'll be a struggle till we "get it right WITH GOD. We do Ministry/Life together, he just finished his seminary schooling in Dec. 2021, he was also the Pastor/Chaplin for the motorcycle communities of Hawaii and the Coast Guard Auxilliary. Both our God-Given and Spiritual Gifts compliment each others weaknesses and Supernaturally encourage and uplift each other and others as well! God uses our gifts especially to help other Couples who are struggling in their relationships, we did NOT ask for such things, we just have to surrender to God's Holy Spirit and "let" God be GOD in our lives and the lives we're helping too. So now, whenever a couple comes to us, I'm already asking God, "Lord, what is it that YOU want us to do for this couple? What does this couple need to do to get back into alignment with YOUR Will Lord?", among other obvious questions at the time, etc.

Christian couples would come to us asking for Godly Wisdom, and when they surrender and trust in God that we're there to help them and not judge them, God will help us move forward. BUT, this one couple, the husband is a very good friend of ours, asked if "She" was the one to be his wife (before they were married)? The first thing that popped in my mind was "No! Not right now, but wait on God." They got married anyway, and all hell broke loose, his world was turned upside down, he has some health issues that she wasn't ready to help him with, while she was tryna deal with her alcoholism, she was a mean drunk and she abused the heck out of her husband when he was sick and couldn't "do" for himself, etc. etc....The list went on!

There's been success testimonies too, but not matter what, we have to help each other through it all together...WITH GOD.

Sorry so long, we'll keep you in our prayers and we also pray that God will surround you both with His Peace and the "knowing" what's best to do for His Kingdom, and not ours...

 

[sunshineforJesus]

Welcome here.