God's Will to be single??

[Leah]

Do ya'll think that maybe its just His will for some to stay single?? If so, then how is it that some may long to not be single but He wants it that way?

 

[findinghope06]

God only wants you to have a full and abundant life. i have to admit that i really struggled with this question and i have recieved a lot of good help on the subject. heres what i think on this:

1. if God wanted me single, He would put that in my heart and He wouldnt have me long for the married life. He would make it so that i couldnt even imagine being married to somone b/c my only happiness was being 'married' to Him and only Him.
2. when i told me friend this she said to me "all are called, few are chosen" basically she said that everyone is called to do Gods work, but few are called to do Gods work as a single person. like number 1, if God really wanted you to be single, He would make that decision one that would make you the happiest. you wouldnt long for the married life.
3. i sometimes felt that i couldnt do Gods work as a married person b/c i would have my husband in my life, but i learned that you CAN do Gods work as a married couple. He put you two together for a reason and as long as God is the center of your relationship, you dont need to feel like you have to be single in order to do His will

well i hope that helps a little bit...those points have really helped me to see what God really wanted for me. If He wanted me single, i would be but i know that it isnt His plan for me. keep praying to Him about it and ask Him to make it very clear what He wants you to do. He will answer you, it will just take some time and patience. Good luck and PM me if you ever need anything. God Bless.

 

[mannysee]

that answer from your friend about "many are called, few are chosen" is waaay out of context (i'm glad you got past it and came to a better reasoning)

 

[mina]

I don't know the answer to this. All I know is that God's word is flawless and He says to delight ourselfs in Him and He will give us the desires of our hearts. We must be delighting in HIm though and seeking His will and resolving to be content in the center of His will for us. Life's hard; we don't always get what we want, but we can trust God even when we aren't getting what we want. Perhaps the closer we get to God; the more receptive we become to what His will is for us. However I must say I struggle greatly with this: I'm single now(and I can be joyful and content in that), but I desire to be a Godly wife and then a mother. However joyful and content I am in singleness; I do not want to stay here forever.

 

[invisiblebabe]

Statistically, most people (about 90% I believe) will get married sometime during their lifetime.

So, obviously, either God isn't calling very many to be celibate for life.... or nobody is listening

 

[chanis]

I think that if God is calling you to be single there would already be something stirring in your spirit whether you wanted to follow after it or not is your choice (free will) but I think when God wants you to do something he places that desire or uneasiness but it's up to us to go through with it. Like Jesus when he was praying the Garden, he knew what he had to do but he prayed "take this cup from me" yet he knew in his spirit what had to be done...so if you're called to this lifestyle you'll know...

 

[Carri20]

I think God does call some people to be single, but I don't believe he calls people who have a deep desire to get married in the first place. I think the people God calls to be single want to be single simply because that's the way God made them. Also, if a person is married and then divorced, it becomes God's will for them to remain single or return to their spouce, and he can change the person's heart so they are content with that.

 

[OhhJim]

I think some people have a deep desire to be married, but they don't understand the reality of what married life is like, and if they did, they'd be happier being single. (Yes, like me.)

It could be that God prevents this type of person from getting married because He knows he or she wouldn't really be happy in the kind of marriage they could get.

 

[the_man]

Do ya'll think that maybe its just His will for some to stay single?? If so, then how is it that some may long to not be single but He wants it that way?

Loaded question.

If it is God's will for one to be single, i.e. God has a specific purpose for their lives and it requires singleness, they will know and be content with it ("I wish you were as I am").

As invisiblebabe said, most people will get married. Few people will desire to marry and never marry.

 

[Ithilwyn]

Not all of our desires are from God, and personally, I often found that my desire to be married was simply the result of societal expectations and dissatisfaction with my single state. I used to think that when God called someone to be single, He would give them some sort of special gift, that they would have absolutely now desire to ever marry. I really don't think that is the case now. He has called all of us to a singlehood for at least part of our lives. A few years ago, God showed me that the problem with my attitude was that I was thinking that I just had to "get through" this time of being single until I got married; the attitude He wanted me to have was that I was to live a full, single life unless I got married. This revelation completely freed me to truly enjoy wherever I was at in life, to live the life given me to the fullest without looking around for something better.

 

[HoosierCanuck]

I read the original post and thought I had an answer until I read some other posts. Does that make sense?

My original answer was going to be that I honestly believe He has called me to remain single for the rest of my life. I feel threatened by the prospect of a relationship. Maybe it's a social anxiety issue on my part. Dunno

However, in light of the fact that I tried the pain and suffering of marriage for 1 1/2 years makes me think that it is possible at some point in the future He'll bring someone along again. Of course there are a lot of biblical perspectives/opinions/verses on the subject of divorce, etc. I was 22, stupid and married what I 'thought' was a Christian man. What I got was Satan. I was used and mentally abused and finally left behind for who knows what. That experience scared the **** out of me as far as relationships go. Also, men simply do NOT find me attractive. This has always been the case and I figure it always will be.

As for those who haven't been through what I have....I don't know. I know of some former coworkers who have never been married and seem to not even be bothered by it. I know of another former coworker who has a DEEP desire for a relationship with a man. She struggles a lot with lust and everything. I really feel sorry for her.

The company I work for now I think everyone is either married or in a relationship of some sort except for me and one other woman who is in her late 40's. (never married) She was supposedly engaged at one point in her life. Don't know the whole story. Anyway, being only 2 singles out of a group of at least 350 people it kind of gives you a complex sometimes. lol

 

[JPPT1974]

We all need to make our desires God's desires and surrender our needs and will and make them His will and needs. And not to rely on outside help or the world. Though advice can be good. But God's advice is even better.

 

[choceo]

doesn't God call people to do thing that they don't want 2 do?

 

[awashinlove]

I agree with the the idea that God doesn't simply leave a true and honest, God-given longing in our hearts that he'll refuse to fulfill at some point in time. My problem is that I keep looking at my watch and merely feel like my prayers have been left unanswered. We all just have to wait different lengths of time for whatever we're believing for, I suppose, and in our frustration learn not to feel like "it" won't happen for us at all ...

Blessings,
awashinlove

 

[trust_faith]

sometimes I also think that in the end.. I will end up being single...

 

[soyness]

Statistically, most people (about 90% I believe) will get married sometime during their lifetime.

So, obviously, either God isn't calling very many to be celibate for life.... or nobody is listening

exactly what i wanted to say.

 

[soyness]

Also i realize that i am so used to being single (I never really dated before), so I think i'm used to it. I can't imagine dating or married.

 

[butterflyinchrist]

It does actually say in the bible that some are destined to live a life completely devoted to God and no one else. Paul says it somewhere he says "i wish all men could be as i am....." or something along those lines. I don't have a bible with me at the mo so if anyone else has any idea where it is let me no if not I'll have to find it when I get home.

At the end of the day I think it all depends on your calling.