God's timing

[sunshine100]

Why do you think it takes so long to find the person that is right for us?And why do you think for some people it doesn't take them such a long time to find the person for them?Do you think that it is all just God's timing to meet someone special?

 

[yeshuaslavejeff]

Do you think that it is all just God's timing to meet someone special?

Yes.

 

[alsughasoughaiuyfygh]

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[yeshuaslavejeff]

No, I just believe some people are simply genetically blessed and naturally more desirable than others for many reasons outside of our control. Life isn't fair and the sooner we accept that, the better.

Jesus being the best example perhaps >>> as written of Him >>>>

Isaiah 53:2 - Bible Gateway

https://www.biblegateway.com/verse/en/Isaiah%2053:2
He was like a root growing in a dry land. He had no special beauty or form to make us notice him. There was nothing in his appearance to make us desire him.

 

[( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)]

I believe this: God has to prepare people for marriage. This isn't counting the people who jump into a relationship ahead of the Lord and end up marrying out of His will. (Which only brings heartache) And for those folks who refuse and are stubborn to go thru His refining process for marriage then, yes, for those people it takes longer. I also believe God has planted seeds of greatness in individuals. And those years of singleness is preparation for building a foundation for all the great things God is going to do in their lives.

Because as they say..if God gave them all those amazing things prematurely then they wouldn't be able to bear them. The weight of glory is definitely in the waiting upon God for some folks.

 

[Niels]

Having standards can also prolong the process. Although it's certainly possible to find a good match early on, it's more likely to take longer for those who have standards than those who don't. If what you're looking for is only found in 10% of the population, for instance, it will take longer than if what you're looking for is found in 50%.

A short list of compatibility-based standards:

- Compatible values
- Compatible temperaments
- Compatible tastes
- Compatible age range
- Compatible hobbies
- Compatible quirks
- Compatible lifestyles
- Compatible allergies

Note that I didn't say *similar*, but merely compatible.

A while back, I tried to run the numbers on this and found that I'd be compatible with something like .00000001% of women. I don't remember the exact number, but it was incredibly small.

That said, I do think God's timing plays into this. When you look at all of the other factors, it's amazing that anybody finds each other. It might also be a small miracle that I haven't wound up with someone completely wrong for me.

 

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

Given that some people are more universally attractive than others, that's the main reason why some have it easier than others when it comes to finding someone. Because to be in a relationship you have to attract the other person, with your attractiveness. It's no different than why some people are better socially, academically etc. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses.