God's Love

[Dream]

In some of my previous posts where I whined about being lonely, I had a few people respond back and say that the love of a person never matched the love of God.

There was somebody in particular who said something along the lines of "even though I'm happily married, there is still an emptiness that only God's love can fill."

If your spouse/loved one were to die today, would you be sad? If yes, why? The love that your husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend had for you was nothing compared to the love that God has. It doesn't even come close.

Why do people mourn? It's not because they miss the conversations they had with that person. It's not because they miss having sex with that person. It's not because they are upset they are now single. People mourn because they miss the love that person had for them.

So how can you tell me that I don't need the love of a person, only God, when you yourself would mourn the death of a loved one?

Sorry if this sounds a little bitter, I'm just frustrated.

 

[Abba]

So how can you tell me that I don't need the love of a person, only God, when you yourself would mourn the death of a loved one?

Imagine the mourning that would take place if God forsook the human race

 

[Irenaeus]

I agree with Abba.

Jesus himself wept when he lost a dear friend.

Why do you think our prayers call this world a valley of tears?

Yet we know that in eternity, God will wipe every tear from our eyes. This is especially an act of faith and hope.

 

[ShannonMcCatholic]

I dunno- when those close to me have died- it is just not that emotional... I fear more for their soul and pray for their salvation- more than I miss them- if they have died in a questionable state it makes me sad that they did not avail themselves of the love of Christ while on earth....

If my husband died tomorrow- I would weep- I would be sad that my children would not get to grow up knowing this incredible man, I would be sad that I would probably not be able to be a stay at home mom any more-- but I wouldn't feel any loss of love- none. There would be times I'd miss talking to him, or his smell, or his teasing- but God's will is perfect in our lives and I know that all that ever happens- happens for the eternal good.

I dunno- death is not that big of a deal for me- I don't really know why it just isn't....

 

[Abba]

DT, I know what you feel like, there have been moments in my life where I really resented those people who seem to have life going so easy and happy, and who seem to hold the world on a string. Loneliness stinks. But you are a good person, I can tell, and im sure that there are some really nice girls out there who would be perfect for you.

God bless you brother!

 

[Abba]

The good thing about tears in this life is that there is the promise that someone will dry them, turning something bad into a good thing. That person, is of course, God.

 

[Irenaeus]

Right,

Even sometimes, sorrow can be good for us..like tears of repentance. Ecclesiates says that the heart of the wise is in the house of morning.

 

[epiclesis]

First of all,


If I lost a close relative/friend right now, I would be sad. I would miss them. But I don't think I would be in a grieving state or very sad. I would miss them, but my life will go on, and think that they're, hopefully, in a better place now. It's not that I don't love them, but I know God meant for them to "leave" here now, so I need to accept God's will.=)

I'm kind of dealing with it right now though, my brother in law is dying of cancer (I hate saying "dying of ____" .. it sounds so depressing!) and was given 10 months, but it's looking like it's really not going to be long now.
And I just found out my (older) uncle on my dad's side (about age 72) is getting pretty bad and my other uncle is looking into a nursing home for him. So it kind of looks as if I'm going to be dealing with some deaths in the not-too-distant future. But I'm not overly-sad. I pray for them, pray for them and their family to be comforted, and for them to accept God's will.
But it's hard, not everyone deals with things in the same way. But we need to remember that God's love is amazing and so unending that we can't even fathom it. (I can't help but think of the song "Your love is amazing, steady and unchanging, Your love is a mountain, form beneath my feet, Your love is a mystery, how You gently lift me, when I am surrounded, Your love carries me..." or "Unending Love" or "Amazing Love" but I won't "bore" you with my lyrics =) )
Or the story of the footprints!
We need to know when anything happens, God's always there to comfort us, and that's how we get through it!

Anyway, I'm kind of rambling now (I can be known for that sometimes )... So I'll stop now.

 

[Carrye]

There was somebody in particular who said something along the lines of "even though I'm happily married, there is still an emptiness that only God's love can fill."

This doesn't answer your question at all DT, but this reminded me of St. Augustine's prayer: "Thou has made us for thyself, O Lord, and our heart is restless until it rests in thee."

It is ONLY God who can fill our souls. Can we make others happy, and others make us happy? Of course. But it is God who is our Beginning and our End. It is God who literally sustains our being. How improper would completion without Him be!

 

[Benedicta00]

In some of my previous posts where I whined about being lonely, I had a few people respond back and say that the love of a person never matched the love of God.

There was somebody in particular who said something along the lines of "even though I'm happily married, there is still an emptiness that only God's love can fill."

If your spouse/loved one were to die today, would you be sad? If yes, why? The love that your husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend had for you was nothing compared to the love that God has. It doesn't even come close.

Why do people mourn? It's not because they miss the conversations they had with that person. It's not because they miss having sex with that person. It's not because they are upset they are now single. People mourn because they miss the love that person had for them.

So how can you tell me that I don't need the love of a person, only God, when you yourself would mourn the death of a loved one?

Sorry if this sounds a little bitter, I'm just frustrated.

I don’t recall anyone saying you don’t nee the love of another person just that you are still very young and have plenty of time.

Spouses, dogs , cats, what ever-- and no I am not comparing cats and dogs to spouses (or am I ) but God has given them to us to fill the void we have because we don’t have heaven yet. Augustine said, we have a God sized hole in our heart and our hearts were made for God and they will be restless until they rest in Him. Having a spouse helps settle the restlessness.

Our spouses become one with us when we marry. It s different from having a girlfriend or boyfriend. Our spouse is Christ to us to love because that is how we love Christ; we love one another as he loved us. That helps fill the God sized hole.

So what you are confused over is that no one ho is perfect, only God is and it is when we think the spouse can fill our need for perfect love that only God can give we become empty feeling because we should not be looking for the type of love from others that only God can give to us.