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goldenviolet said:
i wish i could wrap you up in my arms. we are to bear eachothers burdens and to be the hands and feet of christ. your discouragent is mine too. :hug: let us build you up and edify your heart. just like we are commanded to. :groupray:

and you will find like yourself, and me... there are many of us hurt and struggling. but we are in different stages of life and growth. at one time i felt as you do now... i remember it well. my hardships inspire me to reach out.
so if you need to talk and don't feel comfy on a forum, you just send me a pm. :hug: love dee
No one's life is all good. It may seem that way but it is not. This place is not your home. Earth is so temporary. I know it is hard to think this way right at this moment, but you should try.

Another suggestion is to write down on a piece of paper all of the things that bring you joy in this life here on earth. You will be surprised how many things you have.

God Bless you.
 
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caleb2514 said:
Another suggestion is to write down on a piece of paper all of the things that bring you joy in this life here on earth.

Not to argue with you, as I think that is a good idea if you can be objective. And the points I snipped out were good too. But I have no joy in this world. God took away the one thing that had ever given me joy or peace. And until He answers my prayers I will be in pain. If God chooses not to answer my prayers, well I guess it shows what value He places on my life. I am speaking from the pain and despair placed deep in my heart. And only God can deliver me. If He will.
 
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im sorry ....{{HUGS}}

Hang in there....you know what,from my experiences when ever i feel so discouraged and at the end of all my ropes.......that's when God steps in.There's so much i can say about this and briefly i will say....God knows what you want before you even ask for it.He knows what's best for you and even though you may want something and ask for it and don't recieve it.It could be not the right time,not now or wait or it isn't something God wants for you or is good for you.God is watching over you looking out for you.He knows what will make you happy and what is good for you.Aren't you glad we have a God who cares for us like this? Be glad.Let things happen in all in God's timing...his way and his purpose.Let him rule and rein over your life.
Things will happen for you.......wait for God's best.
 
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luxem said:
God is good? God is only good to some people. For me, this really sucks. Is He the reason why I suffered in the past year, and am still suffering? I don't know why He favors some people. Give them happy family, good companion, good jobs...I don't know where I do wrong so that He hates me so much. Those non-belivers who sin are even have a better life than mine. Then why should I be a Christian? Gave tithe, no sex before marriage, can't date non-Christian, can't go out w/family on Sundays...But what do I get? One misery after another. I am not Job! Why can't God just just give me a break or leave me alone!
I felt I was punished by my faith in God. I used to trust Him so much, believing that He is faithful and loving. But actually He is not, at least not to me. There was a time I was so hopeless. I cried out to Him, praying for His guidance, but I heard nothing. But that's fine. God never talked to me directly just like He did to other people. So I took a night bus to New York for Billy Graham's crusade, or went to Vinyard church to have other people pray for me, but He didn''t even want to spare me a word. There were so many times I wanted to end my life. After a year of suffering and pain, I came back to my home country. At first I still tried to go to church, but it's so hard. I was reminded of what He's done to me in that year. I used to love praise and worship so much but now those songs disguist me. I was full of hatred and resentment towards God. So I stop going to the Church, stop praying and thinking anything about Him. Then I felt I was gradually recovered, and much relaxed. I used to surrentder everything to God, and prayed to walk on the path He prepared for me. Now I can make my own decision. No need to worry if it's God's will anymore. I don't need Him, His blessing, guidance or whatsoever. I don't want to have anything to do with Him, and I'll be responsible for my own life. But He just refuses to give me a break. One misery after another. I have no hope or any expectation. Nothing I can feel happy about. I feel I am like a living mob. The only reason why I am still in this world is bcause of my parents. If I were an orphan, I'd have jumped from the building a year ago.
luxem,

Peace to you through our Lord Jesus Christ.

It does look like our Heavenly Father's Working though upon you~

I'll explain~ Just real quick~ we do live in afflictions at times,.....it's how God grows us. It's His Holy Fires at work~ drying up some of our soils moisture, just to let us know that when we get back up that we didn't do it on our own but knowing then that it was God who strengthens us. As I often say and am persuaded,...it is Him who is running the show.

See~
Are you aware that if you dry out (but not too dry ~of course) a Tomatoe plants soil
just a bit,.....you will cause it to bear friut?
And when you prune it at just the right time (when that middle shoot comes out from a bigger branch) that you will cause the Tomatoe Plant to produce even more fruit? You would have caused strength to come to the Plant and not for it's destruction, but rather for it's increase.

~anyway~
What was your childhood like?
Do you care to share? :preach:
Let's see if God through this Body here can give you some more love along the way.....if you want.


GOD BLESS YOU, GOD'S PRECIOUS TOMATOE PLANT :wave:
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Gardener - Connie
 
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Hey Love, God doesn't hate you, neither has he forgotton you or rejected you, he loves you. It may seem many times during life hes left us but he hasn't, many of us have long enduring trials to face, I have especially in the last year, one thing after another, but we actually come out stronger in the end, yes we do see people who seem to have perfect lives, but behind closed doors we don't know what there lives are like. Through every trial like I say it does make us stronger and what a good testemony that is in the end, to be seen with God getting us through each issue.

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luxem said:
God is good? God is only good to some people. For me, this really sucks. Is He the reason why I suffered in the past year, and am still suffering? I don't know why He favors some people. Give them happy family, good companion, good jobs...I don't know where I do wrong so that He hates me so much. Those non-belivers who sin are even have a better life than mine. Then why should I be a Christian? Gave tithe, no sex before marriage, can't date non-Christian, can't go out w/family on Sundays...But what do I get? One misery after another. I am not Job! Why can't God just just give me a break or leave me alone!
 
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luxem said:
God is good? God is only good to some people. For me, this really sucks. Is He the reason why I suffered in the past year, and am still suffering? I don't know why He favors some people. Give them happy family, good companion, good jobs...I don't know where I do wrong so that He hates me so much. Those non-belivers who sin are even have a better life than mine. Then why should I be a Christian? Gave tithe, no sex before marriage, can't date non-Christian, can't go out w/family on Sundays...But what do I get? One misery after another. I am not Job! Why can't God just just give me a break or leave me alone!

Non Christians have bad lives too. Bad stuff happens to everybody.
 
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Read Luke 16:20-25 about Lazarus.

Earth = living without God (bad things happen to everyone, there is no control here)

Heaven = living with God and his protection

How will we appreciate the good things if the bad things never happen? We have to have something to compare it with! I wanted to let you know that I've been exactly where you are, and will continue to be because, "He that loveth his life shall lose it; and he that hateth his life in this world shall keep it unto life eternal." John 12:25
 
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I stopped back to check out this particular thread to see how everyone was doing.

Trust me, I've had a lifetime of the "job" thing - seriously, but you know God has blessed me and given me tenfold what has been stolen from me.

When you are in the valley, frankly it's bad - it feels bad, it looks bad, it smells bad and it's the most unfun thing one can do - I would agree, but would appreciate the vista from the mountain top if that's all you ever saw?

I feel your pain - truly I do - but I will share part of my testimony in the hopes that it will assist you in becoming an overcomer. When I was five I was being sexually abused on a regular basis. I went to sunday school and we had a lesson on prayer and how God hears our prays and if they are not selfish prayers, God will answer them.

So I take my five year old little self home, get down on my knees and literally CRY and ask God to make all the crazy things stop. Guess what? They didn't - in fact they never stopped until I stopped them ten years later when I said never again.

I was furious with God, more so then I could ever explain with simple words. I would try to commit suicide, wake up and RAGE at God. I was like "OH sure what are you enjoying this? You fix NOTHING and you WILL NOT EVEN LET ME DIE!!! Trust me when I tell you I was angry, I was angry.

When I finally was able to come to God, I realized in looking back that God had truly kept his hand on my life and literally kept me alive so I could FIND the truth. Despite my rage, my sins, my worship of other gods - he was merciful to me and kept me alive.

Believe me when I tell you there will come a day when someone will walk up to you and say, "Wow, I so want what you have" and you will have to tell them, "Trust me you don't want what I've had to go through to get what I have".

Keep pressing on and pressing in....it's worth it I promise.
 
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There's a tiny little but very important detail you're forgetting.

You are not God's puppet. God gave you something called freedom and free will, so while on Earth you are responsable for yourself. That doesn't mean God won't help you if you ask him (though it'll be his decision whether to do it or not), but get rid of the idea that both the good and the bad things that happen to you are God's whim. You were set free in a world that has its own rules, and therefore you are affected by them. If your whole family got killed by a tsunami (as happened to three hundred thousand people like you two years ago), it wouldn't be God's fault, but the tsunami's. Your family would have been in the wrong place at the wrong time, period.


So instead of staring at the sky and asking God "why" you should look for the causes of all you don't like in your life in yourself, and make an effort to change what you'd like to be different instead of waiting for someone else to miraculously do it.



I assure you that all those people with nice families and good jobs, cars and houses you talk about weren't given what the have just because they were lucky enough. They had to work hard in order to get where they are.

Leave that medieval teocentric attitude that leads people to laying on the sweet and confortable bed of resignation and to saying: why should I move, since no matter how hard I try there's nothing I can do to change what God predestined for me?

:)
 
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dont judge yourself on others, perhalps some of the people you see as being blessed have just been greedy & may be very unhappy, jesus was asked , so it is not wise to get married, & he said something like, some people are born not ment for marrige but if you feel you should get married & are honest with yourself, then find a girlfriend & if you dont know how to go about that , ask in another section & you may get help, I dont know myself friend, some times we should see ahead ourselves & expect what happens as a challange. it could be wise to set yourself a positive goal that you can work towards rather than wanting everything to change at once. you can not predict the futhure & who knows what good things god has in store for you & that you can help yourself get with his help if you are positive & have faith in him, I'm sure you are a blessing to someone, try & enjoy the life you have, and always remember there are people worse off in the world even if you dont see them often & also remember you are never alone or the only one feeling that way. perhalps your first goal is to think positive, then work from that, good luck.
 
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I was reading in my devotional yesterday about how Job can accept good from God and also adversity. Job did nothing wrong for all these things to come upon him and he never stopped talked to God in this whole book of the bible. His wife tried to get him to curse God and die, you know, get it over with! But Job says...
Job 2:10
"...shall we accept good from God and not trouble?" NIV
In all this, Job did not sin in what he said."

I know it's hard, I've had my share of troubles too. The devil can NOT make you a better offer than your Christian faith. Remember that. God wants to prove those who are His children and He does discipline and send trials if and when necessary.

Jan
 
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janny108 said:
I was reading in my devotional yesterday about how Job can accept good from God and also adversity. Job did nothing wrong for all these things to come upon him and he never stopped talked to God in this whole book of the bible. His wife tried to get him to curse God and die, you know, get it over with! But Job says...
Job 2:10
"...shall we accept good from God and not trouble?" NIV
In all this, Job did not sin in what he said."

I know it's hard, I've had my share of troubles too. The devil can NOT make you a better offer than your Christian faith. Remember that. God wants to prove those who are His children and He does discipline and send trials if and when necessary.

Jan

Every time I go through troubles, I read Job and try to understand all of this. You have given a good reason to keep perservering.
 
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