Hello all,
This is not a topic about marriage, really, but I know a couple of the ladies here keep up with 'what the kids are listening to these days', and we talk about boundaries a lot here, so I just wanting to throw my thinking on a particular song out there.
Katy Perry's "Roar" is like a handbook of how to draw useless and ineffective boundaries.
(And yes, I've been wanting to say that out loud since August when the radio stations started playing it 40 times a day!
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Here's the lyrics for reference:
It's all bluster. If I were the one pushing Ms. Perry "past the breaking point", and she wrote this song just for me, my response would be to let her get the roaring out of her system and then go back to telling her what to do. 'Cause she's gonna do it...
If you need to draw a boundary with someone, quit yelling, quit roaring, quit pumping yourself up with 'eye of the tiger' (though, frankly, that's a much better song for the purpose because it has some action in it), just a simple 'no' will do. And back that 'no' up with your actions. Simple, though not necessarily easy, but there's no extra decibels required.
Ok, I'm done roaring now.
This is not a topic about marriage, really, but I know a couple of the ladies here keep up with 'what the kids are listening to these days', and we talk about boundaries a lot here, so I just wanting to throw my thinking on a particular song out there.
Katy Perry's "Roar" is like a handbook of how to draw useless and ineffective boundaries.
(And yes, I've been wanting to say that out loud since August when the radio stations started playing it 40 times a day!
)Here's the lyrics for reference:
It's all bluster. If I were the one pushing Ms. Perry "past the breaking point", and she wrote this song just for me, my response would be to let her get the roaring out of her system and then go back to telling her what to do. 'Cause she's gonna do it...
If you need to draw a boundary with someone, quit yelling, quit roaring, quit pumping yourself up with 'eye of the tiger' (though, frankly, that's a much better song for the purpose because it has some action in it), just a simple 'no' will do. And back that 'no' up with your actions. Simple, though not necessarily easy, but there's no extra decibels required.
Ok, I'm done roaring now.
