Give anger some time

[Sharky]

Well we've all been through it. If you haven't you'll soon be through it. There will be a time when you'll be boiling up and ready to blow your top off at someone. Today i learnt much from anger. Sometimes it pays to hold it in until it resides.

Just a minor conflict with my dad kinda nearly got out of hand. Well, i held my temper in for about 10 minutes. Sure, i really did want to let it all out right into his face but i held it in until things calmed down. Then i figured that i found out that the conflict (originally i thought it was my dads fault) was actually my fault. Had i burst out, i wouldv'e done some pretty nasty things and embarrased myself too.

God told us to be 'quick to listen, slow to speak slow to anger' (somewhere in John, can't remember so stop teasing me ). It's a good idea to take into heart as well. You'll never know when the next boom may cost you more than you bargained for .

So whenever you feel like exploding, just keep it in for a while. Give yourself some time to cool down and think things through. There's no point in getting angry when you can't think of anything except a ton of cuss words that never lead to any solution except an amplification of the conflict.

 

Oooh, i'm sounding a little more technical now .

 

[GraftMeIn]

What an awesome lesson Sharky! Thanks for sharing this with everyone. It truly is the little lessons like these that help us to grow. And yes we must all learn not to speak out in our anger. It's like playing into the devils hands when we do.

I thank the Lord for allowing you to share this with us.

 

[GodOwnsMe]

thanks Sharky !!!! whew I know that feeling !!

 

[carmen]

Thanks for the post Sharky.

Have been wondering whither to put this or not but decided to take the
plunge because an outsider view maybe able to pin-point something
I am unable to pin-point myself.

Had a friend a couple of years back who's children were not very well
behaved. In fact they did a lot of damage to our house, paint, wall paper,
radios, t.v, childrens toys, computer, c.ds, beating our family dog. You name
it they did it. Probably cost about 30,000 in damages.

Well I spoke to the women saying I was not happy with it. She assured
me the behaviour would change. Well no it was just words.

I got to the stage I had had enough. She was coming everyday and it
was taking about eight hours a day for two of us to clean the mess.
We are even talking toddles toilet messes etc on the floor. Well as she
arrived I prayed that God would guide me with what to say because I knew
I couldnt leave it the way it was.

My words were and I said it very respectful, calm, etc . Who do you think
you are to allow your children to disrespect peoples houses the way you do. I am sorry but I have to say you are not welcome here anymore.

She was alittle taken back not expecting it. But said o.k and went.

It has now been two years and I have not bumped into her. Which is weird in our little town.

But two years on wonder whither I could of said or reprove her in a different light. I know it has taken a long time overcome losing our dog because of it. Anger and unforgiveness was quite a daily occurence the
more we found as time went on the things we didn't know that were broken. Can anybody see why I still question myself.

 

[Sharky]

Originally posted by GraftMeIn
What an awesome lesson Sharky! Thanks for sharing this with everyone. It truly is the little lessons like these that help us to grow. And yes we must all learn not to speak out in our anger. It's like playing into the devils hands when we do.

I thank the Lord for allowing you to share this with us.

Defientely GMI! Uncontrolled anger if you look at it this way really doesn't provide anything benificial. Which is weird too considering that anger seems like the way to go. Anger, is a powerful tool that can be used for both good and evil and unfortunately most of the time we can be blinded by an anger flash which is important to watch your guage. Just another way the devil can tear people apart.

 

[Sharky]

Originally posted by carmen
Thanks for the post Sharky.

Have been wondering whither to put this or not but decided to take the
plunge because an outsider view maybe able to pin-point something
I am unable to pin-point myself.

Had a friend a couple of years back who's children were not very well
behaved. In fact they did a lot of damage to our house, paint, wall paper,
radios, t.v, childrens toys, computer, c.ds, beating our family dog. You name
it they did it. Probably cost about 30,000 in damages.

Well I spoke to the women saying I was not happy with it. She assured
me the behaviour would change. Well no it was just words.

I got to the stage I had had enough. She was coming everyday and it
was taking about eight hours a day for two of us to clean the mess.
We are even talking toddles toilet messes etc on the floor. Well as she
arrived I prayed that God would guide me with what to say because I knew
I couldnt leave it the way it was.

My words were and I said it very respectful, calm, etc . Who do you think
you are to allow your children to disrespect peoples houses the way you do. I am sorry but I have to say you are not welcome here anymore.

She was alittle taken back not expecting it. But said o.k and went.

It has now been two years and I have not bumped into her. Which is weird in our little town.

But two years on wonder whither I could of said or reprove her in a different light. I know it has taken a long time overcome losing our dog because of it. Anger and unforgiveness was quite a daily occurence the
more we found as time went on the things we didn't know that were broken. Can anybody see why I still question myself.

Good thing you took the calm way. She wouldv'e been hurt more than you wanted it to. 

 

[Gerry]

Not John, but close. It is James.

James 1:19 Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:

Below are some more supporting verses. GREAT job Sharky. What a lesson for us all!


Proverbs 15:18 A wrathful man stirreth up strife: but he that is slow to anger appeaseth strife.

Proverbs 16:32 He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.

 

[carmen]

Someones being praying. Thanks. God came through and answered
last night. Very complex so know wonder I never thought of it.

 

[Amy]

beating our family dog.

This always gets me. If I were in your shoes, Carmen, I KNOW I would have slapped those kids for it - hard. It seems that I can hold down my anger pretty well, until I see someone being cruel to animals. I guess it is something I should pray about.

 

[carmen]

True Amy took me quite a while to look at it that it was learn't behaviour
of a violent spirit passed down the family lines. And it was the devil who
had used this spirit against me. Not taking it personally, Understanding the root cause help me
to forgive people with anger problems. I just pray down the track that this
couple and their family will be the break through generation to break out from living under such a curse.