I just sometimes feel like God will not let me have a girlfriend. I want one and have asked a few out but there is always something blocking it. I just don't know...
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I'll tell you something. If you look for love you wont find it, but if you wait you will be suprised who the father sent for you. The lord is close to you when you are broken hearted, we need the father every single day, not just the hard ones. Pray about it, and find something to focus on that makes you feel better.
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Tjc2496
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I just sometimes feel like God will not let me have a girlfriend. I want one and have asked a few out but there is always something blocking it. I just don't know...
Yep, I completely know where you are coming from.... It can be tough, but I realize that my desire might not be what God wants for me.
I see all my friends dating, thinking wow wouldn't that be great, but really what good is it? They break up after usually 3-6 months, maybe longer, and all that is left is heartbreak. God is protecting me from the whole high school scene which I am thankful for.
Another question I would ask is, why do you want to date?
hypothetical situation: Yea, this girl she is great! She is really nice, smart, and pretty! I'd love to ask her out. She's a Christian and everything too! I'd love to just get to know her better.
hypothetical answer: Wow, she does sound like a nice girl. It's really great, but why do you have to date her to get to know her better? I mean what would you do with her if she was your girlfriend rather than just friend?
response: Well.. I mean obviously, if she was my girlfriend we could hold hands, or hug, etc... Well.. we'd be more emotionally intimate.. I could talk to her about anything and everything and we could sympathize to each other.
response: I see.... So the difference is, you can fulfill your emotional and physical desires with one and not the other? Even if you don't do that which I expect, when is the wedding date? Don't you think the point of dating is to find your spouse? If so and you are dating without that in mind, isn't that selfishness?
I found it either to make a situation to say what I think. I'm not saying that all high school dating is wrong. I'm saying what is your goal in mind for dating? Milking what God has planned for marriage is wrong.
If you got the whole mind set of a God-centered relationship, then I'd just say keep seeking God with all your heart, and eventually the right thing will happen.
God bless ya, and will be praying for you.
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Sailorgirl13
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Honestly, as teenagers we aren't really as in control of our emotions as adults are (theoretically). Our hormones are still going crazy (don't worry I'm not stating a whole puberty post). My point is that God knows our thought, feelings, desires, motives etc. and perhaps He is protecting you from any irrational or rash decisions. Maybe He's removing temptation for you.
There's a bible passage that comes to mind: "God will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear." I'm sorry, I can't remember what book or chapter and I can't find it!!
I'm not saying that you would make a rash decision, I'm just meaning God's helping you out by removing any possibility of it.
I agree with tjc above, you need a goal for what you want out of a relationship. I stuffed up a wonderful friendship because I let myself get pushed into it by peer pressure and didn't really think about why I wanted to be in a relationship. The boy in question was also a great person: smart, funny, Christian, old friend etc.
Dating is a way of finding a relationship for marriage and high school is really young to think about that (well it is in Australia). However I would say a God centred relationship is fine. I know a few couples at church who dated in high school and then married in their early twenties and now have children and are perfect for each other.
Overall, don't worry about it man, God's got things sorted - he knows his plan for you and i'm sure he's got the perfect girl lined up somewhere along the way
There's a bible passage that comes to mind: "God will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear." I'm sorry, I can't remember what book or chapter and I can't find it!!
I'm not saying that you would make a rash decision, I'm just meaning God's helping you out by removing any possibility of it.
I agree with tjc above, you need a goal for what you want out of a relationship. I stuffed up a wonderful friendship because I let myself get pushed into it by peer pressure and didn't really think about why I wanted to be in a relationship. The boy in question was also a great person: smart, funny, Christian, old friend etc.
Dating is a way of finding a relationship for marriage and high school is really young to think about that (well it is in Australia). However I would say a God centred relationship is fine. I know a few couples at church who dated in high school and then married in their early twenties and now have children and are perfect for each other.
Overall, don't worry about it man, God's got things sorted - he knows his plan for you and i'm sure he's got the perfect girl lined up somewhere along the way
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It's a tough one.
Think about if you like a girl/you're asking a girl out for the right reasons. Are you asking her out because you'd like to know her better? Are you asking her out because she's good looking? Or are you asking her out because you genuinely care about her?
I'm not saying the first two are wrong or anything. Attraction is one of the signs that a couple are meant to be together. But, for example, would you be willing to give her up for her to have a happy life? Maybe God is just shaping you so that you go out with a girl for the right reasons.
Or maybe the partner God wants for you just hasn't turned up in your life yet.
Think about if you like a girl/you're asking a girl out for the right reasons. Are you asking her out because you'd like to know her better? Are you asking her out because she's good looking? Or are you asking her out because you genuinely care about her?
I'm not saying the first two are wrong or anything. Attraction is one of the signs that a couple are meant to be together. But, for example, would you be willing to give her up for her to have a happy life? Maybe God is just shaping you so that you go out with a girl for the right reasons.
Or maybe the partner God wants for you just hasn't turned up in your life yet.
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What Tjc2496 hit the nail on the head as far as I'm concerned...
Why do you need to date while your not old enough to marry - as far as I see it, when you are dating, you are getting to know a person better, so you can decide whether you want to marry them.
In most cases, I would presume that in a "High-school" relationship, it would eventual come to an end, and not go any furthur, as in marrige, and at which time, it will be very sad... Why put yourself in a position where you *may* be opening yourself up to sadness and hurt?
Just my personal opinion - I know a Godly couple, who was dating at the age of 15, and are now in their mid 20's, but still, I believe what I said above is worth considering.
-John
Why do you need to date while your not old enough to marry - as far as I see it, when you are dating, you are getting to know a person better, so you can decide whether you want to marry them.
In most cases, I would presume that in a "High-school" relationship, it would eventual come to an end, and not go any furthur, as in marrige, and at which time, it will be very sad... Why put yourself in a position where you *may* be opening yourself up to sadness and hurt?
Just my personal opinion - I know a Godly couple, who was dating at the age of 15, and are now in their mid 20's, but still, I believe what I said above is worth considering.
-John
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It is, and if you consider not everyone's high school relationship(s) last throughout life, but if you both are really committed to each other and have enough self control, you both could remain godly and together until marriage. I for one am going to have to practice this.
Just another thought to consider.
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