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i have known her for 1 year but just theses last 3 months or so i started to like her

July 1st
Me and my budy where walking in the mall after we came from a movie and when we walked in they were by the phone next to the door 2 girls from youth, i like one of them we turned around and said hey , the one i liked was like smiling and like stuned looking like she did not know what to say, all she could say was *hey* *ya* and she asked if i was going to the church drama thing tonight.

after that we where we both said like *um ya*:o like 3 times lol like we where both stumped as to what to say, she has flirted with me before like holding on my shirt or looking in my eyes , do you think she likes me or what ?

July 5th
Well last night i was at youth tuedays is when we help the community and stuff anyways we where walking up the street to go to where we were going to, it was raining and the girl i like was standing waiting to cross the street and i put my Umbrella over her head so she would not get wet she kinda laphed and said thanks and smiled at me lol do you think that looked like i flirted with her ? :cool: then when we went back to the church we all kinda just hanged out for abit there was just like 4 guys and 2 girls there 1 of them was the girl i liked,

Then my friend asked if i still liked the same girl i did 4 months i said no, and turned my head to look at the girl i liked and she was like staring at me lol then she said should we leave for a min to let you guys talk.

after that i told her i wanted to gain like 30 pounds because i am abit skinny, then she said i hope its muscle and not fat , she said your good the way you are skinny :D do you think she likes me otherwise why would she care if i gained weight or not ? i have known her for about 1 year shes going away on a trip for 12 days in 2 weeks , i will see her like 4 times before she goes away how could i show her i like her with out telling her directly thanks for your help


July 8th
I like a girl at my youth group, she has given me some signs she likes me , but she allways stays with like her girl friends at youth like the 5 of em congergate together so its hard to talk to her .

The girl i like, i think got one of the girls to walk by and put a hat on my head because after her friend did it, she turned around and gave me a big smile before she walked thou the door.

and when i walked over to talk to her when all her friends where around her they all smiled at me and gave me that look and i guess i kinda choked up and did not talk to her :sigh:, i told one of the girls from youth i liked her but she said she would not tell her so i dont know if she did or not.

30 of us When we where playing some game on the floor we all had to sit back to each another and move up everytime on each side of the line when some one won,

well when i moved up to her i dont know if she layed her back aganst me or i did to her but we stayed like that for 1 min before she moved up if she did not like me would she of just moved her back away from mine ?

so anyway i need to find a way to talk to her more any ideas ?



 

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You need, in my opinion, to quit trying to play out subtleties. If you really think she might be someone you want to marry, act on that. Don't try to scout around trying to find out if she likes you because she happened to look and smile at you once or something. A relationship that culminates in marriage is not based on things like that.... or shouldn't be :)
 
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Not to be ugly but what do you want us to say? :scratch:
You have posted a couple of other posts like this here in the Singles and in the Teen forum. Several people have given you some great advice on not looking for signs but communication is important. :angel:

Find out what her interests are by talking with her. Make you a list of things you can talk about so when you get stumped you can look to give you a new topic if need be. Another thing you can do have other people around like a group setting to help the convo till you are more comfortable around her.
 
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I agree with ^Redthat'sMe

I think communication is important and expressing yourself in the right way is important (not like me - because I just have to improve on my expression skills)

But - anyway - take Paul's advise as well - I think both of them are really good.

I personally had no experience in dating or flirting - but my advise is to show her indirectly how much you do want to be with her.
 
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winglovesall said:
but my advise is to show her indirectly how much you do want to be with her.

Guys, let's cut the indirect stuff huh? It can create so much confusion that leads to heartache and feeble relationships. Be outright. Tell her directly that you would like to pursue her. Do not let your fear of rejection stop you. You can't let fear hinder your actions. Just step up to the plate bud, I know you can do it.
 
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I agree. It's important that you speak out what you like and what you dislike about each other.

I've been challenged to change and like, people speak out what dislike about me and I pray and I just ask the Lord whether I should make a move - I am a whole lot different to the person I was a few weeks ago.
 
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Guys, let's cut the indirect stuff huh? It can create so much confusion that leads to heartache and feeble relationships. Be outright. Tell her directly that you would like to pursue her. Do not let your fear of rejection stop you. You can't let fear hinder your actions. Just step up to the plate bud, I know you can do it.
Wonderful post, though I would add just a little bit to it.

If you aren't ready to actually "pursue" her fully, then DON'T pursue her at all. :)
 
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winglovesall said:
I agree. It's important that you speak out what you like and what you dislike about each other.

I've been challenged to change and like, people speak out what dislike about me and I pray and I just ask the Lord whether I should make a move - I am a whole lot different to the person I was a few weeks ago.

Yeah pray that the Lord to help you to conform to the Lord's will and obey Him. And that I also am different from other people it seems.
 
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Yep, that's right - the step that you change is really important - it's your choice - and you could choose not to take that step or to take that step -

Being different is perfectly fine - I am different - I am a lot different to others - some would comment on me being "weird" (I accept it - including my family) - and that's why human beings are so special - God created us to learn about acceptance with each other!
 
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