I am getting remarried in 2 months to a wonderful man that I love dearly. I have a 11 year old and a 9 year old that I have not told yet. I dont know how they are going to handle it. Pray that God gives me the right words to tell my kids and they accept it fine.
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Getting remarried and pray for my kids
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Don't marry a man your kids don't like. It will ruin your life. Any happiness you have with this man will be greatly outweighed by the unhappiness of your children and the unhappy relationship with them that it will create.
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My kids do like him, but its not DADDY! I have joint custody with my ex-husband and we both have the kids 50/50. They do have a good relationship with him, I just dont know how they will react when they realize that mommy is getting married again and they have to share. My kids are the love of my life and a great blessing from God. My ex-husband has since remarried and they are fine with her. I just dont know how to tell my kids that mommy is getting married again...................
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I think your children will be fine with it.
My wife had a 13 year old son when I married her. We get along wonderfully. If you, your children, and your new husband all love Jesus Christ, then you and your new family will be blessed.
My wife had a 13 year old son when I married her. We get along wonderfully. If you, your children, and your new husband all love Jesus Christ, then you and your new family will be blessed.
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They know the normal state of being for adults is to be in a marriage. As long as your future husband is a good and godly man who loves your children like they were his own, everything will be fine. I've seen a lot of blended families, and the ones where the stepfather loves the children like his own work very well. My sister remarried and her present husband is a better father to her son than his natural father is.A6A4 said:
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Praying for you. I also was remarried had 3 children. It is a big step. but 25 years later we are still married... 6 children and now 7 grandchildren.
So Congratulations!
So Congratulations!
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praying the Lord bless you with the wisdom, grace and courage to tell you children. And bless you with a happy, God loving family.
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I hesitated to comment...but feel I should. I feel very strongly about this because I have seen so many children hurt by remarriages. I am not so concerned about you, you are an adult, but you are making a decision that will profoundly affect your children for the rest of their lives. It will either be a very good thing or a very bad thing. It will not be neutral.
I think remarriage to someone else when you have young children is a VERY serious decision and is often a tragic mistake. Notice, it is not always a mistake.
You need to know this man much better than you knew your first husband. Obviously, you didn't know the first husband well enough or he would not have left. You have two children now that need you, they may also need him. But if you make a mistake on this marriage it will be MUCH worse for your children.
I am going to ask some questions. If you do not know the answer, and I mean KNOW. If there is any reason to doubt, then don't do it.
Do you know that he is a man of his word? In other words does he stick by his committments? Have you seen him in situations where it hurt him to keep his word but he did it any way even if it cost him? If he shows ANY equivocation when it comes to committments that he has made...you will end up divorced from him as well.
Is there ANY possibility that this man abuses children? You need to look into his past and call people up. This means that you need to find out about people he may not have told you about. So often I have seen women accept everything their beau tells them as the absolute truth...it is USUALLY not the case. Most of us have skeletons in our closet...some are worse than others. You need to know what his skeletons are and decide if you can deal with them. That means you will have to go behind his back and do some investigation, even hire someone if need be. If that sounds deceitful to you then you are not mentally ready to get married. YOU OWE THIS LEVEL OF INVESTIGATION TO YOUR CHILDREN.
Has he shown you ANY reason to believe he may have a problem with anger? All men are on their best behavior when we are courting. Women like to take men at face value...to their peril.
Is he divorced as well? If so, you need to find out everything you can about why that previous marriage fell apart. Don't just accept his word for it. Talk to his former wife and find out her story, it may be very different.
I think remarriage to someone else when you have young children is a VERY serious decision and is often a tragic mistake. Notice, it is not always a mistake.
You need to know this man much better than you knew your first husband. Obviously, you didn't know the first husband well enough or he would not have left. You have two children now that need you, they may also need him. But if you make a mistake on this marriage it will be MUCH worse for your children.
I am going to ask some questions. If you do not know the answer, and I mean KNOW. If there is any reason to doubt, then don't do it.
Do you know that he is a man of his word? In other words does he stick by his committments? Have you seen him in situations where it hurt him to keep his word but he did it any way even if it cost him? If he shows ANY equivocation when it comes to committments that he has made...you will end up divorced from him as well.
Is there ANY possibility that this man abuses children? You need to look into his past and call people up. This means that you need to find out about people he may not have told you about. So often I have seen women accept everything their beau tells them as the absolute truth...it is USUALLY not the case. Most of us have skeletons in our closet...some are worse than others. You need to know what his skeletons are and decide if you can deal with them. That means you will have to go behind his back and do some investigation, even hire someone if need be. If that sounds deceitful to you then you are not mentally ready to get married. YOU OWE THIS LEVEL OF INVESTIGATION TO YOUR CHILDREN.
Has he shown you ANY reason to believe he may have a problem with anger? All men are on their best behavior when we are courting. Women like to take men at face value...to their peril.
Is he divorced as well? If so, you need to find out everything you can about why that previous marriage fell apart. Don't just accept his word for it. Talk to his former wife and find out her story, it may be very different.
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